Is it right that I stopped having sex until he start using condoms?

He knows that I am allergic to birth control pills, IUD caused me health problems and contraceptive patches didn’t work. I talked to him about and not wanting to have a baby now, yet he ignores me and he wants to continue having sex without using condoms so he can enjoy. Pull out method isn’t 100% safe and i am getting sick of this conversation. Yesterday he wanted to have sex and I refused and I told him we won’t until he start using condoms.
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  • You guys need to come to an agreement some how.
    Condom is a very safe way to not get pregnet, but it can't compare whit the pleasure of doing it bareback.
    Your argument is justified.
    I think you would be right in this situation.
    But even I don't like the idea of using a condom with my girlfriend.
    I do prefer to pull out.
    Personally, I would break up with you. I don't like sex with a condom and I'm not afraid of a pregnancy, I would take responsibility.
    I hate to stop him or her from the moment of pleasure to sit to open the envelope, to place the condom correctly, to take care of how it sits on me. Too much hassle, especially for the uncircumcised.

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  • (1) Bloodstained Men & Their Friends Facebook he is mutilated, and thus he has rectial disfuction, meaning condums are trash, he can not feel any plasure, unlike a intact man. sorry but the jewish people /muslims and cathlics, choped his dick.
    your going to have issues with the relation ship for sex is a factor,
    he can restore his dick but it won't be truly restored, and it takes 10 years to fully recover,
    i hope he dose restor, and have better sex, cus really, bad sex, ruins relationships

Most Helpful Girls

  • Stand your ground! If he really respects you and loves you, he’ll understand and agree to use condoms when you have sex. If he doesn’t want to sleep with you with condoms, maybe you should consider finding a new boyfriend who respects you like a good man should.

  • Yes. Sexual relationships are for both people to enjoy in a respectful atmosphere. If he isn't willing to respect you on something that simple, nothing guarantees you he won't disappear if things go wrong.
    Just play safe, and if he leaves, better for you.

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  • Stand your ground.
    He might have some underlying reason OTHER than how it feels. Maybe he WANTS to knock you up.
    If this is a short term relationship, find the EXIT sign.
    If he doesn't respect your wants and needs, he doesn't respect YOU.
    Find someone who does.

  • If you want him to use the condoms, then yes. He should be respectful of your wishes. If he doesn’t want to do that, then hold out until he has a change of attitude. I’ve used the pull out method myself in the past and had good luck with it but it doesn’t take a genius to see how easy it would be for him to slip up and get you pregnant. Don’t ever be afraid to stand up for yourself.

  • Yeah. No glove, no love. If he will do that he's likely the kind of irresponsible dick as will get you pregnant then vanish. You need someone respects you.

  • Completely right.

  • If he cannot respect that, then you shouldn't even be with him.

    Honestly, he's not worth it.

  • YES. Hold your ground. Stick to your moral code.

  • You stand you ground girl. You spit on. If he really cares for you and loves you he will do what he can to ensure you are comfortable and feel safe

  • Yeah that’s correct approach.

    on birth control pills, have you went through them all, or tried injection etc?
    He has zero choice in the matter.
    pull out is just stupid.

  • Yes of course it's all right you need to understand something it's your body it has to be your way you're the one that carries that baby it has to be your way you make the rules if he makes compromise it's that simple

  • Good for you girl. Stick to your position.

  • Given the circumstances, he has to use a condom, if he want "penis in vagina" sex. Plain and simple. Oral sex and mutual masturbation won't get anyone pregnant. But if he wants intercourse he's got to wrap that thing!!

  • You're totally right!!!
    If he can't use condoms, he has to do the research and find the right ones for his dick.
    It's all about having a good fit and that's his job to do.

  • Yes you did the right thing! Hold your ground.

    • Mind following me? @Smashingdoozy?

    • No thanks

    • @Amazing why would you want to follow her she looks like a psycho, high maintenance all that stuff. you don't have to go up in the tree to pick the fruit usually a falls to the ground easier to pick up.

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  • Your in the right. Your trying to be careful without harming yourself, a condom unless he or you has some sort of allergy isn't going to hurt anyone.

  • 100% support what you did

    • Hopefully it will work

    • Hopefully he won't trick you and take it out mid way neither

  • yeah because its just unsafe and you could get pregnant

  • I would do the same. Stand your ground girl. Tell him you're not being pressured into having sex. Good on you for not giving in.

  • You may absolutely demand he use a condom for sex. This however is a big change in your sexual and by extension relationship dynamics.

    Because of this change, he would be fully within his rights to refuse to have sex with you or even exit the relationship entirely.

    If you unilaterally change the relationship dynamics, he can not be blamed for responding to that change as he sees fit.

  • Yeah. If you want him to wrap up the meat thermometer, then that’s what he needs to do.

  • Well at the current state of you not wanting to have kids right now then I believe that you did the right thing.

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