Is it still lust if I do this?

[Anonymous]

So me and my boyfriend have had sex before marriage, during High school. I’m now in college ( freshman ) and he’s about to enter college. I’ve felt bad for it and I’ve repented for having sex before marriage. I promised God I won’t have it again until I’m married. However, me and my boyfriend DONT have penetrative sex, oral, anal sex but we do masturbate together, and we get all touchy feeling if you know what I mean with no clothes on. However, I’m working on not thinking lustful thoughts while doing so. And if anything I’m trying to not do any of this anymore until I’m married. Is it being lustful?

[Mary087]

I’m all for being Christian and following god’s morals but I didn’t wait for marriage because I don’t believe it’s right that I should let my religion keep me from doing something enjoyable and hot as sex is a fun, steamy, pleasuring act and I respect people who wait for marriage but I honestly couldn’t do it man… I’m a sexual being and it’s my business and I know the lord will punish me since I chose to have sex out of wedlock with 2 random guys but I didn’t hurt anyone in this life, I am not a cruel person,& just a chill girl living her life. But hey you follow your heart if you truly feel guilty having sex before marriage but there are many many couples who had happier marriages I’m sure because they explored their intimate sides beforehand. I couldn’t marry a guy without seeing if I was compatible with him intimately. I grew up in a religious home with my dad being strict and pushing purity so much, I got fed up with it. At the end of the day it’s our body to make that decision and it’s pretty disgusting if other people care so much about our sex lives too. Just live your life and do what makes you happy. God can forgive you as long as you don’t hurt his people.

[Daniela1982]

In my opinion, yes. If it looks and walks like a fuck it's a fuck.

[RealMarek]

Let’s be real. If you and your boyfriend are masturbating together, it is obvious that sexual thoughts and desire are involved. I understand the tension with your religious beliefs, but do you really think that you are fooling God by walking some fine line between no sexual activity and too much? Wouldn’t it be better to just accept that you’re unable or unwilling to meet the standards of your religion in this regard?

[Dragonstarterplus]

So you've decided to cut your man off from sex and blowjobs at a whim when he has no legal obligation with you, and you think this is going to make him to marry you more and be legally bound to you?

[stark04]

Just have sex already!! God or the Bible shouldn't affect your personal private business. Are you sure you gonna marry a Virgin guy if you stay Virgin? If you're horny, have sex. And focus on career too. Don't let religious beliefs ruin your desires.

[lostmap]

Proverbs 3:5-6 “Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight.”

[Mary087]

@stark04 nice comment. Totally agree!

[stark04]

Why would he gave us brains when he's the one who's gonna guide us how to live "our lives"? Bible is for sanity, for your faith in yourself to get things done, for tough times to hold on. It's not a manual to live live your life in fear following everything is said. He doesn't mind us living our lives in anyways we want, ask him if you don't believe me. 😌

[NathanDavis]

if the next you masturbate... you do it with your fingers crossed... then it doesn't count, you don't mean it so is not lust

[20yearsolder]

Simple answer to your question is absolutely. Enjoy each other, God will forgive you. I don't believe in religion but if you do then your God will forgive your sins. He died for your sins.

[UniquelyBasic]

Do what feels right to you and dont feel bad about having sex before marriage. Sex is a very normal part of life and a beautiful act that two people can share with eachother.

[helva]

I think so.

[Gimmesomegandb]

Offer him a three some or many man ducking

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Don't torture yourself like that. Just get married now and built yourself lives together.

[Twalli]

Why is lustig after your boyfriend a bad thing?

[EnglishEuropean]

Here's an interesting question: If God doesn't want us to be lustful why did he give us a strong sex drive? Anyways the sooner you guys get married the sooner you can stop sinning.

[andylakes9]

Can you pm me about this?

[lostmap]

The Bible defined marriage as a covenant. Becoming 1 flesh within the two, and being together till death. The Bible also talks about, the woman being property, and "virginity checks". Here's a way to think about it, is for you, or for each of you to get closer?

[lostmap]

With what I've ment with my previous statement. The Bible, was written at a time, where things then could not apply now, such as no selfish and not wearing two different fabrics. Marriage then isn't the same as a Modern marriage. It's becoming one, growing closer to God.