Is it to lose virginity before marriage?

Correct me if I'm wrong:I think it's very normal to lose virginity in younger ages like 16-19 in Western Culture. My culture believes that one should be virgin until marriage? Why people there (western countries) are normal with this? Why they like to lose virginity before marriage? I want to know the good and bads of having sex before marriage.. Is it ok to marry one who is not virgin and have done sex a lot with a lot of partners?
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Most Helpful Girls

  • Virginity doesn't have as much value as it used to, and that can be considered a good thing. Virginity is basically saying your value as a person is more or less depending on whether or not you have had sexual intercourse. It's okay to marry someone who has had sex, it's also okay to not want to marry someone who has had sex. Also, the definition of virginity is very loose depending on the person. Some think virginity depends on if the woman's hymen is broken, if a penis has entered the vagina, or if anything has entered or come into contact with sexual organs. Virginity is innocence and some people value it more than others. If you have sex before marriage, you may increase your chances of getting an STD, but you can also find out if you're sexually compatible with your partner.

    • How if we practice safe sex? is it okay to marry one who is not virgin and have done sex a lot in past? Does it mean that they can/will cheat us once we are into monigamoys relationship?

    • *monogamous

    • Safe sex is always a good idea, it's best to use birth control and condoms if you can. In my opinion it's okay to marry someone who is not a virgin because it doesn't define who they are. Having sex doesn't make anyone more likely to cheat, if they've cheated in the past they're more likely to cheat.

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  • Yes, it's okay to lose your virginity before getting married. This way you can have some experience before you settle down and you won't wonder what it will be like to sleep with someone else besides your partner. You can completely devote your life and love to one person even if you aren't a virgin.

    • But that doesn't mean that the person is not loyal to her/his partner? Because she/he has done sex with someone else which is considered wring when the same thing happen after monogamous marriage?

    • Once you commit yourself to another person everything becomes different.

    • Sorry being ignorant, isn't one's virginity is/must deserved for the husband /wife?

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  • I think all lot of people here are forgetting the fact that when you do finally settle down after marriage, it won't be as special as you'd like because you did it with someone else

    • So you are telling it is not okay?

    • I mean if people want to do it before getting married then whatever. It's actually inevitable. It's how this generation thinks you know? Most of the time any time you're romantic with a boyfriend or girlfriend you will have sex no matter what, unless the couple is okay with waiting. A lot of people don't even want to get married. At least not in the Western culture

    • How if the girl/boy is married to another and the one (their ex) talk about the sex they had? Like tell others and more?

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Most Helpful Guy

  • Well sex is losing its taboo in western culture so it's not perceived as bad to not be a virgin. Obviously the middle east/sw Asian cultures are still highly religious so sexual activity is frowned upon.
    When you have multiple sex partners you learn different techniques and ways to please your partner so by experience you become a better lover. You don't need to have that experience to have a fulfilling sex life but it certainly isn't going to hurt your chances.

    • Isn't that eventhough you gain experience it's like not giving your special body to your perfect one? And ot is not confirm that she/he will stay true for the husband/wife?

    • I don't think there is a perfect one or soul mate. And I don't think that having a sexual past has anything to do divorce or infidelity. Virgin marriages end in divorce they just tend to have lower divorce rates because they're in highly religious relationships.

    • Owh okay.. by the way may I know why it is considered taboo of having sex before marriage? I don't know the reason but i know that it is not encouraged in my culture

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  • I did.

  • I was raised to wait, but I wound up losing it before I married. I am fine with that.

  • I was 17 when I lost it.

  • Yes...

    • Why? Doesn't that mean that the person is not loyal to his/her future husband/wife?

    • I meant that you can have sex with someone who has had sex before.

    • Is it ok to have to marry someone who had sex before marriage (with other) Doesn't that mean that the person is not loyal to us.. Because when have dated a lot in past ean she s easily breakable and fall for others easily