Is it too late for me to be a man?

Question

I'm 28 I transitioned when I was 14 and I've been living as a girl since and I started hormones at 15 so I never finished puberty but now at 28 I feel like I'll never be happy and have the life I want with a handsome husband and our sweet little babies because men have been so mean to me I don't love them or believe in them anymore so I wish I could have a beautiful wife and sweet little babies and I never got the surgery so I still have my weenie but I don't know how to be a man and I'm scared no woman will want me now anyway since I have the body of a feminized boy with gynocemastia instead of a 28 year old man and now I'm sad because nobody will ever love me and I'll never have a happy family like I always dreamed of!!! :'(

Effably · Accepted Answer

Of course it is not too late. Realistically it will be at a handicap. Your handicap is however generic and the solutions readily available. The benefit of you having lived life differently are unique. It is still ultimately a disadvantage but nowhere near hopeless.

Now that said I think that based solely on what you wrote? This is dumb. Incredibly dumb. I do not use the same word twice lightly. It is dumb beyond reason though. Thrice I suppose.

You're swapping your gender back and forth to be loved? You can have whatever reason you want but is how other people view and interact with you really the best reason to transition, one way or the other? You have to deal with extensive psychiatry here before being allowed to transition (and having the process paid for). I don't think you'd pass with this reasoning. Where are you in this?

If it is just about wanting to be loved or have society be nice to and care about you? Sorry to say but odds are much higher as a woman. But choosing to be a woman for the statistically easier care and consideration? That is making too light of a serious thing. Maybe you just phrased it wrong. But your romantic success or lack thereof should not be the main cause driving this and if it is you have more serious issues than what you present as.

Mac-One · Accepted Answer

Be content with your body as it is. Bodies of both guys and gals come in various sizes and shapes. Having a feminized body with small breasts and other features should not prevent you from being a guy if that is your choice. Having a penis could be a detriment to living as a woman but not having a vagina would only prevent you having sexual intercourse with a guy. You always felt that you should be a woman so if that is still your choice you have to find a way to be content with that.

I always felt that it would be great to have female genitals (not necessarily with a vagina and uterus) and small breasts with other feminine features; with the flexibility to pass as either a gal or guy. Currently I find my male genitals to be annoying, inconvenient and unnecessary; and could be totally content with a female urethra, labia, clit, and even small breasts. I could live comfortably under my present circumstances and have the ability to present as either guy or gal given the circumstances.

Daniela1982 · Accepted Answer

I've seen this before where someone transitioned from one sex to another and then regretted it and wanted to transition back again. For one thing Eliza, you could only adopt a child since you have no uterus. So no matter what you end up as you can still have a child. Unless you are planning to transition to a full female, you may have trouble finding a guy, as you have said. Exactly what were your plans from the start, and what are they now? Are you going to do the full Monty, complete with vagina, or are you going to keep your dick? Because I don't understand why you would think you would be happy as a she male. Guys might accept you more if you did choose to go the rest of the way, but I'm guessing most guys don't want a girl with a dick. So, what's the plan here?

Aerissa_Jade · Accepted Answer

It is your life and your future, if what you are doing now isn't working. Try it differently, or try going back.

You can't make others change for you or do things how you want, you need to change and do things to get to your goals and what you want in life. Plan for the big picture and take steps towards that.

Irishgirl02 · Answer

Unfortunately you will never really be the sex you desire no matter how many hormones you take or surgery you get. Just like I at 4ft10 will never be of normal height.

Perverted_Creep · Answer

There are women who transition into passable Male-To-Female transitioners. Dwayne Johnson is an example of a woman on trenbolone.

That means, you can definitely with the use of hormones and surgery remove all the fat and be a man again.

Berethor · Answer

It shows how confused transgenders are, you can still have a family if you have a dick, so not too late in that sense, but the hormones made you not masculine enough, how tall are you? most women prefer a tall man, you can try be a bishonen, it's pretty popular among Asians.

Summeroflove · Answer

No it’s not too late. Many people regret transitioning later in life. This is why it’s not good to do this.  Many people have deteiansitioned Especially permanent mutalating children permanently

Dargil · Answer

A question for an MD. My guess is no, but you will have done permanent damage.

misogynistic_pig · Answer

As long as you have money, it's never too late to be a man.

rienna888 · Answer

go back to how you were

Juxtapose · Answer

There are plenty of websites where there are legions of men who would climb over each other to get to you. I would date somebody who looks like you and don't mind that you were born a man.

Shamalien · Answer

Sad truth is that most men who would date a trans person are just in it for sexual reasons. The true love family shit is what a man will give to a woman. I don’t think it’s too late to detransition. I believe you still have time to forge the life you want :)

Preeti161101 · Answer

Not late

msc545 · Answer

That may or may not be medically possible but it sounds like it probably is. Whether or not it's psychologically advisable is a whole different story. I have a feeling that even if you transition back to being a man successfully you will find that women want nothing to do with you. You will be facing the same problems that 70 to 80% of men in the United States face regarding relationships with women, that is, unless you are in the upper 10 to 20% of men in terms of height and wealth and appearance most women will just simply ignore you. that does not seem particularly desirable and in fact it may be much worse than the situation you have now where in you say men will have nothing to do with you. in the end, like many of us, you may just simply have to adjust to being alone, I'm sorry I know this is painful.

Amur8711 · Answer

That is what that industry hides from you. I'm sorry you were tricked into all this. All they wanted was your money and now they will be getting your money your entire life because of the problem they created for you to have to be dependent on them to live.

Krystal23 · Answer

Of course someone will love you! I’m sure you’re beautiful and if this is something you really want to do have a husband and kids then do it. Don't transition back because you feel as if you have to to get your happy ending. There are other alternatives such as adoption. Men love transgender women but are scared to admit it because they are stuck in the closet still 😂 be proud of yourself! Have a think about it don’t rush into any decisions 😊