Guys, is it true most of you prefer a virgin girl?

[Anonymous]

[TheorionMage]

NOT necessarily BUT...
most every male I've spoken candidly with on the grounds of anonymity, attests one of their secret 'bucket list' fantasies is to have provided some pretty young thing (and 'young' in BOTH senses of the word) her very FIRST sexual initiation ending in racking convulsive multiple climaxes!
(Don't BE self-conscious, your 'Orgasm face' is GORGEOUS as are your involuntary gasps and mewings when you lose self-control!

Don't TRY to act worldly and 'sophisticated'... shoot for being the unself-conscious happy, horny little hottie you TRULY CAN be! Trust me... he'll LOVE it! Clawing his back and love bites are optional)

Common sense dictates the likelihood of this happening is about the same as that Publisher's Clearing House prize patrol van rolling up unannounced outside your residence. SO many variables, too many to enumerate here.

The likelihood of her Swain possessing BOTH the empathy and commensurate skills to overcome her nascent reticence and for him to set aside his OWN rapacious randy appetite WHILE employing pragmatic birth control.

While SOME anticipatory excitement is but logical, irrational fears of long term consequences is a HUGE damper upon her enjoyment. As Billy Joel crooned: "Only the Good Die Young" and Rod Stewart's "First Cut is the Deepest" .

Its only human nature that if the FIRST experience is both painful and forced, any second such encounter will be to be avoided; however... IMAGINE HER ENTHUSIASM if One's FIRST time rocks her world AND... the memory of YOU, is forever attached TO that! Your male EGO will be bigger than your genitals! A most laudable legacy!!! (No pressure~)

And girls, FORGET HIS FEELINGS and satisfaction THIS time. Its ALL ABOUT YOUR PLEASURE!

Do NOT... repeat DO NOT keep silent! HONESTLY, tell him/her what DOES and more importantly DOES NOT feel good. The second-most function of human sexuality is the COMMUNICATION of feelings;
DO NOT 'fake' them! You ONLY cheat yourself 'faking' climax~

The loss of 'innocence' in many of the world's religions is a sacrament and equivalent to the Christian's First Communion (I'm a legally-ordained Minister of the American Tantric Church)

[Turrorrr]

there is one really important statement - the more unsecure and frustrated man is, the more he will gravitate towards "untouched" girls.
if he does not consider himself comfortable, he will most likely get scared of sexually experienced women. and he would panic they might fuck some other guy.

i wouldn't say i dont like virgins, but would have in mind that sex will probably not be great the first two times and with very slow progress. but if i was interested in a relationship, why not.

it is similar as attending dance classes where you know some basics and your partner doesn't. if you love him, it will still be fun

[Effably]

This is very far down the list of what I would care about in a partner.

If I had to choose I'd prefer a non-virgin. For several reasons. While it is special to be someone's first that also means they have nothing else to compare to. I'd prefer to know I am her ultimate choice no matter what and her knowing what others have to offer is an integral part of knowing if I am the right one for her.

Plus if it is less serious then virginity is more like training-wheels. Its special helping someone get them off but it isn't going to rock your world pushing their four-wheel bike forward.

[Bandit74]

I don't really get how her being a non-virgin would imply that you are her "ultimate choice". Like couldn't she just be settling for you out of convenience after the previous guys cheated or dumped her?

[Effably]

She could of course. However I find it much easier to gauge interest now than interest in the future. Understanding my partner is really my strongest side, perhaps not a strong one, but my strongest. Besides that, I really only date women I think are awesome. If I hold such high thoughts of them then surely they can get more or less anyone. Settling has never been a concern I have ever had to pay any attention to. Settling would also be as relevant regardless of V-card.

[Bandit74]

Did you mean to say interest now than in the past? Otherwise I'm not sure what you mean by interest in the future. "then surely they can get more or less anyone." Can't say I see things the same way, but I can respect that attitude. I agree that settling is relevant in both cases, but not sure I agree that it is equally as relevant.

[Effably]

I do respect your opinion and we can always debate how relevant settling is in each case. As long as we admit it is still a thing I am happy though. I did mean in the future. I feel confident understanding how important I am to someone in the present. If I am someone's first I feel less confident knowing if I will retain that level of importance. Will she realize how awesome I am without having experienced someone less awesome? That is my present vs future dilemma. Either way, this is very far down the list of what is important to me in a relationship. I'd rate her ability to order takeout more important. And that too barely matters. Certainly not part of my "criteria".

[Bandit74]

Dont want to go down the rabbit hole on this but yeah I aknowledge it's a risk in either case, just not necessarily equal in my eyes. I also aknowledge there are other factors too aside from just virgin/non-virgin. So does that mean the more people she has slept with prior to you the better and the more convinced you are that she views you as the "most awesome"?

[Effably]

Haha, oh I am sure that if we go into some rounds of X or Y we'll find some arbitrary ideal number for me. I'd rather have the number be single or double digits than four digits for example. So surely arguing the principle of more is always better isn't my preference. After all at some point we do ask ourselves why the number is what it is. I agree and disagree with the increase in number making me more awesome. In a sense, absolutely! In another sense you do wonder why the exact number is suddenly 10342. But more so than the number being an issue I feel we would be likely to have quite different lifestyles. That would pose a larger problem than a body count.

[Bandit74]

lol , if it was 10342 I would probably assume she dabbled in prostitution. So how about this, would you be equally as convinced that you are the most awesome if she had been with 17 vs 3?

[Effably]

Neither of those pose any problem at all and I wouldn't care which it is. Genuinely.

[Bandit74]

But based on what you said shouldn't 17 be better since she's had even more points of comparison to know she's made the right choice by picking you? Or do you only really care that the number is >0?

[Effably]

I think you're missing the major point. The point is not that more or less defaults to better but that your partner has experience to know what they want. I also have repeatedly stated that this is by no means an important thing to me. Where that experience would be sufficient is not a fixed line or something I can state for someone else. It may be three. It may be seventeen. Therefore seventeen may be better than three but it also may be even. Making a clear distinction between two mostly identical options feels forced. I furthermore acknowledged prior that it probably can be done if interested enough and established that I am not. I also very well rejected the principle of more is better. I also still gave a perfunctory reply despite us both knowing it had already been answered once before. So basically, why are we redoing two already considered and answered points for no purpose at all? I am tired so forgive me if it comes out as blunt or offensive but surely this can't be considered a meaningful exchange?

[Bandit74]

ok fair enough.

[PrudentGuy]

TBH, after my experience with my SO (we took each other's virginity away), I would say I prefer non virgin.

But this does not mean the girl has high body count.

If it were my choice, she has years of regular sex with one or at most two partners.

Such girls are my ideal.

[Asker]

This is mostly why i want a non virgin guy in return because guys with experience want a girl with experience and im reading this more and it seems more common. But what experienced guys should realize is sometimes girls dont have it happen right away :(

[Asker]

I mean a virgin guy. My bad!

[PrudentGuy]

Yet again, I regretted guys lack self control. Yes, almost every guy want sex before even knowing the girl well. I try my best not to be such. Sex or no sex, I enjoy socialising with people. I can cook, play musical instrument, enjoys musicals, and can play a game of mahjong. If the girl is willing, we can become very good platonic friends too. Ya, I may not want to have sex with virgins. But that doesn't mean we cannot be business partners or band quintet or choir singing the Phantom of the Opera!

[OlderAndWiser]

At my age? That is not an available option!

[Everyoneisplastic]

Yeah, guys like virgins for an assortment of reasons. Some guy like virgins cause they're a tight fit, others because they want to take innocence. I want a virgin because I want a girl who's willing to wait and for the right time/guy.

[summiter]

I have been fortunate to have been the first for two former girlfriends. I considered it an honor and was very gently and went slow. However I do not prefer a virgin over a non-virgin. It is your body not the guys. Make sure it is the right guy, at the right time in your life.

[godfatherfan]

100% false. Never be a woman's first... or last...

[Berethor]

Yes, especially for a serious relationship, and there is biological reasons for that.

https://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/MamasBabyPapasMaybe

[AndyOh]

No, I actually prefer a woman who has a little experience under her belt. I don't want to have to start from zero and have to teach her everything, let alone deal with how she feels about things. Plus, I like a little variety in the bedroom; meaning not just vanilla sex. So a woman who knows what sex is and enjoys it is what I am looking for.

[Bad_Man55]

I don't think so.. in my opinion it doesn t matter what the sexual experience is if I'm into her then thats what matters

[slatyb]

No it isn't