Is it true that guys have an out of control sex drive? ... or are others correct that it is women that top the list on this one?

[laurieluvsit]

Many think that men are akin to wild beasts of the field and are unable to control their sex drive.

My view is that men are just men.

Here is why I feel sorry for them, because guys were created with a high sex drive which has to do with procreation. If it weren't that way, the human race could become extinct.

So guys need sex or some way to relieve their strong sexual desires, urges and instincts that they were naturally born with.

Females on the other side are concerned about who they have sex with even more and so for the most part are very particular about which guy they choose. Women have many requirements first that the man must meet before she will bed with him.

Now you see why prostitution is so popular and in such high demand and has been since life on earth began. It's not called "The World's Oldest Profession" for nothing, not to mention the over-the-top demand for porn world wide.

What is your take on Men's high sex drive and the reason for it? ... or could it be that I am wrong and it is women that have the higher sex drive?

Share your opinion on this important topic, Please!

[MrOracle]

WARNING: Generalization in progress! Yes, exceptions exist!

It's not QUITE as simple as that, and so in my opinion you can't make direct comparisons between men and women. Here's why:

(Most) men can separate sex from love/emotional connections, while (most) women can't. This means that men can have sex with a woman whether or not he has romantic feelings for her, while women usually (with exceptions acknowledged) need a romantic connection - even if only in her own mind - before she feels comfortable having sex with a guy.

To put that another way, because men don't REQUIRE "feelings", men's sex drive is always on. That guy's sex drive may be a 3/10, or it may be a 6/10, or even a 9.5/10, but it's always on.

With most women, their sex drive is NOT always on, or maybe it's fairer to say that normally, a woman's sex drive is artificially reduced by a significant amount most of the time, UNTIL she meets someone she has feelings for and a connection with. Once that happens, the "inhibitor" that normally keeps her sex drive low is removed, and her full-powered sex drive is unleashed. In this unleased state, her sex drive may still only be a 3/10, or may be a 6/10, or even a 9.5/10, but whatever it is, is far higher in relative terms compared to when she has no emotional connection. This makes it appear that her sex drive is much lower than it really is, because so much of the time, it's being inhibited due to a lack of emotional connection, but if you compare men and women's sex drive when they ARE comparable - when the woman is experiencing an emotional connection - then I think women's sex drives would be equal, or at least very close to equal to men's sex drive on average. It might even be that women's drives are higher.

As I said, I'm well aware that not ALL men can have sex without feelings, and not ALL women need an emotional connection to have a strong sex drive, but these are the exceptions to the rule.

[Citizenkirk]

Young men and women have an out of control sex drive from adolescence too middle aged.

[Citizenkirk]

Thanks for MHG

[laurieluvsit]

You're welcome, thank you for a great opinion :)

[TheSpaceGnome]

Most accurate answer

[Citizenkirk]

@TheSpaceGnome thanks 🤗👍

[wingattebaby16]

men have a high sex drive.

Women also have a high sex drive, but Society has trained/conditioned us that is it not Proper or Right for women to run around having sex with every guy they see.

it is to protect the Home structure.

Guys have an orgasm, and usually take hours to be able to go again.

Women can have orgasm after orgasm, and still want more.

[laurieluvsit]

So true! :)

[TheSpaceGnome]

3 corrections: 1. You can have an extremely high sex drive without being flirty or sexually active, let alone with multiple people. 2. Most of society conditions women as sex objects, so the reverse is true. 3. Men can go again immediately after an orgasm, I've never been forced to wait hours to use my penis again, so I'm not sure where that myth comes from (half the time its still hard even after orgasm and won't go down unless immediately used again or ignored for like 10 minutes)

[Laura131]

I belive that depends on person really.

Me personally I have high sex drive but I know some girls that have low.

Same with guys friends. Some have higher some have lower. So it depends on person.

[Zlantur2]

You are right. Actually there are women with way higher drive than men. But other women don't think this through

[Laura131]

Thank you for MHO

[laurieluvsit]

You're welcome, thank you for a great opinion :)

[NamerOfStars]

Given what's known about the way animal societies (humanity being no exception) evolve, and what's known of human evolution, and the evidence of early human societies, it's a virtual certainty that the first "profession" beyond mere survival hunting/gathering/pastoralism was actually witch doctor. I realize the expression is just an expression, but I prefer to remember that, since picturing a prostitute walking her beat in a happy hippo mask amuses me. And imagining a woman in typical hooker clothes and a happy hippo mask makes that chipmunk song a LOT funnier, too.

I will say, however, that you might be interested in a 2005 Yale study, posted here (https://www.journals.uchicago.edu/doi/abs/10.1086/503550 ), about which I will say nothing, save that the abstract really SHOULD read "Can we create monkey hookers?" and the conclusion "We don't need to- THE MONKEYS ALREADY DID.".

As to your question itself: yes, men typically have a much stronger sex drive than women do, at least when they're young. This is a product of natural selection: if you engage in very risky behaviors on a daily basis, you NEED to have a higher urge to have sex, or you won't have as much sex, and you'll have far fewer chances to pass your genes along than someone who does. Similarly, you HAVE to be less picky about who you partner up with, because you can't afford not to be- if you turn down what may be the one chance you ever get to reproduce, your genes are less likely to be passed on. This is also why sex drive fades as men age- not only do testosterone levels drop naturally, but the activities that cause spikes in that level become even more dangerous; natural selection doesn't "want" cowards who simply AVOIDED danger in their youth reproducing. Meanwhile, women, naturally more conservative in who they have sex with, since it makes no evolutionary sense for them to partner with somebody who'll knock them up, then leave or die, leaving them vulnerable even AFTER the baby's born, often experience a surge in sex drive as they enter their early or mid thirties, and their safe reproductive years draw to a close (it's risky, for both mother and child, even NOW; eighty thousand years ago, it was literally life and death); evolution says "Have all the babies you can!".

This is where the notion of women having a high sex drive comes from; the next time someone tells you that, check their age. Of course, I can quote bland endocrinology and abstract evolutionary theories at you all day (and I'm not exaggerating in that, which is actually kind of sad), but if you REALLY want to know, talk to a woman who had to take supplemental testosterone for a medical condition. The really telling part is that most of them, once they adjust, spend a decent amount of time going around apologizing to men.

[Lliam]

It's impossible to generalize. I think there is less difference between men and woman than some might think.
It's true that testosterone contributes to high sex drive. But that doesn't necessarily lead to promiscuous or harmful behavior.
There are plenty of normal girls and women who are super horny. That doesn't necessarily lead to promiscuity, either.

Out of control implies lack of self control. Most men and women are more prudent than that. Many are looking for things like love, commitment and connection.

[NathanDavis]

well... I'm a grown-up, so it's never been an issue for me, at all

[Finchie40]

You are right , us men were created this way it’s in our genes , we love to fuck and it makes us feel so at ease and more focused cuz of all the benefits of sex and what it does to our body , it also makes us feel loved and wanted it’s the way we express our love o a girl we admire , unless he is just some fuck boy that doesn’t have a heart but yes is guys love sex period

[RealMarek]

Healthy men generally have a high sex drive, but they are not like “beasts in the field.” Yes, the sex drive is evolutionarily hard-wired in us to encourage reproduction. However, this energy can be controlled and channeled in other directions. Every culture has had ascetics who redirected their reproductive drive into creation, innovation, or other tasks useful for the culture. Newton, Tesla, and the whole clerical/monastic class were examples of this in the West. This is difficult to imagine today, as the West is in cultural decline, but these sorts of men are always present in rising cultures.

[exitseven]

yes, nature made guys with a high sex drive. This was done to ensure the survival of the species. God has quite the sense of humor, apparently.

[needhelpwiththis0]

It has been proven that men have a bigger sex drive than women. And i can personally confirm that its true tho. I think a mans sex drive is almost 2 times a high

[yann-47]

I read a lot of stupid things here. First, the arguments of reproduction needs in our genes: human and some animals like dolphins and monkeys have always use sex as way to socialise and just have fun during the whole year. It’s not a valid reason.
Second, when I read it the “nature” “natural” people have to understand that social constructions impact in bad way the sexuality of women. Women have been stigmatised and are still stigmatised for expressing their sexual need, desires, sex life etc. And this lead woman to have less sex drives. An ex sex partner told me last week that a guy said to her “I don’t go after any one” and that she should not have sex with someone else even if there are very casual and he didn’t respected her desires, needs and the woman she is.
Third, let’s imagine a world where women have the actual position/right/liberty of men and men the one of women : women would whistle in the street, express their sex drive. There is a french movie exactly like this : the position in the society of men and women are exchange. It leads in the movie to a women who collects sex partners, and fill a jar with a marble for each sex partner…
I could talk about this subject for hours but I need to sleep…
I think that everything is changing and that man and woman are made the same, society and history just let women express and explore their desires and sex drives.

[Aakash_Hangargi]

Men do have high sex drives and women have desires if fulfilled the right way there libido goes blip blip blip they should be stimulated before there libido reaches the top knotch.

Women have had always more options as well.

Most men have to earn the sex while women will get it easily so you know there is something in chasing and winning over

It does become challenging and when it's a win huge ego boost

[FatherJack]

When guys are younger , yes the Male Curse is very strong , not great as a serving soldier on operations. Men tend to be cursed with the double curse of a typically much higher sex drive than his female counterparts , combined with very limited - no access to a sex partne , or in a sexless relationship. To be fair , this is beacuse the female reproductive role is much greater , and carries a far bigger risk , than the male. This is one of many areas the genders are mismatched & not compatible. I'm very glad my hated Male Curse has greatly faded , single dad with a teen daughter , & I want to stay single anyway after the marriage I endured & ended.

[whosnumber1]

help me @laurieluvsit I have a very high sex drive. I am very sexually expressive... I can't help myself!

[UdontNeedtoknow]

Each person is different. By a small majority men probably have a higher sex drive. However that is due to the fact that it's much harder for to he average guy to get laid then women. All most women have to do is say yes.

[Jayplays900]

Again, it isn't "Men or Women" who have a higher sex drive. It is dependent on your own personality, experiences, etc.

[Jerre]

I think both are about equal

[Raaj4you]

I have high sex drive.

[anylolone]

It's complicated. Men only have lower sensibility to risk and lower fear of death.

[tom_the_dating_snob]

My girlfriends sex drive is much higher than my own

[Tstrbrainer]

True.

[AkshiJanjua]

Your explanation seems correct

[B4852]

I'd say it's about equal, main difference being men tend to be more vocal about it.