Guys, is it true that most women are bad on top?

I never had any complaints and had previous partners finishing while I was on top of them but recently found a YT video where the guy was saying that most women don't know how to ride a guy so now I'm curious to know the truth.

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  • Look, good sex is complicated. The basics are simple. It's penetration. Penis in Virgina. But there are lots of nuances. I don't know what you are feeling exactly and you don't know what I am feeling exactly. It's constant feed back that's important. A good friend of mine complained that he would be doing XYZ and she would be seeming to like it but after a while of no positive feedback - during which she was possibly just happily lapping it up - but he thought he should do something else. Then she complained afterwards she was liking XYZ and why did he stop?

    Possibly because he didn't get any positive feed back? A little barely audible moan would have encouraged him to keep on keeping on and not think he should make some different moves.

    If you are on top of me then I can't thrust the way I could if I am on top of you. So I am more dependent on you for my pleasure and ultimately my erection. I really can't explain this as I don't understand why myself. But I really like it if the girl has her feet hooked over my legs rather than everything splayed out to the side of me. I can't explain why to you, so how can you intuit it?

    There is a line in BBC Couplings where the leading female says "You have to talk them down. Up a bit. Down a bit. To the side. No I meant left not right". So if the girl is responsive then it is the guy who is at fault for not talking her down.

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  • Many girls are too passive or too hesitant to really get into riding a man. A lot of girls will just kind of straddle me and move Up in town or back-and-forth a tiny bit; leaving me to do the thrusting from the bottom. This is OK, and I still love the view, but it is nothing like the excitement of a girl who has good rhythm, good hip motion, and lets herself really get into sex on top and enjoy herself.

    My rule of thumb is that a girl who is a confident and enthusiastic dancer well be an exciting rider in bed. Basically, when we’re dancing together I can tell exactly what she’s going to do when she’s on top. So, if you want to get better at riding, you can practice by getting into it on the dance floor and seeing what gets him excited.

    • I think is mostly because it's a very exhausting position for us.

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  • Some are great at it! My girlfriend rides me like a cowgirl…I just love that

  • I used to be in a relationship with a woman who seemed to have her human mind leave her body when she was on top, leaving behind a grinding, gyrating she-animal, glistening with lovely, lubricating perspiration, clamping me with her loins, until she would reach nirvana, her torso, head and hair flailing to and fro, her velvet vise pulsating around my manhood, eliciting my own throbbing Saturn 5 liftoff!

    Some other women, not so much.

  • Not at all... I love it when she gets on top. I can just enjoy her doing some of the work and it lets me feel free to play and kiss her breasts. I get a great orgasm every time!

  • Hmm. I'm a virgin. But I do want to say, having watched a lot of film sex scenes and a lot of verified production adult-porn and verified amateur 20s couples 30s couples, I'm not a fan of 40 couples amateur porn, but 20s to 30s amateur porn.

    Having what 'visual experience's in that regard, well, most women in the modern day seem quite competent when they're bouncing away on top, especially in reverse cowgirl position (reverse on top position facing away from their man).

    I for one wouldn't mind if i ever have a girlfriend or woman I'm dating if she rode me on top, preferably a mixture of sometimes reverse on top sometimes normal frontal facing on-top, but I don't think I could if the woman or lady was heavy.

    Or heavy for my body-frame, I'm too unfit haha. Or am I unfit. or I'm just lazy. 😬😬

  • My wife is amazing on top. We get into a “woman on top missionary”missionary position. When she spreads her legs wide to press her pelvis against mine she can do absolutely amazing things with her kegel muscles!

  • Absolutely not.

  • I prefer to be on top and so does my wife. She says she can control her own pleasure and she feels empowered

  • Most women are bad at sex in general. It doesn't feel very good when they ride, the blow job technique is usually lacking, their sex posture is usually lazy.

  • A good rule of thumb, usually if they can dance. They’re gonna be good at riding

  • Anyone that would say that is a dolt. If he’s having so much trouble but he’s the common denominator then HE is probably the problem. Blaming “most women” for not being able to satisfy him just right in such and such position…gimme a break.
    so he’s intimate enough with someone to share bodily fluids and primal noises but he can’t talk to the girl and ask to move a little more like this?

    what a turd.

    • Just because he’s got a video doesn’t mean he’s right

    • You're right.

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