Is it uncommon to feel this way about my husband masturbating?

I masturbate and I use porn sometimes. I have toys. He knows this and i know he masturbates and uses porn (he even uses it if I am giving him a blow job sometimes). Lately I have been finding him in the shower for about 30 mins (he used to barely take 5 min showers) and if I walk in the bathroom and he doesn't see me I'll see him masturbating with porn in his hand. As soon as I make a noise to show I'm there or anything, he acts like nothing happened and it's like if I'm there I ruin it. I dont feel upset that he masturbates or watches porn it's just like he feels like he should hide it when were very open sexual couple. I'm open with everything to him. But I just feel like whenever I'm around I'm a mood kill or something. if I come in, he'll stop and then basically shoo me off to go take the dogs out or something and it doesn't feel too good. Is this a bad feeling? How do I change it? Is it common?
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I'm thinking maybe making him a sex tape of me enjoying myself lol maybe I guess I'm jealous but I'd rather him jerk off to me by choice every once and a while than other women. Yay or nay
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Most Helpful Guys

  • Maybe have a picture or two of you in lingerie or a body suit playing with yourself. A video would work to. Leaving a toy or two on the bed could also spark an interest for him if he is into that stuff.

    • I've done that but I have more confidence in myself now so maybe I should try it again. He didn't react much to my pics and Last time I left a toy around he slapped his friend in the face with it

  • I'd suggest that you find out what porn he's watching and to the max degree you can, role play those fantasies, no judgement. Are you kinky as a couple?

Most Helpful Girls

  • Sometimes you just want to do it by yourself.
    As long as it's not getting in the way of his daily activities or keeping you from having sex, then there's nothing wrong

  • Ya u gotta ask him, like do u like to do it alone, or can i join? Lets watch together and masterbate... possibilities can be endless

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  • Sometimes guys want to enjoy some alone time, and be in the moment of their enjoyment. As long as he still loves you and haves fun with you too then it shouldn't be much of an issue. Plus males masturbating helps in the long run to avoid prostates.

    • I'd suck his dick morning and night if hed let me, I'm sure his prostate is fine

  • When you catch him in the act, you could ask "may I join you?" and take off your clothes.

    • I've jumped in the shower with him while he was foing it before and he lost his erection

  • is he not attracted to you anymore? Maybe he has fantasies he's not open about sharing aka other women, and porn is the loophole

  • Why not bring porn into the bedroom? Normalize it, you know?

  • I wouldn't be happy if my SO masturbated to porn but im old fashioned. Masturbate to me you dumb bish.

  • what you need is to find a nice thick huge cock that will pound you for hours and hours! ;) and never neglect you and make you feel like a mood kill but rather a like an aphrodisiac! ;)

  • Yes, he'd getting his fun, from masturbation, not from sex. Time you had good talk find out why..

    • Im not sure about women but as a male , it is so easy to get into a habit. Being single before I married my second wife , to relieve the sexual tension I loved to watch , lesbian porn and masturbate to it. But to my horror I still was doing it after we were married, until my wife court me doing it. I thought she would go off the deep end but she was lust upset I didn't wait for her.. She was brilliant at doing the unexpected thing, that's what miss about her. Basically try to find out why he wants to do it on his own. Maybe he feels unloved, maybe you are being distant. Not saying you are, but in his mind, you could be..

  • Well you should have a talk and just tell him flat out that you don't care that he does it. So you would get him to relax about it, if he relax because he now know you fine with it then he might stop hiding it. Maybe even send him a porn clip you like your self to kinda show him that side of you.

  • He was raised or learned to feel guilty about it. Its not you.
    I say get into naughty stuff with him explore fantasies.

    if you want a pregnant 3rd let me know or want to try yourself hehe.

    • We'd love to try that!

    • Buz off creep!

  • I think you guys should watch porn together

  • Whenever I masturbate I like doing it in front of my wife