Is it unrealistic that I still desire and want passionate sex my first time and my whole relationship?

[Paolaa988]

I'm still a virgin and it pretty much sucks and its a sad struggle in this generation with how everyone is following this hookup culture or just wanna "get it over with" that is not at all what i want my first time and all of my sex life to be like. I dont care how everyone else is doing it. I value intimacy as a special, passionate, romantic, gentle bond and i want my first time to be slow, smooth, candles, music, roses, and an amazing date beforehand to follow that full of laughs and deep conversations, just being able to open my heart to him and feel safe and happy. I envisioned and thought id find that in high school but it didn't happen that way. People have been saying my expectations are unrealistic and it makes my heart sink and feel disappointed. Is that true?😞

[Eeyore18]

I wouldn't say that it's unrealistic... However, most guys might take you out to dinner and then you'll go back to their place or your place and then whatever happens, happens. But, you shouldn't expect it to be all that you've envisioned it to be. You may find guys who'll like it a bit faster and more rough. And then you might find some who'll like it slow and passionate. Though, they might not be the person who you want to spend your life with or they might not think of spending their life with you.

Hope this helps you out

[okeydoke]

You’re definitely putting a remarkably unnecessary amount of importance into losing your virginity. The first time you have sex probably won’t be great, because you won’t know what you’re doing. Good sex takes practice and knowledge of someone’s body.

Most people’s first times having sex is lackluster at best.

[Marcelo90]

true 100%

[DizzyDesii]

I fully agree. I want that everytime. Sex to me is nothing without love, passion, desire, good intention, shared pleasure and romance.

[Paolaa988]

Exactly!!! It just feels meaningless. I feel like most guys think of the physical aspect only which is why they dont feel as much emotion but im all for emotion and connection when i get close with someone so thats why im waiting till it's right.

[Eleni079]

Not unrealistic gotta communicate with your partner.

[Eleni079]

Thank You for MHO.

[chriscdi]

its not unrealistic but you gotta make sure your partner knows about this before y'all have sex, cause if they dont know how youd expect it to come true

[EternallyAlone]

No its not strange some people want more meaningful relationships

[Wise4myage]

Not at all. Its perfectly normal to want that, just don't have high expectations.

[awanti95]

First time never can be passionate

[Sandro_insp]

Not always but can be passionate 😉

[Valnac]

Not unrealistic at all. Everybody would like that I’m sure.

[Tstrbrainer]

Nope, I don't think so

[Pulseofsulfur]

It's actually more realistic than you think.

[Anonymous]

Funny, they say the same to me... that I’m being unrealistic

but the truth is, they are just morally shattered from their own bad decisions and it would kill them to see you enjoy that which they forsook