Is it weird for a girl to be into really rough sex?

[Anonymous]

Or at least want to try it, I guess I don't actually know if I like it yet. My current boyfriend was my first and we have pretty vanilla sex, which is good too. But when I watch p*rn I usually watch really rough stuff and I'd like to try some of them. I just feel guilty about it because a lot of them are things that girls probably should like. Like anal or deepthroat among others. As I said, I haven't actually done any of that, but I feel guilty even just wanting anyways. So maybe it's not good?

[AustinMan]

You're normal. You're just kinky. A lot of women want to try rough sex and a goodly number love it. If you decide to try it, make sure you set up a safe word first that will stop the action if you use it. Something you wouldn't use usually. Red light is popular. Some folks use something very different like banana. Then you can struggle and tell him no and stop and he'll know it's just part of the scene unless you use your safe word Google BDSM clubs in your area and visit. At play parties, they usually will have opportunities for you to see real people having rough sex which may give you a better idea if it's for you. I'm a rough and dominant lover with a sadistic streak. I'm into spanking, slapping, rough nipple play, genital and anal torture and rough anal sex. Any of that appeal to you?

[Asker]

I really don't want to do anything in public or go to something like that at all. Just between the two of us Some of it appeals to me, but not all of it

[AustinMan]

Have you shared your desires with your bf? What does he say? Kink isn't something one can do well if one isn't kinky, sad to say.

[Asker]

No I haven't really. I'd rather he brings it up, I've been trying to drop hints and I think he kinda gets it. The other day he picked me up while we were doing it and pushed me against the wall. It was so hot, but beyond that, no

[AustinMan]

Did you reinforce it when we shoved you into the wall? Say things like "Take me, big man!" When you're having sex, you might resist and tell him if he wants it, he's gonna have to take it but you're not gonna just give it up without a fight. That should ramp things up. You can also say things like "Hurt me, stud" and "Is that all you got?" A lot of guys will react to a challenge by getting rougher.

[kheserthorpe]

You shouldn't feel guilty.

I used to feel guilty about wanting to do those things TO a woman, but I came to terms with it, and I want her to want me to do it.

My partner doesn't want those things. Oh well...

Good luck finding someone who is both compassionate and compatible.

[misscoffeehead]

I prefer it rough, thats the only way i hit the roof (not literally, but you know what i mean)

[Anonymous]

No it's definitely not weird. Rough sex is my favourite.

[halafax]

p*rn gives false expectations of sex. Sex like anything else: you like what you like, and you are going to want to try different things when you are with your bf. Im confused why you are feeling guilty for wanting to try new things.

[Asker]

I don't know I just feel like I shouldn't want that stuff, like I'm betraying women or something

[halafax]

Sex is between you and your bf. You like what you like and want to experiment. However if you are basing things off of p*rn you are giving yourself false expectations and may end up disappointed.

[misscocobutter]

No it's not weird

[sawno]

Your not the only one who just wants to be taken and used in a very rough way. Many girls want this and most guys won't have a proem with it. Infact many guys would preffer it.

To me sex is all about fulfilling each others fantasys so dont feel bad and tell your bf exactly how you feel and what you want.

[Asker]

I'm not really good in talking about sex, I'd rather he brings it up

[sawno]

You could do 2 things then. While having sex make it very obvious you want it harder and rougher or hint it at him beforehand. The best option to me would be option 3 and thats getting comfortable with talking about it. Once you can share your fantasies it will be much more amazing.

[AceOtana1]

Not weird at all, perfectly normal. Many girls like it rough. Completely fine.

[molan]

I am more into vanilla sex than really rough sex myself.

I have done anal (giving not getting, I am not gay), do not like it. Deepthroat however is fantastic, most girls can't do it though.

I have done most, but despite thy trust me on this, p*rn isn't reality do use p*rn as a scale for sex or sexuality.

[Wesdaman21]

I approve this

[molan]

I meant do NOT use p*rn as a scale for sex or sexuality.

[jmmmfi]

Try it and see if you like it

[Anonymous]

nope! not at all. i think it's better :p