Is it weird that I fantasize about having sex with my dad?

Recently I met my biological father, he's super fit and pretty young. I feel really weird because I keep having dreams of us having sex and now every time I'm around him that's all I can think about. I just want to know if anyone else has experienced this? It's obviously pretty weird I know but I can't help it, I literally want to jump his bones. Help?
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  • I think what is going on here is a case of genetic sexual attraction. You see, people tend to select mates that are much like themselves, both on a physical and mental level. However, in normal situations people aren't attracted to their family members thanks to the Westermarck Effect, which psychologically embeds a natural aversion to sexual attraction among family members. As it stands, you haven't had that effect take place with your biological father, thus there is no real aversion besides your conscious understanding of the taboo nature of your desires.

    You definitely aren't alone in that situation. Given how many people who live in adopted homes and haven't seen their biological parents, or are the product of sperm donations, there are tons of stories much similar to yours.

  • Okay having sexual dreams about your father or a guy about his mother or sister is pretty normal and almost every person go thought that. Freud have , mentioned it. What js not normal is that your mind did not auto delete the dream. It's rare to still remember those dreams when you''re awake because your subconscious mind rule it as inappropriate based on how you been raised mad erase It when u wake up. But how did Freud realize this is by the rare chance that one may still remember if they habeas a sharp mind like yours (and Freud) now the uncommon part is that you consciously fantasize about him. Girl check yourself before you wreck yourself.

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  • ... Recently I met my biological father...
    I see where it Could get Confusing with your heart and head working hand in hand. He has been this stranger all of your life and with just Meeting Him... It is like he is a newbie good looking man
    However, now that you know the bare bone truth, you are going to have to get your own Head about you here, dear, take a step back and leave well enough alone with Dear ol' dad.
    Keep this Family Affair to yourself and don't mum a word to Anyone, not even Mom. I think it is this Crush that is pulling at your heart strings at the moment but in time, as you and dad bond as Father and daughter, it will go back to Normal where you really do Know... This man who you finally understand.
    Good luck. xx

    • Thank you so much for allowing me to lend a helping hand with the new man.:)) xxoo

  • It;s because you always felt abandoned by him (on a subconscious level at least) and now your desire for love and approval from him manifests in sexual desire.

  • Given the fact that you never knew him I don't think its that big of a deal but as you establish a relationship it should not persist

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    It will pass and hopefully you don't act on it and stay calm.

  • It's a common fact when long lost male/female siblings meet for the first time. Also father/daughter or mother/son. It's well known in psychology.

  • I think your brain hasn't realized that he is your biological father. I mean, you just met him.
    But yes, it's weird.

  • incestual relationships or attraction are very common just not talked about since it is taboo in modern society. Its not necessarily digusting but i mean you just met him and your feeling are probably alittle jumbled up.

  • It's weird to have this strong urge.
    But on the other hand, it might be because you only met him recently and therefore did not yet build this strong Father-Daughter bond
    You still see him more as just a man, than just your father.