Is it weird that I want romantic relationships but I hate physical intimacy?

I really do want to fall in love but I have never really been interested in physical forms of intimacy like sex and kissing and stuff and I am 23! Is it really that weird? How do I get over this?
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  • Sounds like you're very in your head, and you don't feel the physical sensations or hormone rush of sex. Maybe you have trouble letting go. Maybe you've never been in a relationship with a guy you were really into. Maybe you have a difficult or traumatic past that makes you not trust people.

    Honestly, most guys are motivated to get into a relationship for the sex. Most girls want the romance, and the sex is an added sometimes-bonus. If you have no interest in the physical whatsoever, you're going to frustrate every guy. He's not going to feel fulfilled. For them, the sex and physical affection is what bonds them first (maybe even most.) They feel loved, desired, appreciated through your desire for them. It won't be ok with them if that's missing. Once their testosterone levels drop - it's 1% per year, but much later in life (60s+), then they stop caring, but until then, you're going to have figure this out, your lack of interest, and address it. If that means you being the initiator, and approaching guys that YOU find especially attractive, then that's what needs to happen. Waiting around like Cinderella for the right, perfect guy, that finally gets you motivated... odds are not good on that. The time of female passivity is past. Once you choose a guy who you are really attracted to, then it's an equal partnership to create a fulfilling sex/intimate life together.

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  • My first question is what happened to you? It’s seems fairly obvious that you had some sort of sexual trauma in your past. If not then the solution to your problem is the same. Having a positive experience. When I teach or help a girl who’s had a sexual trauma in her past I help them by experiencing sexual contact in a positive way. The trauma will never go away but you can have positive ones that help to move past them. They say time heals all wounds which is untrue, it just makes it hurt less often. My advice is to trust and to have positive experiences. Be in the moment. PM me if you’d like to talk more.

Most Helpful Guys

  • It's weird in the sense that it's very, very uncommon. Such relationships do exist and have existed, but they definitely are a blip on the curve. The data I was able to find lists them as 2%, but it doesn't specify if they were ALWAYS sexless or became that way. Regardless, it's a rare occurrence.

  • Are you opposed to those things, or just don't feel the desire to do them yet? If you are opposed to them, then it'll be hard to find a guy, if you just aren't feeling the desire to do them, as long as you're willing to, you can probably find a guy.

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • So you want to love him from far away? without sex and kissing how should you show your love? yea it weird even by asexual standards, most asexual girls want the kissing part.

  • Do you masturbate,? Consider counseling? In any case you need to disclose this to prospective partners. You aren't the only one.

  • It can happen, but you won't maintain much interest. For most guys, within a reasonable time, if we don't come, we will go.

  • Practicing and being with someone that knows what they are doing in that department.

  • It's definitely a sign that you have some unresolved issue to address before you can have a healthy relationship.

  • Nothing wrong with that.

  • Not really weird, physical touch might not be your love language. Maybe you are the type that would enjoy good conversations, companionship, receiving/giving gifts, etc.

  • not weird at all

  • You may just be asexual. Some people are. You want the companionship of a relationship but have no interest in any kind of sexual activity or physical intimacy. This will make finding someone quite difficult. Most partners are going to want that. You may have to learn to tolerate it to have a relationship. Start small and increase the intimacy and see how you do

  • Masturbate...
    I think u never did