Is it weird that I want to save an anal for someone I commit to?

My current partner keeps mentioning anal. Now it’s not something that appeals to me (more the opposite) but it’s something I’d be willing to try for the man I marry/commit to. Me and my current partner are still figuring that out so I’m feeling pressure to let him try it but I’d personally rather save something for the man I’ll be with long term. Is that silly?
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I just figure that when you’re in love you care more for each other, and it’s a really vulnerable thing to do. So just makes sense in my mind to only want to give something like that to each other when you really feel it.
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  • I've been with your type before, she'll let me do anal whereas she wouldn't let her ex or current partner F her in the Azz. The dude your with simply isn't hot enough to get your backdoor, I already know it! You need a hotter bad boy who pushes boundaries and is hot enough to get you to do what he likes.

    ASK ME HOW I KNEW!

    • That’s not true. y ex was super hot!!! And it wasn’t given to him either.

    • *My*

Most Helpful Guy

  • Is that all you have left to save for someone when you get married?

    The problem with your logic is he may not be into anal, I am not... so it is something that may be saved for someone who isn't into that.

    It is not weird though, I know someone who had all kinds of sex, everything possible but would not kiss a guy until they got married. That was her gift to her husband, first kiss and all those afterwards.

Most Helpful Girls

  • It is your body. If that is how you feel that is perfectly fine. Just tell him that, and kindly. No harm in being open and talking with a partner.

    • I know, he’s understanding about it.

  • The best rule for sex is don't do anything you're not comfortable with but sail close as you dare.

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  • No, you should only do what is comfortable for you. For me sex is something that has mutual agreements... I think it’s great that you guys talk about it , that’s the only way to be on the same page

    • Yeah my partner is the same. He’s just mentioned that it’s something he wants to try but said it isn’t a necessity.

    • 👍👍 so, a little story on anal. My girlfriend and I said no way to anal for years, then her friend told her it felt great. So I was in your shoes when my girlfriend asked me. I first said gross. But agreed to start slowly. Over a few months we touched, then fingered and licked, then penetration. We did it together, she did the same and later dildoed my butt. We decided we Kik it and do it on occasion. I have to say it’s pleasurable. Make him do it with u if u ever want to try

    • Thanks for sharing. My partner has already said he doesn’t want anything in that area though.

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  • Lol everyone has their own want for me if you're already having sex then I see no difference but again your choice

  • That seems highly reasonable

  • I don't think it's weird for you to want to save that kind of physical intimacy for a committed relationship.

  • You are on the right track. You want to feel loved and make him feel loved.

  • No, not silly at all. Do not allow yourself to be pressured to do anything you don't want to do.

    • I wouldn’t. Just trying to figure out where my thoughts fit in on this. 🙂

  • Tbh it does but hey thats just my opinion

    • Just out of curiosity, why is that?

    • Coz there's nothing to save tbh I mean sex is sex u don't have to wait till u marry to enjoy it plus some girls who do wait are usually keeping their pussy off limits but u r keeping ur ass

  • Well it's something that you should do when you feel that you're ready for it I can understand why you'd be apprehensive. But if you end up liking it you probably won't care so much about it being special in the future

  • Hi, my name is Commit To.

    All seriousness, you will love it

    • Only with the right person, not just for the sake of it.

  • Lol. What happened to saving your vagina?

    • I didn’t want to be a virgin into my 30s thanks lol.

    • And relationships tend to equal sex

    • Okay. I feel you. It's the logic there...

  • I don't see anything wrong with that, and I think it would make it more special for you.

  • No, it's not weird

  • Have vh you told him that you don't want it yet, but will be open to trying it later?

  • Tell him you want to peg him first before you agree to anal.

  • No. That's actually pretty rare. These days everything is done pretty quick into the relationship.

  • No its not weird at all

  • Sure luv, if you want you should, it's your choice and you should not be forced into doing if you don't want to.

  • Tell him amid your can do him first you may consider it

  • You want what you want, but for me I don't understand the whole save myself thing. I think it's just a disney/religious concept used to control girls desires.

    • You wouldn’t want the girl that you marry to have something only you and her have done? That’s fair enough.

  • Anal is the new virginity.