Is It Weird To Date Someone Who Has A Fetish For?

[Anonymous]

Your race? (Black woman) I always went through his search history and never seen porn until I opened his reddit. He follows black girls who do race play and pages like "saynotoblackboys" "r/raceplay" "blackchickswhitedick" idek how to feel?

[CarrieWilson4567]

Having a fetish for a race isn't really a thing, it's called a preference.

Those reddit pages "BlackChicksForWhiteDick" or "AsianChicksForWhiteMen" or "WhiteWomenBlackDick" or whatever aren't really that big of a deal, but they aren't that classy either.

Raceplay in general is kinda trashy. Being attracted to another race is fine, but degrading others is where we should all draw the line in my opinion.

[Asker]

Isn't raceplay a fetish though?

[CarrieWilson4567]

Raceplay in it'self is a kink or fetish. It's the act of deriving sexual pleasure from degrading or being degraded based on race, using racial slurs etc. during sex. Just having a preference for Black women and finding them very attractive isn't a fetish

[Rockstarrrrr]

It's quite rare when it's balanced between them having a fetish for your race and them actually liking you as a person... But it does happen... For example Robert De Niro always had a thing for black women and he has been married to one for a really long time...

[Asker]

I think it's both.

[Rockstarrrrr]

Great... Then he has many reasons to like you 👍

[Berethor]

Weird but black woman have that much of a choice? can you miss that opportunity?

[Asker]

Dude what? I attract every race of man..

[Asker]

Let's not and if that is you in your PFP I'm sure white women don't want you which leaves you with very few choices 😭😭 another bottom shelf brad, no corporate job, no money, no status, just white.

[SiberFox]

Do you not have a fetish for White guys then?

[Asker]

How so?

[SiberFox]

The assumption from your post is that your dating a white guy, could be wrong, regardless, do you not have a fetish for the race of the guy you're dating?

[Asker]

It's preference not a fetish. I don't like him solely because he's white

[CarrieWilson4567]

You could like that he's White and it still wouldn't be a fetish. A fetish is the sexual fixation of an object or body part that isn't typically seen as sexual. Men and women of all races are naturally sexually attracted to each other already so it doesn't fit the definition of a fetish. The Raceplay (Degradation and racism stuff) is a fetish. The on;y people who call having a racial preference a "Fetish" are jealous people who don't want particular interracial couples to mix.

[FilmGuy93]

It's weird to me that you would intentionally walk into a situation where you know you're likely to be fetishized. I'm a white guy who finds brown skin extremely sexy, but I've been fetishized by Asian women before and I wouldn't wish it on anyone.

[maximumpower]

If that's ALL they're interested in, then yes.

[Twalli]

Part of why he's attracted towards you is your race

[Asker]

Is that bad?

[Twalli]

Not at all

[SmokinAces2000]

Yes it is very fucking weird

[Asker]

Explain more? I like that the porn is interracial but the rest throws me off

[SmokinAces2000]

Anyone with a racial fetish is weird to me

[CarrieWilson4567]

I thought you're a black guy who's into Latina women. There's a difference between a racial preference (Finding a specific race most attractive to you) and having a Raceplay fetish which is about basically being racist and degrading others based on race.

[Asker]

Oop^^

[SmokinAces2000]

@CarrieWilson4567 you just said that a racial preference is different then raceplay fetish, what’s your point

[CarrieWilson4567]

That's my point. Race fetishes don't exist, it's just a preference. Raceplay fetishes do exist, but that's a different thing.

[Asker]

Preference for a race isn't a bit fetishy? Racial preferences are weird to begin with

[Asker]

You're hypocritical

[SmokinAces2000]

@CarrieWilsom4567 the asker said raceplay was one of the things her boyfriend was searching

[CarrieWilson4567]

No, when people call ONLY CERTAIN interracial pairings a "Fetish" they're trying to shame those people for being attracted to each other by claiming that them being together is sick, weird, abnormal, unusual etc.

[SmokinAces2000]

Asker no it’s not, I don’t choose who I’m attracted too, someone chooses to actively go out and fetishize a race, I don’t know why this is such an hard concept for people to grasp

[SmokinAces2000]

@CarrieWilson it’s not she asked is it okay that she’s black and her boyfriend is white and I said no cause he’s fetishizing her, she asked if it was weird if someone has a racial fetish and I answers accordingly

[Asker]

Most latinas and non black women fetishize black men. The BBC stereotype is the only thing that keeps y'all in the dating pool..

[CarrieWilson4567]

Because you're acting as if a white male being attracted to a woman of color is a fetish (As in the case of the asker) but then you're acting as if your attracion for Latina women is somehow better. If the asker's white boyfriend has a raceplay fetish, that is weird, but if he was just attracted to Black women in general that's just a preference no different than your attraction to Latinas.

[Asker]

True^^ ik my boyfriend loves me and has always dated black women. The content he was watching is a bit fetishy but nonetheless ik he is very attracted to me.

[SmokinAces2000]

Asker *sigh* smh

[Asker]

Is that not true? Lol

[SmokinAces2000]

Asker I’m sure it is too you yea

[Asker]

You're a hypocrite dude

[SmokinAces2000]

@CarrieWilson4567 like I said I didn’t just say that’s it’s a racial fetish out of the blue in fact I didn’t even say anything about white men and black women in my initial post, I said that I think racial fetishes are weird and I also never said I only like Latina women so I don’t know how that’s your argument

[SmokinAces2000]

Asker so you ask a question and call me a hypocrite for answering it, did you want all opinions to be what you agree with because that’s not how it works

[CarrieWilson4567]

I didn't just come here yesterday, I've seen you around. I know just about everybody"s racial PREFERENCES on gag because I study this stuff. It's just important not to throw the "Race fetish" labels around unless you can explain what a race fetish is in detail. It doesn't exist unless you're talking about Raceplay, but that's a different thing.

[SmokinAces2000]

@CarrieWilson4567 like I said the asker asked a question and I answered it, question” Is it weird to date someone with a racial fetish” my answer “yes it is very fucking weird” I didn’t mention anything about any specific race pairing, you did.

[CarrieWilson4567]

It's fucking weird unless we're talking about you and Latinas right? Then it's "I can't help who I'm attracted to." It's the same thing, just remember that.

[SmokinAces2000]

@CarrieWilson I never once said I only had a preference for Latinas so your argument is flawed

[CarrieWilson4567]

It doesn't matter. You could be attracted to Black, Asian, Indian, White, and Latinas and none of them are a fetish. whether you're just attracted mostly to one type or you like all types is irrelevant. Calling something a race fetish is just a tactic that racist and jealous people use to shame specific interracial pairings for being together.

[SmokinAces2000]

I’ll keep saying the same things that I’ve been saying this whole time since you seem to have trouble understanding the words that I am typing, I did not mention anything about a specific race pairing, you replied under my opinion assuming shit

[CarrieWilson4567]

There were details that went a long with the question that very specifically explained the races of the individuals involved and their situation. I understand that you're probably looking for a way out of this so I'll leave you alone if you like.

[SmokinAces2000]

Answer would be the same no matter what race the two were so again your argument is falling flat.

[CarrieWilson4567]

The answer was wrong, and the so was the question for that matter. Just understand #1. There's a difference between a racial preference, and a fetish for Raceplay, and under no circumstances is there such a thing as a race fetish. It doesn't fit the definition of a fetish. #2. You've said that you don't choose who you're attracted to, so remember that other people don't either. 3#. Even if a person has a strong preference for women of a specific race, it doesn't mean that they can't also love an individual within their preferred race. I understand that you may have been referring to the Raceplay fetish as being "Very fucking weird" and I can't argue with you on that. It's just that everyone is referring to the Raceplay fetish as a "Race fetish" and that's where the problem began. Other people reading it will assume that Race fetish means racial preference and that the white male and black female in the question being together is "Very fucking weird." That's why I needed to get involved and correct this matter

[SmokinAces2000]

Anyone with comprehension skills wouldn’t assume that I’m talking about black women and white men as being weird

[CarrieWilson4567]

You weren't very specific about anything other than to say "Anyone with a race fetish is weird to me." The question is about a White male and a Black female in a relationship so most people are going to assume that you regard that pairing as a "Race fetish." I'm glad if you're clearing it up now so it doesn't appear as if you have a problem with interracial couples, see it as a fetish, and think it's fucking weird all while being attracted to other races yourself.