Is it werid that oral sex is a stressor for me?

[Anonymous]

So I normally don't express this but oral is a stressor for me because I have a tendency of mistakenly biting. Not majorly but by just a little. As a result im making a decision on not giving head anymore because this is a stressor. I notice after having oral sex with a guy I tend to get depressed thinking that I was bad and they are going to gossip about it to their guy friends or the guy will start treating me funny (which I notice happens) this is why I refuse to do hookups and wait to lose my virginity til im married. I actually feel horrible about this and wonder is stress after sex or oral sex a normal thing? P. s I also want to attend law school and I dont want to stress about dumb shit like this which is why im cutting the decision of giving bjs, or having full blown sex with any guy.

[EaterPeter]

Nope. Sexual needs and wants can drive us crazy. There have to be at least one confident partner to make those needs meet and who would keep our secrets safe. Some guys may enjoy lite biting as receiving bj. Your sex drive might be high. If you give lot of guys bjs you are risking your reputation.

[Asker]

Good point. And omg noo im not a hoe lol!

[EaterPeter]

I choose not to judge. I replied on the base of your question and details. Not saying hoe, lol 🤣.

[EaterPeter]

You can ask or share that this is what you are worried about. With time and experience such things goes away.

[EaterPeter]

Thanks for like!

[EaterPeter]

Guilt consciousness is good thing too. I am still thinking why mist culture teach sex is shameful. Is it due to keep them people from having sex for safety reason and not enough education. Guilt trip may work. It kills all my enjoyment though.

[EaterPeter]

When we are too conscious about something we see it happening even though it may not be happening. What part you are most worried of being shared. You giving bj or your gentle bites.

[Asker]

Oh no I understand lol! And np! I was more concerned about sharing the bj information lol. I was just concerned cause this is the second time this happened. At first I was too interested in doing anything with him and then that happen. But I mostly blamed him cause he took it upon himself to come over to my place without me even approving it. Then complained saying a day later saying I was biting him a bit. To me he was being a bit dramatic because he was acting like I bite so hard I broke his dick lol. So yeah. So as a result I felt bad, disgusted, and embrassed. But like you said maybe its guilt. Lol

[EaterPeter]

Can it be called nibbling? I used to enjoy lite bites.

[Asker]

Yeah I guess it can be!

[EaterPeter]

Ok, enjoy! 😉

[Theo21]

I think it's not normal but being stressed because u didn't have sex before is and it's abit similar. You will get over it if someone is patient with you and u impress him abit. if u want that someone to be your husband then so be it

[Singlebimom]

No bc you try to hard to please him and you prob think you aren't good at it

[Asker]

Yeah exactly! I thought it was werid that this is a stressor for me lol