Is it worthy to cheat on your BF?

I want to try another man which is really sweet and caring. I think I'm in love with him but i already have a boyfriend who loves me so much. But now i am unable to resist myself and want to go for a date with my new lover. Is it worth enough to do so?
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  • I think you should listen Katie1964 (from girl comments) she have the best comment, the moust helpfull. If you just whant some extra solutions for you're problem i will say like this:
    - Don cheat on him, if he will ever finde out you can just lose you're boyfriend or put you in danger (i whant to kill somebody in this lifetime because she cheat on me)
    - Talk about some oportuniti to have sex whit that guy like a threesome, swinnger experience, cuckolding, an open relationship... maby you will be lucky and you're curent boyfriend will accept.
    - Talk whit a psiholog, so they can show you some solutions.

    But don cheat on you're curent boyfriend, you will never know how he will react.
    You just whant to have som fun, but are you shure afther a sex time whit that boy you will stop just there? Are you shure you will not whant some more?
    In my experience both afther falling in love just a litle and have even intimate moment the ask for more from theyr parteners (more sex, more time, more dedication and seriozity).
    Are you shure nothing from thous things will hapen?

    • No. I'm not sure.

    • Then don't do it, choise bethuin you're boyfriend and that guy! First try to brake up in a good way whit you're boyfriend and afther you will be free to date that guy. If you go whit "what does't know, will not hurt him" you can face some big problems in the future.

    • I don't want to break up with my current boyfriend but i also want to try my new friend.

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  • If you’ve agreed to exclusivity with your boyfriend than it’s not your choice who you sleep with. You have voluntarily waived that right in exchange for your boyfriend also waiving that right.

    If you’re not exclusive than do what you want, but your boyfriend should definitely drop your ass. To be honest, the very fact that you’re enquiring like this demonstrates he should dump your ass. We can only hope you’re a great lay and he gets everything he wants from you and then drops you.

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  • Cheating is selfish and immature on your part, hurtful to your current boyfriend (who loves you and who you obviously do not love) and destructive to your current relationship. Its girls like you who make nice guys turn into womanizers with commitment issues because someone has burned them in the past.

    You need to make up your mind who who you want to be with and stick to the decision. In my opinion, you should brake up with your current boyfriend and then see about dating the new guy, again since you obviously don't love your current boyfriend the way he loves you. Let you current boyfriend find someone who is worthy of his love, not someone who is using him knowing that she will dump him when something she perceives as better comes along, i. e. you.

    • I am not dumping him. I am just trying another man who is attractive to me. I am not dumping anyone

    • OK, you are not dumping him while you are screwing around on him. Better to break up with him or "dump" him before you cheat. In the scenario you are outlining; you are cheating on him, disrespecting him and being a self absorbed b! itch. Karma will see you on the other side of this one day.

  • Break up with your current boyfriend please! The current guy deserves someone that loves him back and he doesn't deserve to get cheated on! My ex cheated on me and maaaan did it destroy me! I ended up really insecure for a good few years, really bad anxiety it literally destroyed me as a person! So don't even think! About cheating on your current boyfriend save him the misery he doesn't deserve and break up with him! Or if you feel like the spark is going just work it out as a team! To gain it back don't cheat on him just because your bored of him or you feel the spark is no longer there! DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT or BREAK UP!

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  • I think you should step back for some introspection as you don't deserve to be with either. Neither of them need a cheater because if someone cheats on their boyfriend for another, she will probably cheat on that one too when someone else comes along. Guys need more trust of someone and that is not what you present, sorry to say. I suspect you are really just trolling for answers.

  • No, you break up first.

  • It is only unacceptable if the two men aren't agreeable too it which in your case is highly unlikely.
    Cheating is NEVER right and most always ends up with you in a big mess. I wouldn't think the new love would even want to date you if he knows you have a current boyfriend.
    You must make that decision of which guy you want and if it is the new love, break it off with the boyfriend. A break up like that is better than him finding you with another guys penis inside you.

  • let's just put it this way, If you don't sleep with this guy you are going to kick yourself for the rest of your life. So girl go get your groove on and have some fun.

    • Thank you

  • This cheapens you, and makes you a cheater. End the first relationship before having sex with the other guy. Any other way, simply brings more pain to the guy you are currently with. It hurts a lot to be cheated on.

  • Jeaus Christ... dump the boyfriend then. Date the new guy and when you get bored with him, try going back to your boyfriend afterward. If your boyfriend has any respect for himself he will not take your stupid ass back.

    Cheating is for losers. Have some dignity and break up with your boyfriend before you do anything. Your question alone shows complete lack of respect and disregard for your boyfriend in the first place. This is common sense.

  • I’d take a week break with the boyfriend then try things with the new guy. Just do dinner and a movie, the second date spend the night and bring out the wine. See who is more caring after your adventure.

    • Nice idea though.

    • Sounds exciting. Just tell him you think you need some time to think about things. Silence the cell and see what new boyfriend is like. Wear something cute, lingerie underneath to keep you both hot.

    • Yeah why not!!

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  • If either partner wants exclusivity, that is a condition of the relationship. If one partner does not and the other does, that relationship should end.

  • Then you need to break up

  • No break up with your boyfriend or choose one or the other

    • I don't want to lose him, i love him. But i desire for another man too.

    • Then speak to your partner about being a swinger if not tell him what you're doing because you obviously don't love him enough if you desire another man

    • How does it proves that i don't love my boyfriend if i sleep with another men?

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  • Just break up, unless your current boyfriend would allow an open relationship.

  • You are being a selfish, inconsiderate person.
    You don't care about hurting your boyfriend.
    You only care about your own needs.
    It's not worth it to hurt people.

    • There's nothing like being selfish. I will still love him even if i sleep with another man. It's just my choice with whom i sleep. Why would people judge just because she had sex with someone else? Why is it unacceptable?

    • Because you are in a committed relationship right? He doesn't get to sleep with other people. You want to keep him committed to you while you CHEAT on your relationship. Not to mention, if he loves you he will be hurt that you felt you needed someone else. Like he's not good enough. You might destroy his self esteem forever and make him afraid of women and relationships. It's not just about you and what you want. You have his heart and it's your responsibility to protect it or else set him free so he can find someone that deserves him.

    • I'm sexually attracted towards another man. I don't love him, and i also don't want to lose my present boyfriend.

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  • Unacceptable because you're doing it without consent. You're in a relationship to be together with that one significant other (unless it's a complex one with open ends). Save him for when you break up. Or just break up right now and go for the other guy if you find him significantly better

    • Tbh i don't want long term with the new man.

  • Yeah, boyfriend s can be a real pain in the ass when you find something new and improved.

  • IF YOU ARE 100% SURE ABOUT THIS: Break up with your boyfriend for the love of god. Dont do that to him.

    At least spend a couple of weeks thinking about it, this guy loves you and you have probably told him you love him. Think about what you loved about him and whether you will actually feel content with a new relationship. I can assure you long term relationships are so much more satisfying in the long run. If you are sure about this other guy though, please dont cheat and be over honest to your boyfriend when you break up. It will save arguments in the near future.

    • Also it is NOT unacceptable to have two guys if all parties are aware. You are talking about cheating ie not telling him, which is unacceptable and has been since the dawn of society

  • Leave ur current and pursue the new one. If u fell for him u weren't in love in the first place at least save him the pain of being cheated on

    • What if he doesn't get to know, ever?

    • He will eventually. Something will change or he will sense something off. Also if u want a new relationship you need to leave your current that's just the mature thing to do

    • Also keep in mind many people won't date someone who cheated before. By doing this u can ruin future relationships too

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  • Nah, if you do that then you deserve to die alone.

    • We all die alone. You're gonna die with 10 people? Naive!

    • Not what I meant, but sure.

  • Ffs are women like you ever satisfied with anything? Got a good thing and you wanna fuck it all up coz some other guy gives you attention. Be single. You're not mature enough for a real relationship.

    • That's not true

    • Your comments in this thread scream "immature" and "entitled". You really see nothing wrong with letting another man come in and get his nut off with you while your boyfriend just thinks you're out with friends or whatever excuse you make? Tell me, how many lies are you willing to tell to keep the truth from your bf? How far will you go to convince yourself you're a blameless innocent princess in spite of cheating? How will you look your boyfriend in the eye and say you love him... when you've wilfully made him into a helpless cuckold? You chase selfish pleasure impulses and dont care who it hurts... as long as you get to play your little game of "I'm an independent woman i do what i want, deal with it". So yeah, it kinda is true.

    • Oh you got someone to talk shit about. Not cool!

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  • Just break up with your present boyfriend. He deserves better then you.

    • I understand

  • Go ahead girl. Life is too short for regrets.

    • You sure?

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