Girls, Is it wrong for a husband to push for sex more than 1 time a week. Feel like my wife dosent put fourth the effort maybe our marriage is ending?

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Screenwriter · Accepted Answer

It is difficult to ask for sex for someone who doesn't find it necessary more than the number of times you are currently involved doing it. But once a week is on the low side. How long have you been married? Do you have young children?

These are two factors that might interfere with a couple's intimacy. If you get too familiar with a routine, having sex isn't as interesting as it was at first.

If there are young children who wake up and or interrupt you two in the middle of sex, it makes sex a chore, not a pleasure. The woman is waiting for an interruption, not involved in what is happening in the moment.

Maybe your wife is tired from work, chores, child care and this ruins the mood for her.

Do you have date nights when the kids are at a babysitter? Go out for dinner and go to a hotel? Also requires a babysitter. Try to plan sex nights that are uninterrupted and make sure everyone is fresh and rested beforehand.

and talk about having more frequent sex. Maybe she'd like more too, but the interruptions are too overwhelming and she's given up hope of having more intimacy. If nothing else, see a counselor to work out what you need to do to give each other more pleasure, joy and intimacy. It's doable.

BasedBaeBecca · Accepted Answer

It's important to communicate your needs and expectations regarding intimacy with your wife and to listen to her needs and thoughts on the matter. If you two are having issues in this area of your marriage, then it's definitely something that needs to be addressed. However, pushing for sex too much or making your spouse feel pressured or uncomfortable can also be a turn-off and can make your relationship more tense and difficult. Make sure to show her respect for her boundaries while also explaining your side of the story and trying to find a compromise that you can both be happy with.

Alli39 · Answer

Depends on the person. It's not about wrong/right so much as individual comfort and expectations. Just talk to your wife if you have concerns about your relationship. She probably doesn't realize you feel that way or that there's been any kind of shift in your relationship.

Jooying · Answer

In relationship it’s all about agreement between the two. I agree to have it more than once a week doesn’t mean others would do too. So if anything, not just sex, that goes to the stage where either one of you need to “push” that, definitely not a good sign.

Zatsuma · Answer

If you haven't, try to commit to a date night each week with her, do an extra household chore, when apart send a random text to her during the day telling her you are thinking of her, stop at the store and pick up her favorite chocolate bar as a surprise etc etc... Just think of the little things you can do to impress her like you did when you first met and you should hopefully get an unexpected reward. If you don't, then it's time for a sit down to understand each others desires. Maybe your sex life needs to be spiced up, she may like something neither of you have explored yet. Don't give up until you have explored every option.

Laura_fo2208 · Answer

Well if you need it more than once a week, it's necessary to share this need with her. From my point of view in a relationship, especially a marriage, the partner should take all needs seriously and find a solution together.

LazerBean · Answer

It depends. From what I've seen, there are two reasons why a woman loses interest in sex with her husband. The first one is of course just that she is a selfish person who is not wife material to begin with. And the other reason is that is working full-time, plus taking care of children and homemaking on her off time while all her husband does is goof off when he gets home, leaving her both exhausted and thinking poorly of her husband.

EmmaMary · Answer

Sounds like a huge lack of communication somewhere.

sheikalana · Answer

Have you addressed this issue with her? I do not agree with pushing or forcing someone into having sex man or woman. There's surely a reason why she's not as into sex anymore. You need to tell her how this is messing with your marriage.