Is it wrong for me to just not really care about giving head to the guy I'm seeing?

I've been seeing a guy for a month and we are not together yet. He has explained to me that he really likes getting head but he finds it hard to cum from getting head.
He said that I should start practicing and watching porn videos on how to give amazing head. He also wants me to talk in a more sexy way and invite him over to mine 2-3 times after he's finished work so I'll do it for him.
He asked me If I'll be happy if I'm gonna be the first girl to make him cum. I said yes at the time but tbh I really don't care and I feel like I'll be putting in way too much effort to please a guy that isn't even my boyfriend yet.
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  • i mean you either haven't learned how to make Giving a Bj pleasure yourself or just don't really find him that attractive or just find him boring. Which ain't wrong because that's just how you personally feel about it. Best just to tell him you won't do it.

    • I think that's probably the reason. I don't think he's that attractive and he is quite boring

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  • "I feel like I'll be putting in way too much effort to please a guy that isn't even my boyfriend yet."

    Definitely seems like it, I don't really know why you wouldn't realize that when he told you to watch porn and start practicing to perform blowjobs on him

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  • You do realize that porn is all for show, and not for pleasure, right?

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  • Honestly the fact that he explicitly compared your future performance to a porn stars' and implied that he'd be critiquing it, probably wouldn't inspire confidence in anybody. I wouldn't suck his dick either.

  • Next he will want you to balance on a pineapple and do the conga...

    but red flag for me is "first girl to make him cum" ... sounds like he is trying to convince you to suck him off to be frank...

  • If you dont like him or care why you even here? you're just shaming him, way to go.

  • Well, just keep in mind, you have to prove to him that you are worth being his girlfriend. So if you're not gonna try and put forth the effort of doing things until he gives you that title, then he may not commit to you.

  • I can imagine a scenario where I was enthusiastic and excited about giving a woman oral who loved it but never came from it yet and where we explored together.

    But I doubt i'd be very enthusiastic about it if that was literally the only sex act she was talking about.

    It's great he can share his fantasies with you, but why doesn't he care about yours? And yeah … you're not even dating, so like …. this should be a little more quid pro quo.

  • You don't care as in it doesn't matter if you do it, or you don't want to give head?
    You don't owe him anything.

    • I don't like doing it in general

    • It's not wrong. Even if you end up falling in love with him, or some other guy and you want to be happy with him, if you don't like doing it, you don't like doing it.

  • I personally don't care for blowjobs for the same reason of it being difficult to get off and it's kinda boring. Maybe you are in better than you think because some guys like me are into anal and it's sometimes hard to find a girl into it also but let me tell ya it's hot when I do find one and I call them keepers. so it could be worse he could want ass all the time... or better if that's your thing...

  • Sounds bizarre to me... I wouldn’t telling the woman of interest to watch porn to learn how to perform oral sex would ever cross any normal man’s brain pan. Strange world...

  • This guys an idiot and watches way to much porn. You can do much better than him.

  • Doesn't sound like he wants you for who you are. So my advice would be to get out while you can

  • What I will like to say is grab your belongings and run!

  • Not really because you’re not really with him like that, women do it to please the man they really like and are comfortable with but you haven’t even got together yet

  • Those are some specific demands. He sounds controlling. Personally, I’d want my partner to do stuff in bed that she’s crazy enthusiastic to do on her own initiative. By the way, what is he doing for you?

  • You should wash your stinkhole better, and make it less stinky as possible, , it will help for cum.