Is it wrong of me to help my girlfriend act out a rape fantasy?

[Anonymous]

So as the question suggests my girlfriend wants me to help her act out a rape fantasy that she has.
Basically she has given me a set of keys to her apartment and she wants me to sneak in on a random night while she is sleeping and overpower her, tie her up, have my way with her, spank her blah blah blah all the usual domination stuff. She wants to put up a fight like its real.

Im not sire if I should be indulging her in this or taking her to visit a psychologist. We have been together for about 12months and she only recently mentioned it. Of course its all consensual but I just worry about where the desire is coming from.

Do you think I should do it or should I sit her down for a long talk?

[slatyb]

She doesn't need to visit a psychologist. This is a pretty common fantasy. The problem with enacting this is that she will need to know immediately that it's you. And unless you are much stronger and can easily control her, then she can't fight back too vigorously because someone could get hurt. But if she's ok knowing that it's you, it could be fun. You can probably find guidelines for this sort of role-play somewhere. Or you could start with lighter BDSM play and save the pretend rape after you've both had some experience. It's not at all easy to restrain an unwilling person, especially using rope. Tying a willing victim with rope so they can't escape requires some knowledge. Good luck, have fun.

[Anonymous]

You should also consider that no matter how much she says she wants it she may not technically be legally allowed to consent to that. So it may be the case that you would have committed rape in the eyes of the law, be careful, do the research. Also even if it's legal consider the trust necessary for you to put in her, if she did everything a rape victim would do besides the internal desire for it to happen then she could easy turn around and call it rape, she may fail a lie detector test but all the evidence would be in her favor.

[Kaffie]

Rape fantasies are very common in women. Just be careful. Make sure you have a safe word. The random night thing seems weird but whatever floats your boat. I'd get something signed tbh. There's only cause for concern if she's had issues with rape before.

[devilman666]

Well said, I was just going to say that it was probably not a psychological issue, you went further and told him to protect himself from false rape accusations, I didn't even think about that. I need more red pills. Also, the random night thing is probably just to make it more real, if she expects it then it takes away part of the thrill, I'd assume. It seems safe, but I would also suggest something in writing. And a video recording her signing it and giving her consent on camera. And then get her to sign another piece of paper, saying the first video was consentual and not forced, of course recording her signing it as well. This may seem over the top, but you can never go too far when protecting yourself from false rape accusations.

[Kaffie]

As is usual for this kind of thing, trust is very important. For both parties. Usually something signed isn't needed, but the breaking in on a random night thing seems sketch.

[devilman666]

I agree it's sketchy. Not much to do to protect yourself though, all forms of consent can be denied or taken back during/after sex, so anything short of recording the sex itself will likely be thrown out in court. All this will prove however is that she never said the safe word, which doesn't mean she never stopped consenting. Impossible to prove consent when she is acting like she doesn't consent. Do it and take the chance or you can choose not to for your own protection. Just remember that false rape accusations are life destroying, not something to take lightly.

[Johnbadman]

There's a lot of things that can go wrong with this especially if your in the us/ any western European countries. I suggest not going through with it and if you guys are really close enough talk to her about this

[JimRSmith]

I think you're right to think about it before hand, and explore if there's something driving it that you might not be comfortable with, but this is actually very common.

As other people have said, as long as there's a safe word, it could actually be hot as hell for both of you.

[CapnHawk]

If it's consensual, you're comfortable with it, and you have a safe word/phrase, then go for it. I had a G/F that loved to do a rape fantasy and I have to admit, we had fun.

[Kaneki05]

Just have a safeword but it's nothing to worry about she is just kinky which is not a bad thing

[nickyBBB]

Nope not at all I think. Just be careful and stuff

[Celtero]

Don't do it if you don't want to. Also, make her sign a contract in case she's trying to frame you for rape.

[Mexicoman101]

Nah I don't think that's bad at all as long as you're both having fun.

Get her on tape though, get her to say in a recording that she wants you to come in at night at random & have your way with her so you can stage a rape fatasy. Don't even think about doing it if you don't have evidence that as an act it's a mutual thing.

[Stringer]

I would try and talk to her, understand where this is coming from. If she has some past trauma then it might not be a good idea.
Also, I am not sure if it is possible, but maybe consult a lawyer. I know it sounds ridiculous, but she could use it against you if she wants.
PS. Don't forget about a safeword.

[LegateLanius]

Do it.

[BleepRawrsaurus_Rex]

Weird, use a safe word.

[Alteredstates]

Lol WTF Talk... listen son go to your nearest Home Depot and get Duct tape, rope, knife, rag to insert in mouth, your typical rape kid and have at it. Maybe after the rape, I can be your trial lawyer... I object... Oh and make sure she swallows the evidence! DNA is a bitch. And if you need an accomplice call me...

[RaceAgainstMachine]

Why would it be wrong?

[Asker]

Because if she has an underlying psychological problem causing the rape fantasy I will be putting fuel on the fire.

[RaceAgainstMachine]

Who says it’s an underlying psychological problem? It’s a very common thing for a woman to have a rape fantasy, it’s completely normal

[Belle1838r]

Have a long talk

[HoksilaSka]

No. It's actually very common for that to be a fantasy. Porn could be the cause of desire considering that is how most men learn their desires. Just be careful she isn't trying to get you a rape charge. That entire random night and breaking in is very unusual to me. Normally it's a blindfolded thing and no "consent to actions taken" sorta thing.

[SolaireSunBro]

Not wrong but weird very weird... mentally ill type weird...

[Anonymous]

I acted a similar fantasy with my boyfriend, but he was the "victim" ;)