Is it wrong that I want a guy who would get me pregnant?

I am single but want a baby. I checked into sperm bank process but the cost is over ten thousand. I just want to get pregnant and have baby. I don't want anything from the guy. Not sure how to go about it. They call it natural insemination but I need donors. Anyone know how to get donors or whatever or ideas?
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  • so i wanna prefice what i'm going to say by saying that i'm not attacking you. how you feel is indeed common and normal for women your age, so feeling like this is natural for you. as a human, you're genetically primed to feel like this, so i don't want you to feel bad about yourself so please try to see yourself from a self critical eye as you read what i have to say. you are free to tell me how wrong i am but here i go:

    yes it absolutely is wrong. because it's mostly egoistic it's about you feeling like a mother. it's about fullfilling your natural urge to procreate without going through the hassle of finding an adequate partner for that, while lacking the experience to adequately evaluate the consequences of that decision. you wanna feel like an like an adult, cause your body is adult. yeah sure you'll have convinced yourself that you wanna just wanna care for a little child and you have all that romantic stuff in your head of a baby to nurture and to rise. but is it really not about yourself? think about that.

    so then there's a more objective argument: from a social-scientific and psychological perspective, single parenthood is the WORST predictor for success later in life. in fact there are a multitude of issues that are very likely to arise in personal development of your child. a father figure is as far as we know vital for a young person to develop properly. no matter if girl or boy. even children that do have a dad can have similar problems, if it's a weak father figure (same with mother figure. i'm not being sexist)... so even if you happen to be the best single mom ever, which we can neither confirm nor denie at this point, you knowingly and willingly are intentionally creating the WORST possible environment for a young human to grow up in. so considering the latter, i do think you should really reconsider that choice. obviously it's your life and your choice. but what i just said is the facts.

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  • Sperm banks follow a solid legal basis. The other option may become a headache for you (legally speaking). What if the guy changed his mind? Legally speaking we would have the right to see his child. Option A can be expensive, but option A guarantee legal rights for you and legal restrictions for donor.

    • he would have****

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  • This is in no way a suggestion, but I'm just relating a story to you. I posted it before and guys came unglued. I wasn't part of this, I was just relating the story. But most people on this site are too stupid to figure that out.

    A husband couldn't get his wife pregnant. They were facing the same dilemma as you.
    It would have been very easy to find a guy who would have sex with her, but then they'd know who the father is, and the father would know. This could cause problems down the road. So the guy arranged for 29 guys to have her in one day. She got pregnant and know one has a clue who the father is.

    Again, I'm not suggesting you do this, but I think you get the point. I'm sure you could create a situation where you wouldn't know who the father is. It just depends on your comfort level.

  • Can I ask why you feel you need a baby? Is it just because you want one? Especially without a partner.

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  • There’s an app for that. It’s called ‘just a baby’ and exists for both Android and IOS. It’s a bit like Tinder for sperm donation. You can also use a jar and a syringe, there’s no need for sex if you don’t want to.

  • When you have a baby, will you support it with your own earnings or will you need AFDC amd Medicaid assistance?

  • You would have to talk to a lawyer to make sure the man wouldn't be liable for support.

  • It's really not fair to the child to be raised by a single parent but as long as they're loved they will turn out fantastic. You have to be prepared to endure every expense raising a child and it's not cheap.

  • You want to be a single mother? Why? That shouldn't be something you should want.

  • How do you propose to take care of this little person? Are you wealthy? Are your parents?
    A baby isa huge responsibility.

  • No, not at all, I'm looking for a gal that could carry a child that in part came from for me through NI.

  • I donate sperm in past few times...

    • That is nice

  • Don't understand why want a child so much.

  • It's wrong that you are so selfish that you are ok with your kid not having a dad in his/her life.

  • If you want that I get it. I will fuck you if you want it.

  • not if you make a contract saying u want to just get pregnant. i wanna make a baby but girls dont want me

  • That not weird at all

  • I don't think this is a big problem. u will have a bigger problem managing the queue

  • No its not but from a religious perspective just a suggestion how about marriage

  • Just go to a bar and hook up

  • No it is not wrong
    Come to me and have a love and I'll fuck you on a daily basis until you get pregnant with me
    The price is that we will remain in an open relationship with me i. e. having sex without marriage : )

  • For the childs sake, make sure you keep its Father. Its not a baby for long. When you want kids you're actually committing yourself to look after this little human until it's, well not little anymore, a long process!

  • Yes, any guy who donated his sperm in this manner is still responsible for child support.

  • If you just want to get pregnant, find a hook up on Tinder. Most of the guys are thirsty af on there and don’t want to wear condoms anyway. He’d never even know.

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