Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health Is it wrong to ask a friend to guide you through firsts? Kiss, virginity, etc?
kinokino Xper 3
I experienced sexual assault when I was younger and I have a hard time being comfortable when the topic of romantic actions like kissing or sex are brought up directed to me. I really want to be in a relationship, but it’s hard for me to even date casually because i’m so nervous of being around men that might want to do things like kiss me, so I can’t really get anywhere from this. I want to ask a guy friend that I trust a lot to guide me through things and be my first kiss so I can get it over with, and maybe even ask him to take my virginity. If he does that for me, I think i’d be able to get over my fear of relationships a bit faster. I’m just worried it might make him feel weird if I ask him to do something like that. In your opinion, would that be weird or the wrong thing to do?
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What Girls & Guys Said
1 31Not wrong but be careful non of you get attached
that is a good idea, a guy you trust very much. tell him the whole story and what you need
If you are both comfortable with it then i dont see any problems with it
I don't think so
All you have to do is explain your situation. Remember it's not your fault
I think it's very good to ask
It would take a lot of discussion. You'd have to make sure you're both on the same page and understand this situation fully. And the thing with feelings is, you can't control them. What if they develop for either you or him during this? Then what? One thing for sure, it will definitely change your relationship with him. Either good or bad, but change it for sure. The best you can hope for is you'll be even better friends (closer) than you already are, but things could get "messy". I suggest if you're serious about this, have a very long talk with him about it, tell him exactly how you feel and what you want out of this (and don't want), and then see how he feels about it and go from there.
Yes, that would be weird; maybe you should date a guy that is waiting until marriage for sex. So you don't feel pressured into anything too quickly. It is also not uncommon among women who are waiting for marriage to wait until the wedding kiss to be their first kiss. So most guys who are waiting wouldn't be put off by you doing something similar.
Aww if he’s a true gentleman he’ll understand and help u out