Is It Wrong To Fantasize About A Man Using My Body Solely For His Pleasure?

Follow Up: 👇
Have You Ever Wanted Someone To Take FULL Control Over Your Body?
"Dont call me angel, Ive already fallen" ✨️
"Don't call me angel, I've already fallen" ✨️
Author's Notes: 💐
"Basically him taking full control over my body and doing whatever he wants to it. Why is the idea so arousing to relinquish control and be used?

Am I weird for having thoughts like this?" 🙊

No Judgements Please... Serious Question... Help Me Or Don't Waste My Time 🌻
Updates:
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Follow Up: 👇 Would I Be Betraying My Gender By Indulging This Fantasy? "You know... Feminism, women's empowerment, and stuff? Should I just keep these fantasies a secret so I don't lose female respect & support?" Honest Answers Please 🥀
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Last Note:👇 I'm worried that I'm not being "feminist" enough in my desires but I can't help what I like. 🤷‍♀️
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  • Honestly it's not wrong it's not wrong at all matter of fact there are guys who have the reverse of that fantasy where they wish to dominate a woman and make her submit.

    If you ask me I think it's actually natural not only is it not strange I feel like women at least on some scale are biologically designed to have such thoughts but that the modern day has caused these thoughts to develop to "that" basically I think you're feeling a modernized version of a primal urge.

    Personally I think the urge developed as sort of like a sexual filter designed to more or less make weak men less attractive. You see a long time ago back before we became a civilized as we are now weak men were almost guaranteed to die whether it be through war, starvation, getting killed by a wild animal or some other form of tragic death. If the man is weak then he can't provide and before we had all these commodities it was solely up to the man to do the dangerous jobs and if the man died well let's just say you were stuck up an unpleasant creek without a paddle. Also that means you are likely to have a weak child and the weak child would also die maybe and if not then both of you will probably die. So as one might imagine that would naturally lead women to biologically be inclined to have a stronger more masculine mate and as civilization started to change with war and things like that the need for strong men persisted but in what way they are needed had changed drastically. And with our society constantly changing and the way we view sex constantly changing that has led to these primal desires taking a new form but keeping the fundamental concept of filtering out the weak.


    Again this is all just speculation and I don't know how much of that you care about but I figured I might as well put that on there

    • AWESOME feedback! I really learned a lot from reading your opinion. It makes sense that we are basically programmed to want to be dominated and controlled.

    • I don't know if we’re programmed to… but I like being abit submissive n plzng him.

    • Response to your fallow up: You're not betraying your sex by indulging in your submissive fantasies Fact is if a movement that "wants to empower women" decides that you indulging in your submission kink is bad then aren't really empowering women rather they are trying to make women fit their ideology which ironically is the opposite of empowering them

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  • Hey my friend! Okay, first off, news flash: While in the throes of sexual arousal, the total truth is that all men are “using [your] body solely for [their] pleasure.” Just wanted to clear that up first! So, with that in mind, how could it be ‘wrong’ for you to fantasize about a man using your body solely for his sexual pleasure, when that’s what is actually happening anyway? The short answer: it’s not!

    Now, as for why you find it arousing to relinquish control and be used by a man sexually... I hope this doesn’t offend, but here’s my take on that: I have encountered all sorts of women in powerful life positions who wanted to be ‘taken’ or wanted a man to have his way with them in bed. I feel the reason for that sexual urge in so many women is completely natural, and harkens back to something primal, way back in human evolutionary history. Back then, the order of things was such that males were naturally physically larger, stronger and faster than their female counterparts, and breeding was a sheer act of physical and sexual dominance by the male. In today’s world, that has shifted due to social changes, but the underlying physical/sexual dynamic has remained mostly the same. So, when a man ‘uses’ or ‘takes’ a woman sexually, it taps into that primal, primitive evolutionary power exchange, which is why I believe it excites and arouses so many women to be taken or used that way by a man.

    • LOVE your answer. I really enjoyed reading your thoughts on this topic. It was very reassuring and helped me understand better. Thank you

    • My pleasure. ☺️❤️

    • I hope you enjoy the upcoming weekend

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  • I’ve got full trust of my boyfriend. He is def in control that way…cause he knows I luv 2 plzzz him. It becomes super easy when he basically tells me what to wear n stuff. I know he likes my outfit.

    • I have the urge to please as well! I don't know if it's a good or bad trait honestly.

    • I think it’s good. N trust that he’s liking what’s I’m doing. It’s only super frustrating if he doesn’t let me orgasm. He’s done that with me if he wants me to beg.

  • As long as it's consensual, I don't think it should matter.

    • I totally agree

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  • Interesting follow up question. Interesting in the underlying feelings of guilt behind it.

    From my perspective I don't see that there is any difference between a woman wanting to give herself to her male partner for his pleasure as there is for a male to give of himself to his female partner purely for her pleasure.

    To me it seems that the the feelings of guilt lay in today's misconceptions about feminism. Feminism is actually about equal rights and opportunities regardless of gender whether they're social, political or economic.

    The misinterpretations, compounded by misinformation driven by cynicism and bitterness via social media, online rants, blogs etc., seems to put the message forward that it's all about empowerment for women through the emasculation of men.

    Therefore, this constant exposure to male bashing makes women feel guilty if they feel the need to want to give pleasure to their male partners when according to these misguided "feminists" the male should be subordinate and made to serve women. I should add for clarity that women are not subordinate to men, nor should they be servants to men, we are what we are, men and women, male and female.

    Any woman who knows the value of true relationships, who hasn't turned cynical or isn't bitter because they've had bad experiences with men, doesn't need apologising to just because you're happy with your partner and get satisfaction out of giving him satisfaction, nor would they think you need to feel guilty about it.

    That's my observations anyway.

    • Thank you for taking the time to explain your answer! I really appreciate it.

  • This is one of my biggest turn-ons really. To be used for his pleasure and have him take control. I don't want to be abused, or hurt, but the idea of surrendering control to the right guy warms me right up.

    • I completely agree! 1000%

    • You (and your boyfriend) might enjoy trying out FetLife if you feel that way. Have you brought it up for him yet? The human sex map might be a good conversation starter in that case.

  • I want him to use my body for his pleasure.

    • I share the same fantasy

  • The idea of being used to please a man is so exciting. Nothing to be ashamed about. n

    • Thank you for your reassurances! I just feel so guilty for even being turned on by the idea.

  • Not weird. A fantasy is a fantasy. It's harmless imaginings. Some people like to surrender control whether based off personality or maybe as an opportunity to switch roles. As long as there's total and absolute trust between you two and there's a safeword, go nuts and indulge.

    • Thank you for your help!

    • You're welcome!

    • Happy Friday

  • I consider that every person is free to express their desire in some way, if you want that, is your personal choice for satisfying your personal sex appetite, and is alright while you feel fine and confident about it, sex is a very wide territory to explore and the limits you put to it are very intimate and deserve respect.

    • Very nice!

  • As long as it’s voluntary you do you. The instant it’s not that’s a problem. Other than we’re all individuals with different tastes and turn-ons I don’t know that there is a reason for peoples bedroom preferences.

    • Oh yes! I want to give consent for this but with someone I trust fully and love unconditionally before even attempting this. But I doubt I will ever get a chance to live out my fantasies

    • Have you heard of the concept of consensual no consent? I. e. enacting fantasies of sexual violence by an intimate partner against you? It doesn’t make logical sense but it does exist. That’s a good starting point for further research. Have you brought it up with your partner? I’m afraid of being given that kind of power, even though I don’t think I’d know what to do with or how to abuse it.

    • Yes! I've read about it in some of my erotica books.

  • Women naturally tend to be submissive to a man who ignites passion within her. A tingling sensation to give herself to a stronger man. Women, even the most hardcore feminist you will meet (that is still straight mind you) want a man who is superior to her in strength and status. That's just how biology works. Men see women as sex objects, but women see men as SUCCESS objects. We both objectify the other sex. You are just following your instinctual programming.

    • OH MY GOSH!!! This is literally exactly how I feel! Like verbatim. Absolutely adore your opinion. Very helpful and insightful. Thank you for taking the time to explain your answer for me. I consider myself an Alpha female/straight and just imaging a guy more dominant and superior than myself is so arousing. I don't understand it at all but if we are programmed instinctually to seek superior and dominant males it definitely explains my fantasies. I've just recently met a guy who fits that description and it's been very confusing for me. I always thought alpha males were just arrogant or cheaters but I understand now that all of them are not like that. So confusing. Lol. I think my fantasies are safer just staying in my head 😂🙈

    • Alpha males build people up, bullies tear people down. Alpha males lead, bullies intimidate. Alphas leave a legacy, bullies leave a path of destruction. Alphas make women jealous of their partners, bullies make men jealous of their partners. THEY ARE NOT THE SAME.

    • @Sixgunsound Completely disagree. Bullies as you say, are asshole alphas (or wannabes) also the most common type. Benevolent alphas are the exception rather than the rule, throughout human history. Though alphas tend to last much longer if they are nice to those they rule over.

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  • I don't know if I would recommend it to do but I think there is nothing wrong with it at all tbh. Honestly it sounds kinda amazing to me and I think it's a guilty pleasure for a lot of men.

    I would like to try it sometime if a woman would allow me to although I'm not sure if I'll be able to do it actually because it requires me to put my compassion for the woman asside so that I don't feel bad afterwards and I'm not sure I'm able to. But it sounds amazing anyway 😂🙈

    • I enjoyed reading your thoughts on this topic. I completely understand what you mean. I don't want to get hurt or be taken advantage of so I doubt this fantasy would ever grow into fruition but a girl can dream right. Lol

    • Never say never. When you find the right guy and have a good relationship with him I don't see any problems in being able to for fill that dream. 🤷🏼‍♂️ I can totally relate to your desire to try it sometime and I share the exact same fantasy with you only from a man's perspective and just the thought alone already turns me on bigtime hihihi 🙈🤤 I have had the chance in the past with my ex girlfriend I lived together with for 6 years and she wanted to know what my guilty pleasure was so I told her that I fantasized about having sex just for my pleasure alone and she allowed me to do so. It was amazing till the moment arrived that I was having guilty feelings because I felt I was being to rough with her maybe so it ruined the moment totally for me and I couldn't continue because I didn't wanne hurt her in any way so I stopped having sex with her🙈 She asked me why I stopped so I explained her that I felt guilty for being to rough on her and she started laughing because apparently that wasn't the case at all and she enjoyed every minute of it she said 🤦🏼‍♂️ I totally ruined my moment of being able to forfill that guilty pleasure I had and I still hate myself for being so stupid hahaha😂😒 Hopefully someday I will be getting another opportunity for it but I'm not really sure about finding someone again who's likes it too

    • Oh no! I'm so sorry the moment was ruined. But I'm glad she enjoyed it.

  • It's completely normal to have such a fantasy. Women tend to be more submissive than men and find pleasure in being used by men.

    • This makes a lot for sense!

    • Of* not for lol 😂

  • It is not. I know very well that you can derive pleasure from giving your partner pleasure. My SO NEVER, EVER received oral sex before I came along. She indulges herself with it like covering herself with warm blanket on a cold day. She sleeps and snores after. I just look it her. This really IS good.

    • This is so romantic and erotic!

  • Personally I'm not at all in that kind of kink, not doing it, nor undergoing it. There are nevertheless more people than admitted to be into that kind of fantasies, and not only women. Maybe you should try some BDSM sessions, be it to check if reality fits your imagination.

    If many people seem to prefer being dominated, sure enough there are other people loving to dominate submissive folks... If those fantasies remained in the realm of playful games, that would not be a problem, but far too many men and women do not want to play anymore. They want this kind of relation to be extended to populations and countries: one of the main reasons why there's so much misery and so many wars everywhere. Time for as well girls as guys to emancipate.

    Having spontaneous fantasies is something common and rather normal, but the point is what we actually do with them. That's where one's responsibility starts, because one can choose whether to indulge or not ! No offense meant: only meditating a bit...

    • Oh okay!

  • Yes, I like to have a woman discipline me and tell me to be a good boy

    • Oh nice!

    • @secret6620 👍

  • 10/10 might racemix again

    • "Race mix"?

  • Your not weird or alone with that fantasy as far as my experience goes. There are also plenty that wants to do that.

    • I didn't realize how common this fantasy is. Some of the girls also share the same fantasy so I don't feel so weird anymore. It seems pretty normal actually

    • Exactly

  • just means your more submissive in a relationship and/or during sexual encounters.

    • It’s way more than that. My rules and tasks are for my benefit too. It’s about trust. I trust him to protect me. If I disobey him I im breaking that trust and should be punished.

    • @Chiarac2003 oh wow!

    • I’ve agreed to be there 4 him n he 4 me. Sooo many of my frnds r constantly worrying about what there bf’s r thinking or wanting etc. I don’t at all. My boyfriend tells me what he’s thinking r what he expects of me. I’m happier knowing if he’s decided what’s good 4 me it’s what he wants.

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  • Yes it's very wrong and you've been a naughty naughty girl.

    • Ahahaha 😂🙈

  • It's the anticipation of- maybe- just maybe- getting your wifey butt whapped, then- perhaps- a tickling of the wifey inner thigh, just before another good slap to your wifey rear. Or - maybe not. Maybe he'll just let you lay there- blindfolded, gagged and bound for five minutes - but it will feel more like a half-hour- because you just - never- know- when that smack or pinch or ice cube or (whatever) might just cum, er, come, your way!

    Many times, the travel to get to the destination is much more enjoyable than the destination itself. Hence it is with foreplay, using your butt for target practice, milking your boobs if he's "thirsty", etc.

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    I guess he's gonna , like it or not !
    I guess he's gonna , like it or not !
    • Oh wow! Awesome feedback. I really like the last picture.

    • - - - - you should see the part I had to crop OUT of the last pic!!! Let's just say that she is looking at something rather large and somewhat cylindrical.

    • It’s not always about sex…sometimes 4 me my boyfriend give me sex as a reward.

  • Kinda sad you changed your profile pic

    • I've changed it back. A guy was bullying me earlier so I took it down and then later changed my mind and put it back up to piss him off more.

    • Sorry to hear that. What a douche

    • It's Okay! He was a rude person. I don't have time for that. Lol

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  • I have the same fantasy in reverse.
    I don't think it's wrong, I feel like some people are so used to being in control that the thought of relinquishing that control is an extremely attractive thought. Add in the trust and other qualities needed to let yourself be in that position and you have a potent recipe for an extremely erotic fantasy.

    • Yes!!! That's exactly how I feel. Being enlisted in the Marine Corps has made me an Alpha female that's always in charge. So just imagining not being in charge and being controlled by someone more dominant is such a great fantasy. I doubt I'll ever live out this fantasy but a girl can dream lol

    • Never say never! Life can be surprisingly good like that sometimes

    • Also I don't think you should worry about being feminist with that fantasy, the question alone speaks to how far women have come. The fact that you can be free to be as "inappropriate " or sexual as you please, that you could seek this experience out of you so chose. The dominant/submissive stuff is secondary to the fact that you're empowered to make that decision in the first place

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