Is it wrong to look at girls even though there is nothing you can ever do about it?

Is it wrong to look at girls even though there is nothing you can ever do about it?

I am a high school teacher and some of the girls in these classes today, damn. They didn't look like that when I was in high school. Is it wrong to look and fantasize? I will never act on any of my thoughts, I would never do that, but can I control my thoughts? Should I even try to control my thoughts?

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  • It’s difficult I’m sure because nowadays society has sexualized young underage women way too early. Fashion tries to bring out the sex appeal in younger women when they are still underage and should be focused on their education. It’s so sad. I blame Hollywood, Cosmopolitan, modern fashion, government, the public education system, and lastly but most importantly parents for not teaching correct principles of morality and being involved in their life!

    All that said, you have to control those thoughts. You are responsible for their safety and protection. You are the one who is supposed to stop predators when they are on your watch. So be a good watchman and don’t allow yourself to become predatory in any way. Any position of trust will get a person a charge with aggravating factors. Remain trustworthy and reliable in a world that is moving more toward institutionalizing child sex trafficking and embracing pure evil toward children and underage kids. Remember, they are someone else’s daughter or sister. Protect them with your life. Fight off the constant evil that’s an increasing threat to these kids.

    Lastly, find someone who you can love and share the beauty of intimacy with. It will take the edge off. But be good to her, love her, and make sure she is 18+

Most Helpful Guy

  • There is no such thing as thought police so there is no moral standard that applies to thoughts. I don't have the memory capacity to recall the number of times I've thought of setting the entire world on fire - certianly the height of immorality (unless you can figure out how to sell it). Is that less bad than you wanting to rub kids just because my fantasies aren't feasible? I would suggest a quantum model for morality in that nothing can be morally judged until it affects action and then those actions are to be judged dependent on the thoughts that led to them. For example, if I invented a source of clean unlimited energy but I only stumbled on it in my quest to burn everything down, maybe don't praise me for it.

    Similarly, if you are slightly more (or less, if you are a bit of a sadist) forgiving of grammatical errors because you are sexually attracted to the person you are grading, or you even just notice them more prominently because you are paying more attention, you've gotta find a work-around to make the class fair to everyone. That's all that really matters, after all. Stopping yourself from wanting those fantasies will make that task easier but there are pleanty of feasible hard ways to achieve the same results. But if you want to rein in your fantasies to make that easier, I'd suggest considering how disgusted with yourself you would be if you ever went through with it. How paranoid that for example someone might have recorded it and you could end up in prison. How unenjoyable it might be in the moment worrying that anyone could walk in at any time. I think far fewer mistakes would be made by people over all if we spent some time marinating in thoughts of the consequences to our actions. Try that then see if there is still any quality to the fantasies, or if they become as silly and meaningless as your most cringey of awkward childhood memories.

Most Helpful Girls

  • We know you're looking and sometimes we give you something to look at. I would have done some of my teachers if they had asked, or at least asked after I graduated. I did suck a 23 year old tutor one time.

    • How old were you with the tutor?

  • As a teacher you shouldn't be having those thoughts about your students

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  • Dude. Capture your thoughts and discard. I bet they can sense it. I get you because I rent lots of property next door to universities.

    The 18 year old drop your mouth open. But no, parents with wallets and lawyers etc. I had to hire one part-time who works on commissions to substitute her graduate assistantship. She keeps my numbers good bringing in parent and university banked residents.

    But I am never in the lobby…sitting in the 3-seater couch over lunch etc. It’s already bad enough that I’m provider with Income and bonus for Exceptional and Excellence and keeper out of Petty Cash.-Starbucks Keurig…. Like you imparting information and controlling mind and emotion.

    Im private Business and cautious…you’re Public Servant in a feminist world. Hate it for you…

  • You need to be careful not to stare, or to keep directing your gaze to some attractive student. This will be noticed. We see multiple questions on GaG from students who noticed that they are getting a lot of attention from a teacher.

    • Find an adult woman to date.

  • It's not wrong to look at high school girls, but you're being risky doing it. You're a teacher, and it's important to maintain a professional relationship with your students.

  • There's a difference between looking and staring. However, if they dress promiscuously for the attention, they lost the right to complain when the unattractive guys are staring.

  • If you are a barely competent guitarist, it it wrong to listen to solos by Hendrix, Clapton, Beck, Page, Vaughn and dozens of others? You will probably never be as good.

  • Yes you should control it. You're their teacher.

  • Control your thoughts because if you don't, you can seriously get into trouble that can ruin your life and you will regret it. If I were you, I would teach College students intstead.

  • No, they are fertile. You smell them first. Think about it, if I was a 17 year old in your class, would it be wrong for me to think the same things? Just dont go there.

  • Seems inappropriate to have those thoughts.

  • No. Don’t let the triggered entitled asshole tell you otherwise. They wear practically nothing and then shame men for looking.