Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health Is it wrong to want someone who knows what they’re doing?
Anonymous
I’m a virgin and the idea of sex terrifies me, especially if it’s with someone who doesn’t know what they’re doing either. Is it wrong to want to be with a guy who knows what he’s doing when it comes to sex?
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Please no insults, it’s something I’m struggling with a lot and insulting me for how I feel isn’t going to help anyone ☹️
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What Girls & Guys Said
1 39No, that's very smart.
You just happen to like confidence. You want a guy to take charge and tell you what to do. Pass
Very wrong
No it's not, I lost my virginity to a neighbor lady over twice my age. She taught me everything about how to please a woman.
I'm a better lover because of it.
No there nothing wrong with that if I was a virgin I'd want some one that know what there doing is there anything in particular you want to know
No it’s not wrong at all
Absolutely.
The guy should get you to relax with lots and lots of foreplay. And when you are sexually aroused and soaking wet, id tell you to get on top. That way you control how far you want me inside you, and you control any pain.
The one and only virgin I had the honor of taking, I followed that formula and then I asked her if she felt pain, she said a little but what she felt after was well worth the pain.
We still keep in touch, she’s married and has kids now. You never forget your first.
I didn't understand do you want to sex or not
I do, but I just would feel more comfortable if my first time is with someone who’s not a virgin because they have a better idea of what they’re doing.
But this a chance like gamble he will be perfect or so bad. Nobody knows that
No, they can hurt you or be not good. But even if was more experience can still be too much and hurt you.
No that’s normal and not weird to want. You also need to learn what you like
Everyone knows what they’re doing, sex is pretty simple,
you jus stick your dick in vagina, there’s no special technique or rules, aslong as you put penis in vagina your doing the right thing
I've yet to meet a guy who tries to put his dick in a girls belly button cos “he doesn’t know what he is doing”
lmao
jus in and out, that’s all, speed change is up to you
What dumbass dislike that think there’s a special way to have sex? What, u think u gotta put wings on your back or get some mechanical robot penis that thrusts 10000 mph or something? I’m right so why dislike, I’m jus telling truth, sex is just a penis going in and out of vagina, that’s all it is, there’s no special technique, it’s the same thing every time
If I’m wrong then tell me what u can do different during sex? Change the speed? Ok maybe that’s the only thing u can do different but speed really doesn’t matter Cos sex feels good at any speed
not wrong at all, that is one of the reasons young ladies like older men
That is why a lot of girls go for the older guys
Not at all. It saves all the fumbling around. But find someone gentle and sensitive for your first time
I lost my virginity to a girl who already had sex. She actually liked taking virginitys so it was a strange situation but I'm glad I did. People put so much importance on who the first time should be with and not how it should happen. Make sure it is with someone you trust and can explain your feelings to so they understand as well and then you're good to go. Short answer, no.
most guys will tell you they know what they’re doing. And a lot of women will think that a guy who’s been around the block knows what they’re doing which is not necessarily true it just means that a lot of girls are dumb enough to let them get it.
If you want to guy who knows what he’s doing you’re going to have to look for maturity because that’s the only real way you’re gonna find anyone who will take the time to get you properly aroused so that you don’t get hurt the first time
well said
Experience doesn't mean that he knows what he is doing. Just that he is more capable of convincing women to let him in their pants. As a virgin you should stick to dating other virgins. They are a lot safer as far as STDs go and they are more likely to take it slow with you. Plus learning together is the best way to experience sex.