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  • This would 100% depend on the reason she's making him wait. There are completely genuine and legitimate reasons for a woman to make a man wait that are not selfish or manipulative or a way to mess with his head or string him along. There are also many selfish and manipulative reasons women hold back the sex from a man, which is very selfish, messed up and manipulative & wrong. So it really just depends on the reason! If you have a genuine good reason with pure intentions behind it then there's nothing wrong with that and you shouldn't be made to feel guilty for it. So just search your motives very deeply and ask yourself why you're holding out and just make sure that it's for an un selfish reason.. and if you feel you have a genuine reason for holding out, I think that is okay if it's with pure intentions but the least you can do is lay it all out on the table for the guy right from the beginning so he's not being misled and he can know right from the start what he's getting in to and be aware that he's not going to be getting laid any time soon. It's just wrong to mislead a guy making him think he's going to get laid way sooner than he actually is or making him think he's going to get laid when he's not. As long as you're upfront about it from the beginning men are usually pretty cool about a woman not wanting to have sex.. I just don't think they like feeling teased , trick or mislead. You'll notice that's usually actually when you'll see guys turn into jerks and get angry over not getting sex.

    • Damn great answer.

    • Definitely MHO.

  • Nope. A man isn’t entitled to your body just because he got the chance to talk to you.

    • I'm sorry about all the down votes.

    • @Evalyn it’s not surprising that the down vote is from a man lol

    • I mean agree he gets you and beauty cost. It cost a lot for a woman to be really fit and look good for him. but making him pay $2000 in 3 months and he gets nothing from it, is kind of messed up. If it takes over 3 months then should've done the right thing and let him go. It's okay to wait, but it's not okay to play games with him. Or lets say you have some trauma from a past relationship and you're not seeing a therapist or doing any self care to help with that, then that's not fair to him. Just making him wait and you haven't seen a therapist and you're not doing anything to help yourself. The man is important in the relationship too.

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  • Nope not at all.

    it’s about respect and consent (mutual). It can be a new relationship and not having sex straight away, it can be a longer term relationship where either partner decides no to sex.

    Obviously communication is bloody important, simply making someone wait is wrong if you do not give them some information, reason etc.

    i went through a no sex straight away with my girlfriend , as I said I wanted to wait until we had some emotional connection.

    A person could have slept around loads, had loads of sex with previous partners, then new partner, wants to wait, nothing wrong with it.

    Being upfront is best way to do things. everything is different with new partners, things are built on Trust, Respect, Honesty, communication and consent (informed). Waiting may be due to needing to trust, to find out if they are honest, that communication is there etc.

    https://www.youtube.com/embed/oQbei5JGiT8
    • This is great. I like to put two well written opposing opinions as MHO even if I don’t agree with it. Just to be fair. But I really can’t find any well written opposing opinions. So I guess I’ll just be biased and put you and the other person agree with.

    • @evealyn thank you for MHG, most appreciated Also thanks to @subarugirl for tagging me, or I may have missed the question.

  • Think of recreational sex like being the proprietor of the ULTIMATE 'theme park'
    as its Owner you are FULLY entitled to determine the terms for admission and
    "How tall you must be, to ride THIS thrill ride".

    Get it wrong and you either
    are unexpectedly tied to an 18 yr life-changing commitment
    you didn't bargain for
    or a chemical or surgical intervention.

    At the end of each encounter its YOU who has to maintain your 'park'
    you're entitled to BE selfish.
    Its NOT a democracy!

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  • Not at all, in fact if he is pushy for sex that seems rather selfish, as that may be all he wants.

    That said, women who use sex to control men is bad. You do what I say or else your not getting any. That isn't how love is suppose to work.

    I have a relative who his does that right now, do this or that or you don't get any.

  • It is selfish only if you think a woman is obligated to sexually satisfy a man.

    • You say this when we know women most of them are exactly like men and have sex much more than average men :)

    • @patrick677 I say this because I am older and have much more experience that you.

    • True🙏

  • If a guy has to wait... he can always jerk off till he has sex!

  • No, it’s her choice. It’s his choice whether to wait or to move on hoping to find a more willing partner. after divorcing, I was surprised to learn that most women are ready after the third date.

  • No, it's not. You want to have sex with someone who respects you, not an asshole.

  • She doesn't owe him sex, and he doesn't owe her free meals/paying for the dates either.

  • Yes, most guys would never think of making a woman wait for sex.

    • Most women wouldn’t either. My man made me wait for it. 🤷🏻‍♀️ not sure why there’s double standard to that.

  • Absolutely not, don't have sex unless you want to period.

  • Take your time, but if he will really just want to sleep with you he will wait without any problem. So figure out )

  • I don’t think so

  • It could depending on situation but not necessarily in general. Not selfish more just cruel.

  • I don't think it's selfish. You should do this, when you're both ready.

  • That all depends on how long you make a man wait.

    • How long did Barbara make you wait? @tatianamay

    • @PrettyPriya That ho still has he waiting and I am ready to dump her ass!!

    • @wise4myage 😂😂😂 I about died laughing. Omg "that ho". lmao

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  • All I can say definitely in the subject is this: getting MARRIED to a man and using sex to manipulate him in any way, including condemning him to a sexless relationship, is very, very hateful, reprehensible, and selfish.

  • Only if she's is trying to get back out of spite but if it's like a new relationship it not selfish.

  • Yes it is. She also risks losing the man.

    • Why is it selfish out of curiosity? If a man doesn’t want to wait, maybe he should just go find someone else anyways. Wanting automatic access to someone’s body is selfish

    • Well. Withholding sex is kind of selfish. After all, everyone knows sex is an important part of a relationship. And yes... if sex is denied, they very well should move on.

    • Who said it’s withholding though? If it’s openly discussed that she wants to wait and he Carry’s on with the relationship even though he wants sex, then he is a selfish brat.

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  • Depends why

  • no but at least helping with a handjob or a massage would be

  • Not if it's making him wait for the first time you two will have sex.

  • Some man can't wait for that much longer.

    • it's called self control

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