Is masterbating bad?

I’m embarrassed I have to ask strangers this but I don’t have anyone else irl I can ask.

My mom had caught me doing it yesterday and got really mad. When she cooled down she explained to me that it’s ok to have those feelings around my period but it’s not ok to act on them. What does she mean?

I don’t understand. Those feelings do not go away unless I act on them though and I thought it was ok cause it’s not like I’m going to get pregnant from it right? And I searched up on Google it was normal for girls my age to do that stuff so why is my mom telling me it’s wrong and I shouldn’t.

Please no creepy answers, I just want serious answers.
Updates:
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Now my mom thinks every fucking thing I do is bad. Today she walked in on me when I was washing my face and watching a yt video and she literally started yelling at me cause she thought I was watching porn. Wtf
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  • Sounds like she's reassuring you it's normal, but doesn't want you having sex yet.

  • She does not think you should be masterbating at all

  • It’s not bad it’s natural

  • I think everybody has those feelings

  • Masturbation is fine. It doesn’t replace being intimate but it feels good and relieves a person of sexual angst. Remember though that you need to build other coping mechanisms to deal with sexual urges, masturbation can’t always be the answer. For instance, some people run or lift weights, others take up time consuming hobbies or pour themselves into their work. Experience will help and I’m sure you’ll figure it out.

  • Masturbation is normal and natural. So, do what you want, just be more careful from now on.

  • No it's really really normal

  • It is normal to explore your body and sexuality. I think it is ok and I am a parent.

  • I say this in all honesty.
    Do what feels good to make u cum just don't let Mom find out about an lock ur bed room door or at lest wait until she goes to sleep but don't ever let someone not even ur own Mother make u ashamed of pleasing ur self.
    Ok now u know sometimes when u get done in doing so ur going to feel guilty about it but that's ok also just make it feel good.
    God Bless

  • No. Masturbating is perfectly okay, healthy and nobody can ever tell you whether to do it or not - that's abusive.

  • Is normal and good for learn body. Good for happy brain. Your mother should open with you more. Keep do it but watch for mother

  • It's very natural. Healthy even. Make sure you're not inserting foreign objects though. That can turn bad.

  • Maybe she is afraid that u may want to have sex and lose your virginity

    • Is she religious tho?

  • Yes it’s very developmentally appropriate for you to be doing that. If you repress the feelings that can complicate things later in life for you. It’s likely she has some moral or religious values around masturbation that it sounds like you don’t share.

  • Nothing wrong with being sexually explorative.

    Your mom was brought up being brainwashed (most likely by religious dogma) that anything about sex is bad.

    Sex is part of nature and nature is the ultimate power in the universe.

  • Yes it's normal human behavior.

  • It is normal human thing

  • I love masturbating and see nothing wrong with it.

  • Masturbation is completely normal. According to Jezebel “ A new study reveals 92% of women regularly take time out to masturbate, a huge jump from the findings of previous studies (74% in 1979 and 62% in 1953)”. I have heard that men masturbate at a rate of the high 90%. It is much better for you to relieve your sexual urges yourself than to hook up with a random man. I personally don’t know anybody that does not masturbate.

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