Is me wanting to do sexual stuff with a girl while I have a boyfriend cheating?

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OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

1. If you ask his permission and he grants it, and you do it with another girl, then it is not cheating.

2. If you ask his permission and he denies it, but you do it with another girl anyway, then it is not cheating.

3. If you cannot bring yourself to ask him, then you KNOW it's cheating.

I'll bet you won't ask him because you know it's cheating. If my girlfriend asked for permission to do that, I would tell her, "You might as well go hook up with your girlfriend, because whether you actually do it or not, just asking is enough reason for me to say AMF. So, . . . AMF!" And then I'd be out of there rather quickly.

So, come on! Why are you REALLY asking this question?

Miristheiss · Accepted Answer

Yes.

Whether you do it or not is irrelevant at this point.

Your guy should dump you and go find a loyal girl that wants just him. He is lame if he sticks around for this lame situation.

Even if you don't do it... it doesn't matter. You wanting to is already legit grounds for him to get the hell out of there.

provokeesmokee · Accepted Answer

Depends on how you and your boyfriend define cheating.

Talk to him about what you want to do.

Most men are pretty open to letting their gfs experiment with women, especially if he gets to watch (they're perverts like that but that also makes them predictable and usable).

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It could be depending on how your boyfriend views it. If he’s the jealous type, he probably will see it as cheating. If he’s more open-minded about bisexuality, then he might give you some latitude to experiment. You won’t know unless you talk about it.

Little_Bumblebee · Answer

Yes, that is cheating.

katiesmuff · Answer

My question would be "Why the Fuck are you still calling this Asshole a boyfriend"

Katie1964 · Answer

I would say yes, unless he agrees to it. Maybe invite him to play with the two of you.

spartan55 · Answer

Wtf is wrong with you? Break up with your shitbag boyfriend, then go out and eat all the clam you want.

integrale77 · Answer

Yes it's cheating but you might get allowed to do it if you invite him chance of a 3some

Apple1996 · Answer

If he allows it then it's not cheating

abc3643 · Answer

Hey! I haven't seen you in a while! Welcome back! Do this: Suggest to him the idea of an FMF. He will likely be OK with it and then you can get your jollies with both of them (assuming she agrees).

OfMiceandMen · Answer

Only your boyfriend can answer that one. If he's cool with it, then no harm no foul.

artgorgeous · Answer

Wanting is not cheating. If I want to fuck a unicorn, does it mean I'm cheating?

AviatorTom · Answer

Wanting to do something is not cheating. Doing it is.

Bricealan · Answer

My POV says no, it isn't cheating. Just shows you are inquisitive and sexually inclusive. I would not mind it at all.

Dargil · Answer

Wanting  (fantasizing) is not cheating.   Doing  is.

cnj421 · Answer

You gotta ask your boyfriend how they feel about it.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Yeah, that counts as cheating.

exitseven · Answer

Wanting is not cheating. We all have free will,

Kabluie · Answer

Depends what you defined as cheating, if you signed up for a monogamous relationship, probably will be. If open or non-monogamy, it's okay.

Ironic_Method · Answer

Ask your boyfriend. Cheating is whatever your partner considers cheating.

DextroShade · Answer

Depends on the boyfriend, I would offer him a threesome first.

Luopio27 · Answer

Two wrongs dont make a right.  Whatever that means. Just give him another chance or break up with him. Dont turn into a cheater even in the name of revenge.