Is my boyfriend bored of me and my body?

My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years. We are both in our early 20s and we used to have sex a lot. Our sex drives are both high and match up with each other except just recently, we have not been having sex as much. I would say up until this past month, in the 4 years that we have been together, we would have sex an average of 1-2 times a day. We would rarely go a day without sex. But in the past 2 weeks, we only had maybe twice and I had to initiate it. Is he getting bored of sex with me since it's the same body all the time? I even bought new sexy outfits to wear for him and he didn't seem too excited about it so I didn't. I could walk around naked and he wouldn't react. Do all long term couples go through this? Will it pass?
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  • It could just be a dry spell. In other words, people may temporarily get sick of doing something, so they'll take a break. After a few weeks, suddenly it's a lot more exciting and enjoyable. He needs time to let the sexual energy build up and unwind from all of the sex.

    To say that he's bored of you, because you haven't fucked for two weeks, seems a bit odd. You shouldn't jump to conclusions. If he were secretly talking to people online, THAT would be an indicator that he's bored of you. He just needs a break is all. It's common in most relationships.

    • Eh. Maybe.

  • I'm in 6 years relationship. We had sex 2-3 a day in first 2 years. Now it's more rarely. It's normal that we are having sex once a month. "Adult life" is begin. Maybe we are stressful, maybe we don't have time but we love each other and it's the most important. If someone want to reply that my man is bored of me or something like this- he proposed 4 months ago so this is not true :)

    • by the way there are situations that he wants and me not or I want and he's not. It's normal too.

  • your honeymoon phase is over.. I think it happens with all couples..

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  • Don´t worry, it´ll pass. It´s perfectly normal and I think you´re doing really well. Maybe it´s stress or some other factor in your relationship. Just talk openly about it. Maybe you can explore different things together and see if he´d like to do something a little more kinky and exciting ;) In longer relationships the trust is there but you are so worried about what the other might think that it´s actually harder to try new things.

  • The answer here is easy: talk to him. Here're some tips that many others have found useful.

    www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a10152-how-to-talk-to-your-so-about-sex

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  • If he truly cares for you, I don't believe people ever "get bored" of someone, how could you if you like them? But you have to talk to him about this. It may simply be he's got "comfortable" in the relationship. Don't take it personally or jump to conclusions without talking it over with him. Tell him what you want and need also (ie, if you want sex more often). He doesn't know if you don't say anything.

  • Let him have sex with other girls. That's what most of us want, and when it doesn't happen, we get unhappy. He's just afraid to say so, like most of us are, for fear of judgement.

    • I brought it up to him and he was 100% against it and said he didn't want to do that even if I was ok with it

    • Okay, fair enough. It's cool that you're cool enough that you brought it up. But if he genuinely doesn't want that, then it has to be something else. We wouldn't be able to tell without talking to him about it. What has he said, when you've asked him about it?

    • He didn't really give me a direct answer. It was more of the fact that I guess I recently had an emotional breakdown and it kinda scared him and caught him off guard I think? So he has been feeling kinda off about things. That's what he told me

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  • Once it starts to be a routine things become boring so spice thingd up and try to stop having sex for a period so he starts to miss it

  • Yes, break out the porn n booze

  • Its human nature... we get bored of everything... The point here is he got bored earlier than you... you may feel same after sometime...

  • Most certainly

  • everything will loss its value if you use it daily

    • So should I stop having sex with him for a while to make him crave it again?

    • give him time and try new things. be more romantic instead of more sexier

    • Why more romantic than sexy?

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  • This has more to do with intimacy than sex in every relationship Intimacy should be felt even when your apart, touch him always, when your around a lot of people show them how much you love him with a soft touch, men aren't men they are girls with a penis.

  • Yes.

    • May be

  • Some will pass but sounds like he is, not interested. If my girl walked around naked my dick would be hard

  • Nah, done with the same old tired pfunk.