Is my boyfriend crazy? (PLEASE HELP!)?

Hi everyone, so i’ve been with my boyfriend for a couple days now. We were talking for about 3 months before we decided to get in a relationship, we are long distance. He told me he was 21 at first (i’m 20f), I went to travel to him Saturday and my mom kept grilling me about his age, saying the only person named (HisNameHere) is 27, there’s no 21 year old with that name & last name in Rhode Island, so I had re-asked him “you’re 21 right?” and he just shook his head no & said he was a “couple” years older, and I got upset because he lied. he said he did it because he didn’t want me to stop talking to him bc of our age difference but it still gave him no right to lie. Anyways, he always brings up wanting me to have his baby, and at first during the time I thought “were 21 & 20 why would we have kids now?” but it makes sense because he’s 27. We did it without a condom and the first night he was like “let me impregnate you.” etc, & I was like No. He never wants to use a condom when we have sex, (so yes we’ve done it unprotected) and he even said he wants to impregnate me within a couple months. He literally tells me “It’s not a question, you’re GONNA have my kid.” & “I’m NOT using a condom when we have sex.” I ask him why does he want me to get pregnant so bad and he said it’s because i’ll be a great mom, etc. I don't know is he crazy?
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  • First of all, he deceived you about something to get you to entertain this relationship. That’s a red flag right out of the gate. You can’t base a relationship on deception. It was selfish and manipulative and that mind set will likely manifest itself in other ways if you stay with this guy. It’s also not normal to want to have a baby so soon into a relationship or to be so pushy about it against your wishes... again selfish and manipulative. You’re old enough to make your own decisions obviously but I would reconsider getting involved if I were you. You said you had unprotected sex already. Did he at least pull out or anything?

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  • Girl does he not know about boundaries and respect? i dont wanna talk ill of him if you really like him but the red flags are all over the place. Lying about your age isn't such a small thing if you think about it and also if you dont want a baby, that is YOUR body and he should respect your decisions. He shouldn't be forcing you to anything you don't want. Also, having a baby is a huge risk and responsibility so it should be a mutual decision between two thinking individuals. I hope he understands that pregnancy is not easy and can strain your body so it is a risk to your health. Also, it is a huge responsibility for you and him. It is a lifetime commitment. So tell him no if you dont want it and if he can't accept that maybe you should think about your relationship. I hope you both would have a healthy and thorough discussion about this. Take care. X

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  • I don't know about crazy, but he does sound out of his god damn mind being so careless about having kids with you. He barely knows you. He lies. He doesn't seem to care much about what you think, and I really wouldn't think that he's just joking when he says "you're GONNA have my kid." Even if he says he was kidding afterwards, I would not believe that shit for a second. That's a messed up thing to say. It's not funny, and no sane person would joke about that. He's not joking. If you choose to ignore it, and you stay with him, he's gonna take that as you accepting it.

    Moreover, he sounds to me like the kind of guy that's gonna let you take care of the kid more or less on your own, but that's just a guess.

  • He's crazy. End this before you end up pregnant by a man completely incapable of helping you raise a child. He lied about his age to keep you interested. You are young and inexperienced and evidently have no boundaries. Most women his age can smell his bullshit for miles and stay far away. End this before he wrecks your young life.

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  • I think it's a relationship you don't want to be in.
    He lied about his age and is now adamant to impregnate you?
    Maybe he's worried he's getting old and is desperate to have a family. For me he's not the right guy.

  • He is Too Quick to Get into any of This. Tell Joe to Go Slow. Many guys (For their Own reasons) will Lie about their age, Just make sure he is Truthful with Anything else. xx

  • 1 you are married, you live in your own apartment you have a good job and he loves you 2 it's time to have sex without a condom and have children. everything else is not!)

  • No he's not crazy. But you are if you let him put it in you with out a condom,, I would bet everything I own thst if you got pregnant he would be gone with in a year ,, another thing is yes he's more than crazy he's a power trip freak a controller look if he loved you he would show you he does by the things he says a does I'm going to tell you right now this guy is no good for u or anyone else ,,, I'm very sorry I know you don't want to hear it but it's the truth

  • Actually YOU are crazy for even entertaining that nut. Do you really have to ask if his conduct is normal?

    • you’re 49, act your age and stop being rude.

    • Great response, enjoy your psycho.

    • imagine being 49, & still being immature. just answer the question and move on. stop trolling

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  • This guy is a lier and a jerk. Tell no condom means no sex. He will have to jerk off instead. Do you really want to be a mommy at age 20? I say dump him and move on... you can do better.

  • Stalker, pervert, controlling are the first things that come to mind while reading your post. What qualities attracted you to him and why are you not taking charge of your body?

  • He’s crazy all right

  • I think its time to go. I have a thing about impregnating my woman, but I wouldn't do it until we are both ready and in a stable place in our lives. This guy doesn't seem to care about either.

  • He is definitely crazy. Break up with him

  • stop answering, people, she left the site already

  • I mean, I am going to hope this is a troll question but, if not, never speak to that man again and very possibly get a restraining order.

  • I’d kick him to the curb and walk on down the road.

  • get away from him... his cornbread ain't done in the center.