Is my boyfriend not into me during sex anymore ( read for more details ) ?

[Anonymous]

We been together for 10 years now.
our sex is definitely not the same and I understand things can get boring at times. Our favorite position was doggy but now we mostly do side ways , missionary and doggy to but seems like Is not one of his favorite anymore. I try wearing cute bra set or lingerie. I give him pleasure by giving him oral sex all time but I have notice that he is hard before sex for example if I’m blowing him and be hard and we are about to fuck ( we position ourself & ready for penetration) he gets some what soft where is noticiable. Or when he already inside me and I notice he gets soft. To me that’s a issue and is making me feel insecure and makes me think he doesn’t like what he sees am I wrong? Yes I have mentioned this to him and he gets mad because I tell him that he looks like he Noh into it because of that. Just last night we was together we was having sex and as soon as I got on top and ride I notice how soft he got but I kept going until his dick slide off and I said “ do you , just want stop “ he said no. So I suck him up again and he said turn around in doggy , so I did. In the process of “ positioning I notice how he got soft. “I told him your not even hard anymore, clearly your not into it or into me “ he said is because we are positioning. So basically he saying he gets soft because we are moving to fix ourself during sex. Hmm I got mad because that sounds dum I went ahead and said. So, you basically get soft when we are moving to position each other during each position. I told him clearly u just not into me. Your excuse sounds stupid. We went on arguing for 40 mins both frustrated. We eventually had sed he came twice in 2 rounds. I don’t know I just feel like he not into me anymore and wants to not hurt my feelings. Im Not fat at all I only gain 10 pounds 110-120. Not a big difference.

[bowenw]

His issue may be related to alcohol or drug use, either prescription or street. If it's neither of those, have him see his doctor and not to be embarrassed about it. Lots of guys have issues. It could be physical or mental. He probably feels terrible knowing he's disappointing you. There is always the possibility that he's cheating or jerking off a lot.

[Asker]

He cheated before and he does watch porn. Can you explain how it would be noticeable if he was cheating on me how would I know during sex.

[bowenw]

If he's into someone else he may not be turned on by you and not get as hard as in the past.

[Mystery1900]

It seems odd that he loses erection during penetration and while changing position. Usually I maintain a hard erection during foreplay and sex, including when changing position.

He gets hard when you suck him but then goes soft during sex, was he even that hard to begin with? Perhaps he does not have a very strong erection.

[JoyGirl]

Maybe try spicing up things in the bedroom, not just wearing lingerie. Do stuff like lap dances, surprise him by serving dinner naked etc. 🤔

I don’t have a dick, that is all I can think of from the female point of view.

[Asker]

Since we both females and he told you this or went through this wouldn’t you assume ge not into u or how would you react

[JoyGirl]

Yeaaaaa…I probably would feel the same way you feel. ;-;

[Guy__]

Poor diet, little exercise, environmental pollutants, mental stress and unrealistic porn are no brainers. Is he clean in all this?

[DonkeyDan]

Sounds like he's getting some issues with his equipment, because that doesn't seem normal to get soft just changing positions.

[Asker]

He turned 30 wouldn’t be still consider young for having issues

[DonkeyDan]

Yes, but that doesn't mean he doesn't have them, there can be things other than physiological, could be psychological, maybe too much porn consumption, or stress etc.

[JoyGirl]

@donkeydan Is it something he can go to the doctor for? 🤔

[DonkeyDan]

@JoyGirl I'd suggest going to the Doc's to rule out anything medical first, then look at psychological issues after that, but he has to accept there is an issue first. If it is that he doesn't feel the same about his partner then this is a while other story.

[JoyGirl]

Oof Good luck convincing him to go to the doc, asker. 😭

[Birdlegs]

It’s probably just as frustrating for him and the fact that it clearly is getting to you probably isn’t helping him. He can’t control his erection with his conscious thoughts it’s all subconscious

[Twalli]

My girlfriend and I noticed that while I appeared hard I couldn't go inside her because it bent like it was soft trying to go in her, but felt hard. We decided to do a few more minutes of foreplay thr next time (which is 69 for us). After that I didn't have any problems.

[Zygum]

His sex drive in decreased with age, this is common, man should use some drugs to boost the sex drive

[BLP11520]

How old is he? E D?

[Asker]

30 And I’m 27

[BLP11520]

Too young for E D.. sound like he has a problem of some sort. You are good in bed, so It isn't you.

[Anonymous]

High School sweethearts I'm assuming