Is my boyfriend not telling me something?

[Anonymous]

I adore my boyfriend, but he's been asking a bit of difference in bed. I don't mind him being dominant. However, it's actually stimulating; I have no idea where his sudden urge for anal came from. My friend said it might be becuase he wants to have sex without a condom on, or he's just being adventurous, but I remember him saying to me, "I just knew some girls liked having two things in them at once. I'm a little worried about the sudden changes mainly cuz it's like he becomes almost a different person in bed... I highly doubt he would ever cheat on him, so am I just being paranoid?

[Varanus]

He's probably always been into that, and finally feels comfortable enough to open up to you. It's normal to have some fetishes, but a lot of people are embarrassed about it, so as long as you're not super opposed to the idea, maybe go with the flow and try some new things. You might find you like them too. If you are up for trying anal, get some lube and practice a little first. The key is to relax, if you tense up it'll hurt. It'll feel super weird at first, but once you get used to it it can feel really good.

[Asker]

I guess you're right hopefully, I'm just surprised seeing he hasn't really had sex with anyone else I wondered how long he'd been thinking about that

[bowenw]

He may be getting ideas from watching porn. If you're not into his new urges just politely let him you're not into it. A good guy will respect your wishes. If anal sex is a deal breaker it may be time for him to find a new girlfriend. On the other hand, if you okay with trying it, tell him it's new to you and you're willing to give it a try if you take it very slow, and he stops if you find it's not for you for any reason.

[_the_moon_raider_]

Your doubt is quite natural according to what you said. And for a healthy relationship everything should be done with both of the people agreement. By the way can you please say what you mean when you say "he is completely different person in bed"

[Asker]

My boyfriend is a lot more on the gentle side it's one of my favourite things about him, but he's started to get a lot rougher in dead, it's kinda like the gentle bit of him kinda disappear and it makes me anxious

[_the_moon_raider_]

If you don't mind then I would like to say something.

[Asker]

i guess not?

[_the_moon_raider_]

To be honest according to my opinion he is just acting gentle just to make you feel that you are safe with him. And he doing this cause he wants a good sex life. Cause girls trust gentle boys really fast. This is my opinion and please don't mind cause I'm no one to judge your boyfriend. Sorry if my words hurt or pinched you.

[Asker]

ahh he's just a gentle person in general, it's his personality really which is why I'm kinda shocked by this side of him

[_the_moon_raider_]

Ok as you say, but can you say why does he get rougher during sex... Do you have any reason? See to be honest many people act gentle to impress women. But their reality comes when they don't get their expectations

[Asker]

I dont know the reason... that's why I posted the question? I just thought maybe he started watching porn and didn't tell me or something along those lines... I don't think he'd put up an entirely fake persona just for me to sleep with him especially after almost 10 months of dating

[_the_moon_raider_]

Exactly! I was just trying to say this. To be honest for people like these sometimes people like me suffers the most. No girl trust me that I just want to get loved and cared by someone. Ohhh sorry I got distracted.

[gandolph3]

If you are liking it, go with it, see where it leads