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Is my Fiance Gay or Bi-curious in some way or fashion if I caught him watching EXCESSIVE loads of shemale/trans woman porn?

Ok I really need some help or advice guys and ladies!! We're going on two to three weeks my fiance has been watching she male and trans woman porn a lot EXCESSIVE. The way it's received is both ways, he has watched it secretly after we already had phone sex as if I'm not enough? Does this mean that he's gay? I've checked his history and looks like you watching it throughout the night for like 3 to 5 hours straight. I just can't understand how a total straight man can watch a trans woman and a man have sex that long daily in the ass.. I don't know how to bring it up or to question him about it without sounding like I'm judging him cuz I really love him. But I feel like it's affecting our relationship because every time I ask him what's he doing he lies but he's really watching that. I would say are you satisfied, do I satisfy you, are you still horny? And he says I do but yet jumps back on to watching that.

Is he gay?
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  • I may have a different opinion on this than most other people. If your fiancé checked out these sites for a few minutes every now and then or until a quick release, it could have been curiosity, or a fetish. Hours and hours of time spent online indicate some sort of addiction as some others have said, but there may be more to the story.

    In my experience (this box is too small to give enough details, but I can elaborate separately on this, if you wish), spending an inordinate amount of time on transsexual videos does not indicate that a man wants to have sex with a transwoman in the conventional male role. If that were the case, he would have most likely chosen a cis (biological) woman to have sex with in the first place (or watch a heterosexual scene online). However, it is quite possible that he mentally substitutes himself in the role of the transwoman. I know this may sound strange, or even crazy, but there is a common psychological explanation for the behavior in the background.

    One other thing that I'd like to add, which is quite relevant to your question: There is a drastic difference between transgender women in real life and those transgender actresses in porn. The last thing most transgender women in actual life care about is to have an active penis, if they want to keep their inborn organ at all in the first place. Having an erect penis is like anathema to a transwoman. Think about it for a moment, if you're a man wanting to become a woman, why would you want to have a penis in the first place, let alone an erect one? But, many of those transsexual porn stars have huge penises, sometimes bigger than an average man's. That's because transsexual porn cater mostly to men with secret gay desires. So, the female appearance is a decoy to the "straight" male mind to make it acceptable to suck a penis or to take it anally, while perpetuating the illusion of remaining "straight". On the other hand, most gay men disdain transsexual porn, because they don't care about the female body in the first place, and already admitted they are gay and turned on by the male body only.

    So, often (but not always, of course), hours of time spent on transsexual porn is not an indication of being a gay male, but more likely a yearning to become a woman. It is a very complex and elaborate way of displaying it, but I do know people who fall into that category.

    If you'd like to discuss further, please let me know. As I said, it is difficult to get to the roots of such behavior in this limited space, but the underlying behavior is often more than a simple fetish or temporary curiosity.

    • Yes because I just found this out recently because I got his Gmail password in December not sure if this is a normal thing he been doing all along. I feel like God showed me this for a reason seriously. Like he watches it a lot. Some captions on the porn website be... " White fag** getting f*** by a cutie trans" Or "Thug getting a** ate by tran" like it's getting gayer and gayer Everytime he watched it. The people have huge penises on it like even though the TS is looking like a girl butt and fake boobs your still looking at butt and balls and penis you know? It's crazy like he hides this from me. But always saying don't try me with gay shi* and all that but watches it a lot.

    • I agree. Those clips cannot flip a man from straight to gay; however, they have a great effect on a man who already has gay desires, but works hard to deny them within his own mind. Those videos do something stealthy (if not sinister) that direct gay porn cannot achieve. A man in strong denial won't initially watch gay porn, may even feel repelled by them. But, the shemale videos provide a great smooth passage to wanting and accepting penis. I could add a few more details from my personal life, because I have first-hand experiences very similar to your fiancé's. But, I don't want to write them in this public space. If you're interested, I can send them in private messaging.

    • Yes please!!!

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  • It's a tough one. I know some people questioning their sexuality will get into straight relationships hoping it will solve the issue they are having. I think some of them might go as far as getting married as well. In general I wouldn't make wedding plans and ask him the difficult question. Because it's best to try to fix the issue or break things off before you are married. Simply because the more both of you are invested in the relationship the harder it's going to become to ask the question and deal with the outcome of it.

    • Okay that sounds good I just don't know how to confront him and ask him and it's driving me crazy and I feel like it's changing how I feel I definitely can see it's distancing us his porn watching but he doesn't know I know. We can literally have phone sex and he will be watching that type of p*** for hours afterwards as if I'm not attractive I don't know? Makes me upset. Some titles will be white fa* getting fuc**** by a shemale and the shemale looks kinda ugly lol or manly lady looking. That's why I think he's secretly gay

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  • So a few others have already nailed home the fetishism angle which I totally agree with.

    I just want to touch on that porn habit of his.

    So no other way to say this than it is extremely excessive. Yeah, I'll watch some porn when I need to but 3-5 hours a night is an addiction and that's going to affect more than just your relationship.

  • He may have a fetish for it. It doesn't determine his sexuality however. I will say this, excessive or really watching porn in general is a waste of time and a bad habit of his.

    He should be focusing more on his relationship with you and perhaps some wedding planning.

    • Exactly okay yes... He's was in prison for 10 years and just came home. I don't know he's hiding it from me though.

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  • If he is watching transwomen porn then he has a fetish but transwomen are women so he isn't gay. He maybe needs to lay off the porn though.

    • Even though it's a fetish, the men are trans woman but they still have theirs dicks on them and some look more manly trans woman and some look more woman but they all have dicks and you can tell. I've saw him write big dick on a categories and he also even created secretly a yahoo account that he thinks I don't know and made an account for a transgender dating website.

    • He has a transgender fetish for sure and yeah some do have their dicks but thats why he has a fetish for them. Id imagine its probably a softcore entry into being bi or maybe its just the unusual physical makeup of their bodies. Not sure

    • Hmmmm, I want to confront him about this without coming off judgmental. But it really seems like it has distanced us. He'd not as lovey anymore. He rather get off when he's hornet to transwoman porn or even a trans woman having sex with a THUG that's what it said on there. Is he fansteing or fetsihinh over the penis actually because I've clicked some of it he'd watched and it's just blow jobs and anal sex and close view on the anal so that's why I feel like he is turned on by male parts?

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  • This is an incredibly bad sign for your relationship. I wouldn't start making wedding plans.

  • He's probably gay.
    Hell, if you have to even ASK, then he's more than likely gay.

  • Yea it sounds gay, those trans was born as a male and he like watching them.

    • Thank you for agreeing. Don't get me wrong my man is a very attractive guy hazel eyes 6'1 but it's just worrying me I feel like he's became distant sexually and if we just had phone sex why did you jump back on that and started watching that a lot and it's just men having sex with men basically there's no vagina so you have to be fantasizing about penis and balls right?

    • Yea he might be a closet gay, and he should not do it after having a phone sex.

    • He just got out of prison from a 10-year sentence. Yes literally we would have phone sex and then I'll ask him if he satisfied or did I make him feel good he'll say yes. But if I check his phone history for like 4 hours he's watching this type of p*** and I don't see how you can get off by watching a man getting ate? Just saying... It is so mind-blowing. I feel as if I'm not attractive to him or I'm not enough. I am trying to figure out how can I ask him without judging him or coming off strong because it has to be discussed.

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  • If he was gay, he'd be watching gay porn, id suspect if it's not a fetish for trans women theb maybe his is vi or curious. A person's fetishes and fantasies don't define there sexuality though, this is just backwards thinking. Aside fron the type of porn he is watching, the fact that he's going straight to porn after phone sex with you is the bigger red flag here.

  • He's definitely gay.
    I would drop him if you don't want to find out later on that he's dating some tranny or dude behind your back

  • He is gay.

  • He's not necessarily gay but he is a porn addict. Some addicts come to a point where vagina just doesn't do it for them any more so they drool over chicks with dicks for a few hours. (Don't ask me how I know.) It doesn't really matter if he's gay or straight because constant masturbation to porn causes erectile dysfunction.

  • he is hooked on it maybe he like what strange sex acts

  • nah. I do it, too.

  • lmao He’s beyond gay. Clearly loves dick and not pussy.

    • People are so stupid. Even if it is a fetish, his fetish revolves around something that cannot be considered heterosexual. You could say he’s bisexual since he also wants to see breasts, but genitals are the PRIMARY sexual organ, so he’s more on the gay side than straight.

    • If he's watching this shemale porn right? Transgender porn. Or even a shemale having sex with a gay man both are receiving all night and throughout the day and after our phone sex

    • Exactly!! There are breasts fake breasts lol and fake big ass but mainly it's just penis on there and balls their no female penatration.

  • Maybe bisexual

    • Yeha I think so. Because it's outrageous how much he watches. And he's doing it in secret. I might say it today

  • I would say closeted gay or bi. Get out while you can.

  • if he is gay he wouldn't have sex with you at all but he is definitely bi-curious

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