Is my friends with benefits holding back his feelings?

I have had a friend with benefits for the past 3 months. At first neither of us wanted relationships, and we expressed this clearly to each other. It started where we would just have fun, crazy hookups about once a week and then chit chat once in awhile. Well for the past month and a half or so we've gotten really close. We hook up several times a week, we hang out, get dinner together, and all of our friends look at us like a couple. I started to develop actual feelings for him, and since I know how friends with benefits usually work out, I decided I would end Well a few weeks ago his friends told him that he needs to make a decision in regards to me, that he's leading me on, etc, so we had another "define the relationship" talk where he said that he doesn't want me to think we are escalating into anything to fast, etc. I told him I agreed, that I don't have any feelings for him (total lie), and that I was more worried that HE was developing feelings for ME (again, I don't know what's wrong with me, I just sort of panicked). It was strange though because when I told him I didn't have feelings for him, he seemed really hurt. Well since I DID lie, I decided I should sort of let things end on their own. We've actually started seeing each other more, but it has been highly stressful. He's been overly romantic, but whenever he's drunk he keeps going on about how I'm using him, how I wouldn't like him if he didn't go to the gym, etc. Whenever I kiss him on the cheek or something equally romantic, he just looks at me with these EXTREMELY sad eyes, like I'm completely breaking his heart. We also got into this drunken fight the other day, where he freaked out about how everyone talks about us, and I basically said "we are absolutely nothing" and I really hurt his feelings. I apologized later but it doesn't take back that I said it. Apparently we always look at each other like we are in love, and all of HIS friends are practically begging me to admit that I have feelings for him. My best friend also has been telling me that he was probably just playing the devil's advocate when he said he didn't have feelings for me, but it still makes me nervous. My question is, why would someone do this? All I'm trying to do is protect myself but keeping the relationship on the terms we agreed on, but I feel like in the process he is going against everything he said. I don't want to get hurt falling for my fwb, but all of his friends & him won't let me leave the relationship & keep giving me false hope. Has anyone ever gone through something similar?
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  • you are both doing this to each other and yourself...you both got yourself into this arrangement and now you're paying the consequences of it...you're both living a lie...at this stage of your FWB, it's best to breakup

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