Is my girlfriend using BLOWJOBS and SEX to control and manipulate me?

In the 4 months we've been together I've gotten maybe 4 BJs, for a minute max, never finish. I have gone down on her 100 times. I never ask for it and the times I've hinted or asked she's resistant. I'm starting to notice a bit of selfishness even in other areas and very giving. Today she wanted me to meet her somewhere and I wasn't sure I wanted to, so she said "I'll give you a blowjob". That seemed kinda manipulative to me... she'll only give me head when I want something? I called her out on it and she's like "you should wanna meet up with me here anyways" and I'm thinking "you skipping want to please with a BJ without trying to control me"! She's like "you want me to walk alone and get harassed?". She has never been harassed, total guilt trip. am I right? Is that manipulative?
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Most Helpful Girls

  • Yeah, it's manipulative. In the bad way.

    The guy I have a whatever with, we're potentially meeting up at some point maybe and he uses that as a form of manipulation. Like. I back talked him during one of our sexting sessions and he told me if I back talk him again he's completely ruling out meeting up with me.

    That set me straight real quick. But I was also really into it, so I don't see it as a negative manipulation. It was kinda hot to me.

  • Yeah that's messed up, I'm in the same boat as you minus the bribe. I always suck my bfs dick, I enjoy it but I have to ASK for him to go down on me and when he does he turns it into a 69, like fuck off. I just want to lay back and enjoy getting eaten out for once. It sucks! He's so selfish in bed too, gets himself off and leaves me hanging. 😑

  • Maybe she just doesn't like giving blowjobs but she was willing to make you happy if you did something for her in return.

    • Yeah but I do SO MUCH for her! Like the proportion of way off. I help her with essays and everything. Barely get a thank you

    • That's why you don't do everything for them. It's a two face a relationship. One can't do all the work while the other sit back and relax?

Most Helpful Guys

  • Didn't even read.
    If you gotta ask I'm just gonna say yes.

    Just think about, the things she's "manipulating" you to do. Are they things you wouldn't want if not for the blowjobs? Or would you be ok otherwise, but wouldn't necessary go out of your way to do unless asked?

  • First, we need to have a quick lesson on what the word blowjob means. A minute of kissing your dick is not a bj. That's called foreplay. Time to move on, dude. There are women who know what the word really means and won't play games.

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  • Who cares bro she offered you a blowjob. Just call 'no backsies!' and do what she wants done.

  • Run away. She's definitely taking advantage of you man!

  • it sounds manipulative she prob just wants u for sex

  • Why wouldn't you help her out? If you don't like the blow jobs, refuse it. You know her game. Your not innocent.

  • Of course it is.

  • yes it is.

  • Honestly, look at you, you can have anyone, leave her!! Total manipulation

  • Uh, yeah, she's making you her bitch. Break that shit off and come to the glorious land of the single male. Why chew one stale piece of gum, when there are fresh pieces in every bar in the country?

  • A woman's pussy hair can pull a whole cruiser.

  • Yes she is a manupulator. Leave her...

  • Really OP? After asking so many questions about your girlfriend, you find this as your final deal breaker? Really? Bro I can tell you worse shit about your girlfriend lol

  • a little bit, but just take the bj no need to call her on it

  • Why is she still your gf?

  • Of course man, all women do this... it's best to be single than with a modern woman

  • Leave her selfish ass.

  • She seems like a manipulator, yup.