Is my husband guy you think I'm freaking out?

Ok I cought my husband using a big dildo like riding it and OMG not in a million years I even guess this we have been together for 21 years and I see him doing this and I'm speechless. His he in to guys you think? OMG what have I done so wrong for him to do this. I'm freaking out are we over I'm not even telling him I seen him doing this I'm rocking back and forth not knowing what to do or think or omg please please give me advice.
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  • No he is not gay, he just likes his prostate massaged.

    as to what you do, i believe you have 2 options:
    1- talk to him about it and be open. he has obviously kept this a secret for many years and is not confident to talk about it, most probably for the fear of you freaking out and thinking he is gay.
    2- depending on how kinky you are and how much you want to embrace this kink of his. you could always buy a strap on and surprise him one night, as i would guess that this would be his biggest fantasy.

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  • I have been married over 25 heard. I am a man and I use a dildo when my wife is away. The reason for the secrecy is that my wife beleives by me enjoying anal I will leave her for a man. She has pegged me a few times and afterwards she gets weird thinking I liked it too much and that will make me go for a man. Honestly I have zero desires to be in a relationship with a man. Kissing a man or cuddling with him is not my thing at all. All I would need from a man is a penis. She cannot separate my desire to feel this pleasure and love. So I screw my dildo when she leaves. Maybe one day she will understand, feel safe and I can be more open about it.

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  • nothing wrong. the man's p spot which is our g spot is in their butt.
    He's enjoying a sexual activity. good for him. A toy doesn't equal sexuality...
    He probably needs a better partner who understands it.

  • You should surprise him by wearing a strap on next time y'all have sex

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  • It’s fine, it’s obviously a shock.

    have a sit down with him and talk about it.

    on a positive note, it could have been worse.

    some guys do it, it’s pleasurable

    Once you get over your shock just chat to him about it,

    then possibly incorporate it into your sex life.

  • Just as there are many women that use dildos, there are a ton of men that like them too. No big deal, he prob. just likes a prostate massage. If you are concerned and have questions, why don’t you talk to him? Don’t you talk to each other?

    • OMG yes like this just freaking happened last night so i ask to get a better understanding of this shit

  • Maybe he is just exploring his bisexual side?

    • Right maybe or I never know who I was married to

    • Even if he likes it in the ass, would that affect you? He is still the same person, just a little kinky.

    • Right and right

  • Chill out, he's not gay, plenty of straight guys like prostate stimulation and anal play, it's where our g spot is. Oh and don't be so judgmental.

    • I'm not

    • Yes you are you instantly assume he's guy that's being judgmental.

    • *gay

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  • It’s fine

  • Divorced him

    • May I ask why? He won't sleep in bed with me anymore he say bed hurts his back. But we have sex a lot maybe because I'm going through this stage of life where I want it all the time.

    • you know why he’s not the man that you married

    • Men don’t ride dildos by themselves or with their partner

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  • He might have been in the closet and finally decided to let you see the real him.

    • O he has no clue what so ever I know

    • Maybe ask him?

    • I have been trying to all day we even got in to it by me say I don't think after 21 year we really even know each other. He said I know you better then you. I said I have no clue who you are and it went from there and I can't find my self to say that what I seen omg like I'm have a gd brake down

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  • For sure he is into dildos. You have done nothing wrong. Do you have sex with him?

    • OMG yes like everyday

    • Then be happy. Maybe he is straight and only his butt identifies as gay. Jajajaj You never know.

  • Can I just ask one question in that she can remotely cum

    • Odd question

    • Yes I can I mean when I get off it's hard for him to keep his dick in me and then I squirt everywhere so I can cum

  • That doesn’t necessarily make him gay.

  • First you need to figure out what's freaking you out. Is it that you think he might be gay or bi? Is it because he kept this part of himself secret from you? Is it because you think this makes him disgusting?

    Why not get yourself a strap-on and include this new twist into your sex lives? It might be the best thing for both of you.

  • Sex is strange thing like low sugar high sugar low pressure high pressure hunger. Most people start acting strange when they are hungry they just not know that they should stop everything else and eat. After few or many years in marriage couple reaches tithe point where they want something sexually from their partner or an other person. Some time partner is not mentally or physically capable of providing what their partner want so badly.

  • Sorry but you husband is gay so now you have to decide if that something you can live with if you can't then it's time for you to move on

  • Talk to him about it. Maybe help him with it peg him or stroke/suck him, show him you want to help satisfy his needs

  • Maybe he just liked teasing his gspot. You have to ask him if he is gay or not.

  • Get a strapon and peg him, he may not like guys, just butt play

  • You’ll have to keep that one in the vault forever. What if you introduced something like orgasmic meditation into the bedroom? It’s not just for women.

  • Doesn’t make him gay…
    Me and my girlfriend use sex toys on each other, she’s put loads of dildos in me while we’re having sex, I quiet like the feeling of them in me, I cum better when she’s put them in me or a finger.
    I’ve never sat on one and rode it or anything…
    Ask him if he likes men and finds them attractive, chances are he just likes the feeling of something in him and doesn’t find men attractive.
    Use it to spice your love life up, experiment with it on him, he’d maybe like you to use a strap-on on him, ask him about it all and be open minded

  • Maybe he likes his prostate massaged , try pegging him , doesn’t mean gay, just doing something different since you didn’t catch him with a guy

  • Look it's just that men get curious at some point of their lives, I suggest play with him the way he likes better than letting him play alone.