Is my massage therapist being inappropriate?

I’ve been seeing this male massage therapist a few times now. He is also my first time going in for massage therapy, so I wouldn’t know to compare him to another massage therapist.

Off the bat, we are definitely attracted to each other.
He is married, I’m single. Attracted to him, but I’m respectful.

After the first couple sessions, I noticed he put two framed pictures of him and his wife’s wedding pictures in the room.
(I knew he was married prior to him putting up the pictures through conversation beforehand.)(…I also thought this was very funny when I saw the pictures propped up in full view)

His massages from the beginning always felt more sensual than anything. …I thought at first, maybe that’s just his style.

…I just had a massage from him just recently, and two things have always also stuck out.

So for my massages I usually strip down leaving my underwear on, and the drape/blanket is covering up to my chest. When the massage is done, he leaves the room so I can put my clothes back on. But everytime I open my eyes I find the drape is resting just above my nipples, so I question whether or not he’s been taking a peek at my breasts. The drape is super light, and when he’s massaging my chest, rubbing it up and down I feel like it moves the breasts with it…ya’know what I mean?

The other thing is that he touches my bottom lip. Pulls the bottom lip down gently opening my mouth a little, or brushes over it with his finger. …. is that apart of the “relaxation massage?”

I mean it’s kind of hot, but at the same time, I don’t know how to feel about it. And I’m asking because I don’t know if it’s just me being paranoid.
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  • You know he's married, even before seeing pictures... are you having personal conversations as well during this? And is this place a true professional massage place, or is it a "grey area"?

    He hasn't been inappropriate in any way that I see. And you don't seem to be uncomfortable with anything either. Now if anything, maybe he's "testing" a bit with the finger over the mouth? But I don't know, that's just weird to me anyway lol. But nothing inappropriate yet. However, depending how you're feeling, you might need to change YOUR behavior to make sure it STAYS that way, maybe? Meaning if you've got personal with him, convos etc, maybe he's getting a bit more "relaxed" with you, but if you're getting uncomfortable in any way, then just start acting more "professional" with him. No personal convos. Even keep bra on if you feel uncomfortable. But no, I don't see anything inappropriate, yet. But don't "tease" him or anything or contribute to that temptation for him (if it's there). But I doubt it is. If it's a true professional massage, you'll just be another client.

    • It’s like it’s own independent spa that offers other things as well. And the workers are licensed for sure. I saw there’s one review online from another lady that she had an “uncomfortable massage” from him. So I assumed that’s why the pictures were there.. as if he got in trouble 😅. No personal convos, just regular small chit chat. But I try not to talk to much so I can enjoy the massage. Mostly just him asking if it’s good. I’ve came to the conclusion he has been just trying to tease me very badly. He would be massaging my jawline with his finger and then glide over to my lip. I’m realizing now that…there really should be no reason for him to touch my lips at all 🤷🏻‍♀️😅 You’re absolutely right though about changing my behaviour. SoI think I’m just going to go to a different massage place next time 😅

    • Yes I think I would also. And if he's been reported before especially. It is weird to touch your lips lol. You're right, probably trying to tease you.

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  • I think is has erotic intent, but he knows where the line is. When I get an "ethical massage". I get hard because I like being touched by a woman's hands. When he rubs your chest, he knows your nipples will rub against the blanket/towel and will give you some deniable erotic pleasure. I do not think he crosses the libe, but he knows where that line is.

Most Helpful Girls

  • If you're single and attracted to him, you should not worry about this.

  • I never had a massage before but if you dont like it stop going

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  • cool story bro.

  • It sounds like you want an inappropriate “fully body massaging” to me.

  • Yes, and professional massage therapists would be furious with his behavior.

  • It sounds inappropriate unless you are okay with it. I'm sure he's peeking at your nipples.

  • This hardly sounds erotic. Does he rub around your pussy or rub your breasts?

  • You're wrong. He isn't into. It is a normal thing. You want him to be attracted to you.

  • I guess so

  • Not specific to you but In general, if s girl goes to spa, selects or agrees to male LMT when asked for preference, goes in, removes panties, and gets touched inappropriately, you just as much as fault as the person that stays with a cheater and gets checked on again. I'm 100% serious by the way.

  • He put the photos up because he got a vibe from you that made him feel uncomfortable and he wanted to reiterate that he is married.

    you are fantasizing like a female.

    A facial is a facial. A massage is a massage.

  • They will always go for as sexual as possible unless you stop them.