Is my STRAIGHT fiancé GAY?

[Anonymous]

I have recently found that my fiancé is having a lot of “slip ups” so to say. I am a kink and I love to do anal play with my man. But in one of our anal encounters (which doesn’t happen but occasionally) I was preforming an act on him and he moans to me “Are you my Daddy?” I instantly stopped and had to take a step back. I thought i was being a “master” or in control that’s why i loved doing the anal foreplay on him because it made me feel dominant and i loved giving him a different type of arousal. But now i question him sexually. He ended up getting so embarrassed and became very physical. We talked about it and he said he accidentally said it. But before that he called me mama and I thought that was a turn off so I asked him to not call me the just bitch or slut. Then that happens? Then last night we had sex but he actually wanted to eat me out which he never does, but he was literally sucking my clit up and down as if it were a dick… and he then would “jerk it” move his fingers up and down like it was a dick. And my clit isn’t a gigantic clit, and then he kept on wanting to eat my ass which he NEVER DOES. Why all of the sudden is there this? Are these gay actions or is it just coincidence please. I have a child with him and I don’t know if I can feel the same about him if that is him trying to throw hints to me about him being gay. I don’t have anything against liking the same sex but I will not embarrass myself or be with someone that I can not 100% please because I’m not the male they are wanting. Please help.

[RobT312]

Anal play is hot. Both for girls and guys. Nothing wrong with a guy liking prostate stimulation, in my opinion anyways. I love it.
that doesn’t make him gay unless he’d rather be with a guy.
sounds like you and him should talk more about sex and be open about it, and find out!
my fiancée and I know everything about each other sexually because we choose to be open about it. We like kinky stuff and are cool with that... if I called her my daddy while she put a dildo up my butt she’d laugh in hysterics for example. We just don’t take that stuff seriously.
But every relationship is different so understand your concern.
if I were to bet, I’d say he’s not gay, maybe just a little bisexual, heteroflexible, whatever u want to call it, who knows? But you’ll never know if u don’t talk about it.

[Asker]

I love this comment thank you I know it’s very judge mental of me but I am at home all day and can’t quit thinking the what ifs. How do you approach your partner about those things? Any tips

[RobT312]

Sure anytime, I was really intrigued by your question because over the last year my girlfriend and I got really kinky And tried a threesome with a buddy of mine. We all had sex with each other. It put me in a bisexual situation and we all bonded. it honestly made my fiancée and I a stronger couple sexually. No interest in dudes, just enjoyed the sexual acts. So I guess my tip is don’t have a serious conversation, have a casual kinky fun one. My fiancée asked me later on, so how did that real dick feel vs. the dildo... I then asked did you like his dick better than mine? ... so maybe ask him if he’d ever like a “daddy” or a real dick. Also see if he has ever touched a dude. Ask him how he liked eating your ass... tell him how u felt about it... Tell him something kinky he may not know about you. Honestly it sounds like u can work it out. ... I’ll bet you’ll find out u satisfy him 100%... after this crazy kinky stuff we are happier than ever going into our wedding. We want kids too!

[Kreneman]

I don't think your man is gay, until you communicate with him again by asking him specific questions first, then you will know for sure on what he's about. Its a good thing that you took a step back because when it comes to Anal play or Pegging on a man, Women, especially the ones that are into it don't realize that it have its positive and negative affects on us men. Some people like to say its not gay (especially men that have experience it) and they're are probably not but at the same time all it takes is to perform the sexual practice to convince some men on wanting to try the real thing (penis) or have the similar behavior on what your man is doing. For future caution, Becareful what you do in bed because certain sexual fantasies, kinks or fetishes can lead to things that you may not be ok with. Communicating and understanding each other desires & body are important especially when you both are on the same page.

[Markm3212]

i would say that there is definitely some red flags going on here.

i think that the pegging is ok when the person just wants a lady to dominate him. but to call you daddy and mama is a little weird esp the daddy part. but to also get physical over it is normally a sign that they are trying to hide something.

i would have a clear and frank chat with him and get him to explain, try not to put words in his mouth and let him talk and explain.

i think that the going down on you is the fact that he is feeling bad and is trying to make amends for what he has done. but from what you described he wasn't very good at it.

[Berethor]

Anal play is gay in the first place.

[Asker]

Well looking past that, because there are plenty of straight men that do it but is the rest gay?

[Berethor]

They not straight if they are okay with being fucked in the ass.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Your first sign he was a faggot was when he wanted you to play or stick something in his butt.

Dude is gay as hell.

[maximumpower]

sounds like he's experimenting for him and for you.
might want to find where he's getting all his ideas.
if it bothers you, be up front and tell him. if there's something you like, get that point across, as well.
i had several "attentative" gfs before getting married - to include one that i married - but didn't know what a sexual "dud" was until i actually got married and she suddenly stopped being adventurous/accommodating.
don't let that happen to you.

[nudeNhorny]

I think he sounds curious a bit

[Sabretooth]

yes.