Is my wife a hypocrite for refusing to have a threesome with me even though she had many in the past?

[Anonymous]

Okay me and wife are both 30 and have been together since early 2012. Now my wife and I have a great marriage we both love each other a lot and have sex around twice a day and more on the weekends. She also loves me a lot as well. But I have some issues with her sexual past. My wife had sex with 25 guys before me while I lost my virginity at 20 to her. My wife got to experience having casual sex, friends with benefits and one night stands and even got to have multiple threesomes before me. Now at one point I had asked if I could go have sex with an old high school girlfriend and saying that I never got to have sex with her because I was nervous and hang ups with sex and she then started sobbing after I suggested that and litterally got on her hands and knees and begged me to not to. But the one thing I don’t understand is why my wife won’t have a threesome with me when she had multiple threesomes before me. She tells me she loves me and would never want to watch me have sex with another woman. She also tells me that no other woman would ever give me better pussy and other women don’t know exactly how you like to have sex. I just don’t think it is fair that my wife had threesomes before me but won’t have one with me. Now she tells me that she will always have sex with me everyday, will let me do anal, cum on her face, do any position or any kind of role playing or sexual fantasy but she will not share me. I just think she is being selfish and hypocritical by not having a threesome with me when she had them before me?

[BradleyinOK]

The past is the past my friend. If this is really something you want then the first thing you can try is offer to give her a threescore with you and another guy as deal for allowing your threescore. You will have to come through first and you'll have to watch another guy have sex with your wife in front of you or your can invite someone at the same time you have the girl over from high school where everyones in agreement in a foursome or you can start off by seeing if your wife would be cool with the girl from high school join as your wife's toy at first where you can't touch anything, but your wife and your wife can only touch you and you never know you may see it evolve as the first encounter goes on (that's the one my friend and his wife had to start with)

Remember though, all these options could ruin your marriage. My friends wife ended up sleeping with women more than him so he started seeing another woman and now they're divorced.

If none of the above suggestions work bud you just have to make that choice, which is more important? Staying with your wife and giving up on the threescore idea, or readress it in a couple years when you take on some lavish trip to Rome or Sicily where exotic things can happen and you might be able to get her to do it. That or get one of those real-life female sex dolls to add to the bedroom and see if the wife can move into the idea after getting comfortable with that.

Last, but definitely not least. Probably the easiest of them all and this comes from my earlier 20s and I hope I don't get kicked for telling you this, but get some Molly/MDMA and a little blow. Have a gathering at your house. Get the two alone in a room and get them to kiss and that kiss will all it will take to get you your result.

You may want a little blue pill with that (Viagra)

[SnowedIn]

It is not hypocritical. Hypocritical is telling you not to do something while [present tense] doing the same thing. Not in the past. If I tell you not to speed because I sped once in the past doesn't make me a hypocrite.

Here's the thing: you made your life choices. For whatever reason, you were a virgin when you married. There's nothing wrong with that. But that doesn't mean that your wife and the world owe you sowing your wild oats in some vain attempt to catch up.

Also, just because your wife did a sexual act in the past doesn't obligate her to do it again. What matters to her is just as important as what matters to you with the important difference that you can't/shouldn't impose your want over someone else's don't want.

[Anonymous]

I see you've gotten two retarded answers, so far. One talked about the definition, and the other idiot called you a troll. Welcome to GAG. Home of the morons.

I study psychology, and it's hard to grasp what others think is logical.

Dump her ass, and I guarantee she will do ANYTHING her new guy wants. Trust me.

Your biggest mistake was putting a ring on her finger.

[Irishgirl02]

You are married so all that stuff she did before you doesn't matter. Its not her fault you now regret your sexual inexperience.

My husband had a lot of sex before me, I know he's had threesomes but I would never be with another guy because I value out marriage and love him.

[Guy13]

No. You made an assumption that made an ass out of you and me. Because she did it in the past does not mean she enjoyed it or would ever do it again. Perhaps, she learned 3 is a losing number as one is always left out in the cold 🥶 Perhaps, it was a man that mattered to her and she found herself as the unwanted third.
Either way, she learned and obviously values her current relationship and is very likely trying to avoid a Situationship.

[dustybiker]

She’s probably grown out of that stage in her life. She’s allowed to change her mind. As are you. You might not be compatible anymore.

[all_hayl]

🤦🏽
is this a troll post? Cuz it sure sounds like a troll post.
If not, y’all need some counseling or something - perhaps moreso you than she.

[exitseven]

You probably should have thought of this before you got married. I really can understand what you are feeling though. Maybe some kind of compromise?

[CloudMassacre]

I don’t see how you not having an experience makes your wife hypocritical

[AimeeKyle]

I would honor her thoughts / ideas. Continue to talk about or fantasize about…. but it sounds like she isn’t likely to change her mind. Is she opposed to MFF or MMF or both? It also sounds like you knew what you were getting into before you were married. It isn’t her fault you didn’t try anything with anyone else before connecting/ getting married.
Also note: the grass is always greener on the other side. It sounds like she is being very accommodating/giving it up a lot. Be thankful for your situation, it can always be worse.
Biggest deal…. continue to communicate, communicate, communicate.

[Twalli]

Think of it this way, she never cared about the guys she was with before you to the degree she cares about you. Because she cared less about them, sharing them was okay with her, but she loves you more, so she doesn't want to share you.

[barn_stormer]

you married the wrong woman.