Is it normal to think people of the same sex pretty?

[Anonymous]

I'm a 15 year old girl and I have had crushes on boys and I've never really thought about it but I'm scared that I'm lesbian because I sometimes think other girls are pretty, Does that make me a lesbian or bi or am I just a straight girl who just thinks other girls are pretty? I'm really scared I'm a lesbian and I don't want to be

[G-Daz]

I can't really tell you if its normal or not, ill leave that to a girl to tell you, they have a much better perspective on this being that they are girls too but as a guy what I can tell you from my point of view is that, iv never really questioned this myself, iv noticed that obviously other guys can be good looking but its just something I take as a grain of salt, its just something I notice at the moment and I don't really think back about it or even think much of it after first glance. I don't know if this relates to you in any way but that's how I see it and by that definition, no your deffinitly not lesbien or bi.

Right now, your young and your hormones are all over the place, as you get older it will balance things out for you more and you will be able to discover who you are yourself. I don't think finding another female as attractive would be sufficient enough to say that you are a lesbien or bi. I think in order for that, there needs to be some sort of desire to take it forward further. do you think of women in a sexual light?, is there any kind of desire to want to be with a girl?. I think many factors could contribute to being a lesbien but just noticing that a girl is attractive is not one of them.

[Nickishguy]

This is prety simple, you are looking at physical looks, not sexual wants. Being straight, Bi, or Lesbian just defines what you like sexually, not what you like in someones looks. I've looked at many guys and thought they were good-looking and handsome, but it doesn't define my sexual wants, because I know I'm straight. Don't over-react over these small things like whos pretty or not, its just looks and it doesn't define anthing about you except that you know what looks nice.

[countygirl]

It's perfectly normal for you to think other girls are pretty . You can think a painting is pretty without being an art collector.

if you see a pretty car on the street, are you going to go buy one just like - JUST because you think it is pretty?

Thinking another girl is attractive is normal, it doesn't make you gay. It's actually very healthy to notice beauty in others of any sex.

If your feelings for other girls go deeper than just thinking they are pretty , that is ok too. You are young and still finding out who you are. Just hang in there and above all be true to yourself and your feelings.

I wish you the best.

[peace-love-couture]

It is completely normal.I think society views girls finding other girls attractive as completely normal,and even "hot"(to the dumbbutts)

It is normal,I know plenty of straight girls who think other girls are pretty,and will comment on it.

In my opinion,this makes you better than the girls who walk around calling every good looking chick on the street ugly,or who go around bashing celebrities for no reason.Like "OMG,Megan Fox is like totally ugly" when she's obviously not.It just goes to show they're insecure.

You are a girl who can appreciate beauty and there's nothing wrong with that

[peace-love-couture]

Oh,and being bi or lesbian,goes beyond finding girls attractive.There's more to being bi and lesbian than sexual attraction:)I don't understand the thumbs down,but whatever:D

[Hartmut]

I would imagine that the thumbs down may be due to your concession that Megan Fox isn't attractive. You know how much of a hatedom she has...

[Hartmut]

*IS attractive. Wish there was an edit feature...

[peace-love-couture]

Oh,yea,I imagine it was a girl who thumbed me down:)))I could care less:))) She(whoever thumbed me down) should get some security before bashing another person:)))

[SweetHeart09]

its just as normal as a girl saying "oh I'd kill to have her legs" or something like that...i find other girls pretty all the time and I'm 100% straight...its no big deal its just another thing girls do lol..

im sure guys do it too although they won't admit to it lol...

[Bruce]

Yes, you are right. Guys do the same thing.

[Bruce]

Homophobia is alive and real. If you looking at other girls and thinking they are pretty makes you a lesbian...then I must be Gay, because to say that you do not recognize other persons as being attractive...no matter what sex is just ignorant as hell and VERY homophobic...Being attractive, and others recognizing it is simply just that, recognizing another person as attractive.

Men are more guilty of this kind of homophobic manifestation than are women, and it probably has more to do with male ego than anyting else. To see another guy as good looking, or attractive forces him to see where he, himself fits into the continuim of physical attractiveness, and most men that I know don't want to make that concession, that women are going to be all over some guy that is better looking than he is.

Women seem to be jealous of other more attractive women and I have seen it first hand where I work, but the 'truth' about the pecking order of attractiveness is sometimes a bitter pill to swallow.

Of course you recognize attractive women...not a damn thing wrong with that and you are perfectly normal in that regard.

Bruce

[sabbasabba]

no it's normal lol don't worry

[Hartmut]

Well, it sounds normal to me, but, our of interest, is there a reason you're so averse to the idea of being a lesbian or bisexual? I'm not saying you are, mind; I'm just wondering why you're so concerned about it.

[gotc147]

You never really know what's for you until you've tried it.

It's extremely common for females to think other females are attractive, and frankly I'm sure the same is true of males, they just won't admit it.

Just try to relax, whatever happens happens, you can't stop it one way or another.