Is it possible to play hard to get after I've had sex with him... and how?

Is there really no way to get a guy interested again after having sex with him? I know a lot of people here think playing hard to get will get you nowhere, but I believe as long as I don't overdo it it will be ok.
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  • Well, seeing as you've just had sex with him, I don't think you can play hard to get, because he's already gotten you in the past. There's no point in playing it, now. So short answer to that question is no.

    As for your next question, yes it's possible to get a guy interested after having sex with him. In fact contrary to popular belief (a belief held almost entirely by girls) not all guys lose interest after having sex. Not all guys go "Well I got what I wanted, I'm done." and walk out. Some get what they wanted, and want more of it. Some just want to do it again, and again. Some aren't there for the sex at all, but are happy when they get it, and stick around. So yeah, not all guys piss off after it's over.

    The kind of guy who takes off after he had sex with a girl, is generally a player. A guy who is more interested in a score. A larger number of girls he's been with. Something that inflates his ego. If that's the case, if this is the kind of guy you got with, then no, there is no way to keep his interest. There is no way to get him back. There is no way to play hard to get with him, and in no way would it work if you tried. If you got with a player, her played you like a cheap recorder, and there's nothing you can do about it.

    As for playing hard to get, and it's usefulness. Basically it's this. Playing hard to get is not what's useful, but rather holding off on sex. The reason people hold off on sex, is not to keep him interested, but rather it's an attempt to weed out players who are looking for a quick fuck. Why? Because SOME players give up after a while. Some don't. Some just work long games with multiple girls. So nothing is 100% effective.

    What most women don't understand is that's what the point is. Not showing attention and then ignoring the guy. Or keeping silence until he stops showing interest, and then popping back in, like some women seem to think. When they do that, that's what loses the guy. The point is, show interest, drop all mind games, and just hold off on sex until you think he's not trying to play you.

    Anyway, those are your answers.

  • You're past the "hard to get" stage. Besides I don't think that playing hard to get works in real life. Only in the movies. I'm a fan being upfront. If I feel like a girl is trying to see if she can "make me try harder" or test me to see how into her I am, my natural reaction is to try even less. Honestly it's a turn-off. Games are stupid, and for insecure people. Be up front, respect yourself and the guy you are dating. Say what you mean.

Most Helpful Girls

  • Yes, but I wouldn't look at it a hard to get. Just look at it the way he would. Just because you had sex does not mean he owns the key to your heart or vagina. If you treat him exactly the same as you did prior to sex, it will be fine. Don't seem too attached. If he backs off a bit, let him without getting freaked out. Have the confidence to say no to sex if you don't want to have it, and yes if you do. Don't make it about him and what he wants. Also, don't get all "I must have a relationship with you now" on him. Play it cool.

    I've had guys become putty in my hands after having sex on the very first date because I didn't act like an obsessed bride-to-be afterward. He didn't feel he had any more pull over my feelings than he did before. That made him see me as a girl that just wanted to have sex with HIM, not a girl that suddenly regrets her decision, or who now seeks his approval for giving it up so fast. I actually kind of looked at it like he gave it up to me ;) He's still in love, we're pretty good friends. I'm in a relationship with someone else now.

  • Well if you act like you don't care.. make it hard for him to see you again.. like if he calls and you miss the call you text him something simple back a few hours later like hey what's up sorry I missed your call.. be polite but not overly interested.. don't fish to talk to him about all the little things that happened in your day... If he isn't sure if you like him and he wants you to than you can still have the ball in your court.. convince yourself to not like him and you're chances are up.. dating is that moronic that in order to get someone you like you need to not like them lol

    • hard to get is more about if he has you emotionally not really physically..

  • A. It's too late to play hard to get at this point. You'd just look like a hot and cold game player.

    B. Playing hard to get usually backfires anyway. Most guys prefer when you keep it real.

    So basically, don't do it.

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  • Careful, it can be difficult to play "hard to get" with someone who has already "gotten it."

  • Teasing a bit is OK, but having sex and then saying no tells him he's dumped or about to be.

  • lol, no you shouldn't have been a little whore and spread your legs so soon. Not only that but playing hard to get is dumb and pointless.

  • "Is there really no way to get a guy interested again after having sex with him?"

    If you've had sex with him, and he's not interested in coming back to you for more, I don't see any way to fix that.