Is post-nut clarity the same in a loving committed relationship as it is with casual sex/masturbation?

I've always been curious about this. As a woman, it makes me feel a bit sad to think a guy would suddenly regret having sex with me as soon as he orgasmed and/or seek a lot of personal space after and leave me alone to worry what I did wrong. But also I just want to know. Is post nut clarity the same no matter what kind of sexual situation you're in?

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  • All men have this. But not all are aware of it because it takes some level of introspection to realise. It's not about regret, it's about the level of influence the desire for sex has over your decision making process. But you can have this as your default mode of operation if you know how.

    • I guess I'm just really worried about the emotional distancing it seems happens with it.

  • If I’m having sex with the girl I love, I definitely do not regret it! Not right after sex, or ever. I don’t think any guy would.

    • So you don't get post-nut clarity with someone you love?

    • Post nut clarity is just a term that means you’re not longer thinking with your dick. You’re not horny anymore, so you’re able to think straight. Of course I get it. But that doesn’t mean I regret sex. Even in my right mind, I know I’m going to want to continue to be with her in a relationship, and even continue to have sex with her, there is no regret.

    • Oh, I see. The way its described to me is a depression episode.

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  • The only post nut clarity I experience after masturbation is that I'm a total loser... lol;)

    • But do you get it in relationships too? If you've been in one that is.

    • My only sexual interaction with women is being allowed to perform anilingus for her and licking her clean after she's had sex with another guy, so I can't truthfully answer your question.

  • If you have a romantic/emotional connection then post nut you still have those feelings. In something casual after post nut you feel indifferent or regret because you only fucked because you were horny.

  • I don’t really have posts nut clarity, I have post nut sleepy

    • So it's not a thing all men have? I was led to believe it was

    • Drop me a message. Happy to chat it through

  • It should not happen, its so strange that happened with you.

  • It’s not the same with someone you care about. I feel good looking at her knowing that we pleased each other and knowing that I left some of me inside her. If you feel that your partner is having regretful feelings, he might be. Trust your intuition, if you tend to have good intuition. If you tend to be insecure without reason, then question it. A guy can sometimes just be exhausted hot and sweaty from the act and not in the cuddling mood. It’s hard to have the awareness of how someone feels about you when you have strong feelings for them. I hope this question for you comes from curiosity rather than feeling like you’re on the receiving end of post nut regret. But to answer your question, post nut from a space of love is nice and feels good for men. For me it’s so good I want to do it again every time regardless of if my body will allow it. Try to feed the emotional side of your relationship more than the sexual side. If the emotions are strong and you can feel loved as much as you love even when sex isn’t in the picture, then you will have nothing to worry about post nut with your man.