Is sex a human right? Why or why not?

[Anonymous]

Why, or why not? Sexual deprival might not be as serious as the deprival of food, but you won't die without free speech either. So why not consider sex as a human right?
(I watched a documentary movie about mothers in Australia finding commercial sexworker partners for their mentally or physically challenged sons -- Scarlet Road, 2011. It was very touching! They recognised the need for their sons to have sex (would be the same if they were daughters too, I guess, but with some more taboos), regardless of their health conditions... or more so, because of it.

[AndriaAlex]

I understand your question objectively. I dont think most people understand without giving long descript details. Of particular situations. Persons with mental disorders/disabilities at least opens the door to have a discussion without people freaking out assuming way too much. Sexual deprivation is a very serious thing that people would easily rather not talk about. Sexual deprivation can be as serious as someone living in an oppressed country where speech rights are cut off. Human sexuality is very biological and programmed from birth, the same as the biological programmed need to speak, express, eat when hungry, drink when thirsty, go through puberty that drives a person to do things even when not understanding it. In terms of science, biology, chemistry sex could very well be viewed as a right. Under those terms. Its a touchy subject , but objectively you raise a valid question. Human or mammalian psychology and science. To anyone not able to understand the actual question asked, a person could be suicidal being denied of sex as much as a person being denied of food, or to express their God given or constitutional rights which is the same as not being technically able to physically express certain human nature. The questioner isn't talking about rape. But your minds went down that road. Example: you are a woman in love and married for 10 years to a good man when he suffers a horrific accident. He is physically disabled to a degree. His vocal cords are ruined and can't speak. He has a degree of neuro trauma but still can give cues like getting erect. Yes his penis. Do you denie him of sexual pleasure after all you've been through just because he can't speak. Or physically move as he once did. There would be a double standard if a woman had sex with her husband in this situation verses if a she was the one disabled. This is just one example to explore. Do you give up on your husband for better or for worse and let him suffer. Maybe its worse that you decide you have a right to have sex behind his back. Suddenly that kind of sex becomes your right and try to justify it. Morality has everything to do with rights. To the author you're welcome to pm me for further discussion

[guesswhoseback]

Good point. by the way I’m not sex deprived... got laid 3 weeks ago and it was 100% legit hook up with a very attractive 22 yr old girl. Not bragging but from a logical perspective I can understand during the dry spells. Anyway I would never it call it “a right” to have someone else’s body. That would be a dangerous and twisted road to go down. Sexual crimes and human trafficking have been going on sadly for all humanity because of one person feeling “a right” to this. However plenty of people have lived completely celibate lives (either voluntarily or involuntarily). It didn’t necessarily kill them, shorten their lives or even give them a depressed life. I will say this. As a single man what is more frustrating is not necessarily not getting consistent sex. It’s the lack of RESPECT I get or feel from others when I’ve been long time single. It sucks to hear this from family or long time friends I catch up with. I feel like I’m being unfairly judged for being selfish/weird at best versus creepy, incel or gay at worst. The need to be RESPECTED is something that falls more in line with a human right. I’ve had women (and some men) say embarrassing or sometimes downright insulting about me being single. Like I’m less than a man and “lack something”. People can be long single for very complicated reasons. As on they are not insulting you it’s best just to STFU about it. None of your f*cking business.

[Asker]

@guesswhoseback Very important points, you've raised!

[Asker]

Thank you so much for your understanding...

[guesswhoseback]

Well it takes one to know one. It’s sad but I intentionally avoid some family events and have disassociated from so called “friends” who have made very rude comments in the past. It’s not just people in their 20s but grown as adults in their 30s and 40s. But seriously you could of done a much better job framing this question. It sounds like you are saying sexual gratification is a “human right” and that sounds very creepy. You got to be careful there. But the right to be respected is a much different story.

[Asker]

@guesswhoseback To rephrase what the others are saying: nobody owes you respect :-) I was talking about the need to recognise sex as an inherently human need. Once we accept that, then we can go to the next stage of how to fulfill it. As of now, we are mixing up issues,...

[guesswhoseback]

Yes yes no one “owes you respect”. But that attitude is the core problem of literally 90% of the problems in society. You can disagree with someone and still respect them. You can dislike a someone and still respect them. Even with family you can dislike a relative and still love them. But getting back to sexual gratification. Women aren’t sexually attracted to men they don’t respect. They might sleep with them for other ulterior reasons. But men on the other hand CAN be sexually attracted to women they don’t respect. They dynamic is different for a man who is being denied sexual gratification. That does not mean we are entitled to it. But it for us it’s a much deeper issue of being recognized and respected as a man. This is a concept most women do not comprehend.

[ChrisMaster69]

It’s never a right, by saying it is a right means that a court of some description can make a decree and order say the woman to do as ordered.

That’s not saying both parties should offer emotional support to each other, which may include some element of sex.

It is never ever a right.

This is bordering on the archaic thing in some cultures where the man has rights over his wife or any woman and can demand sex, is allowed to force her (rape in marriage).

Not really surprised it’s a guy asking a question.

There is a reason prostitution is the worlds oldest profession, if you can’t get it for ‘free’ then you pay for it, but a right never, women (and men) have a choice.

[PrudentGuy]

Sex involves 2 person.

Exhaustively, the following are possible:

1) he wants, she wants

2) he doesn't want, but she wants

3) he wants, but she doesn't want

4) both don't want.

Only in case 1, sex can happen without the use of force.

By virtue of this analysis, sex CANNOT be a rights because there are cases where enforcement will tantamount to allowing rape, which cause a violation of another human rights.

To conclude, it's a regret the cases show 3 scenarios where at least one person want sex, but 2 shows another doesn't want. To avoid enforcing a law that legalize rape, sex cannot be a human right.

(How? Can I be a Senator? LOL!)

[NitroExpress]

Ethics are ultimately subjective, but there are things we commonly agree on, such as that no one is entitled to sex as that would potentially violate another person's right to refuse sex.

You're welcome to try and pledge your case to the world but I doubt you'll get a statistically significant portion of it to agree with you.

[Asker]

"Another person's right to refuse sex"... what if the other person is your spouse? Would it be okay if guys deprived their partners of sex, the way women do it (in a mostly accepted manner now)?

[NitroExpress]

It would certainly be well within their right.

[Asker]

That one person whom I can legally get sex from also has a unilateral veto power... ?

[NitroExpress]

That is indeed how consent works.

[ChrisMaster69]

For the UK (and likely rest of western world) there is no legal right to sex. That’s just a throw back to archaic society’s that still unfortunately exist today.

[MCheetah]

Ask any man who's not an 8 out of 10 or higher, and he'll tell you exactly why. But yeah, I haven't had sex in YEARS, and not expecting women to suddenly change what they're attracted to, all of a sudden.

[Ms_Vanderquack]

Nobody owes you sex just because you want it. Deal with it.

[Asker]

Nobody owes you free speech just because you want it. Deal with it. Nobody owes you food just because you want it. Deal with it. Would that be tolerable? I know capitalism takes the second position...

[Ms_Vanderquack]

Yes, my free speech is constitutionally protected. People owe me food because I pay for it.

[guesswhoseback]

@ms_vanderquack i agree with you completely. But I think there is a deeper issue going on here. It takes one to know one when I read in between the lines on this guys viewpoint. It’s not that men (or women) are “owed” sex because of their natural biológical impulses. Rather it’s a deep need to be loved, accepted and respected. Long time involuntarily single people are all well too familiar with this nasty feeling. If we would quit judging single people with all the stereotyped (weird, loner, loser, incel, creep, secretly “gay”, etc.) I think some of this problem can be avoided.

[Ms_Vanderquack]

@guesswhoseback a "natural biological impulse" my explanation why they want it, but it doesn't justify thinking the deserve it just for existing.

[Soremain]

No one is obligated to let you use their body just like no one has the right to choose to use your dick without your consent, isn't that obvious?

Free speech is not the same because I don't need to use someone else's body to speak. Same with food, I can use nature to get my own food or choose to buy it from someone. Just like you can choose to buy sex if you are not able to get it for free. But no one is obligated to give it to you for free.

[EternallyCorrect]

Everybody over the age of consent has the right to have sex don’t they?

[Asker]

In theory. Many are deprived...

[EternallyCorrect]

Deprived of the right to have sex? They’re not. What you’re speaking about is people who can’t convince someone else to have sex with them. You can’t make that a right because that would mean forcing people to have sex unwillingly with somebody they don’t want to have sex with.

[Asker]

Inasmuch as the right of a family (or spouse) to be supported financially or with maintenance (in case of a divorce) "forces" a man to work. Very hard?

[Dargil]

My liberty is a human right. No-one gives up anything for me to have it.
Sex is no, because someone is obligated to provide it.

[Dargil]

I am traditionally regarding marriage. I believe, within reason, that spouses have a duty to serve their spouses sexually.

[Asker]

@Dargil, the concept of "marital rape" rewrites this full gender magna charter. It gives the lower-libido partner veto rights, and also the right to allege "cheating" and demand alimony later...

[Dargil]

That's why we should scrutinize a partner even more than an employee.

[Asker]

Problem is that partners are fine at the start of a relationship... They sour with time!

[Dargil]

My personal experience is that it is hard for them to maintain the veneer for more than a year. They will reveal themselves when they think it is safe. Let them think it is and be prepared to pull the plug when the misandrist rhetoric begins to seep out. It will.

[andreasderjuengere]

Human rights are rather ''agreements'' on social interaction.
I very much doubt them to be real.

[Asker]

Can we create a "fictional" human right over this too?

[andreasderjuengere]

I'd count that under: ''the right to at least try''?

[Juxtapose]

ffs man just jerk off lol.

You don't *NEED* sex, you can orgasm on your own. Get a fleshlite with a vibrating prostate massager if you want to feel even better.

[In_Trance]

Of course not

[Nachowedgie]

Nope

[Anonymous]

It feels it is for women but not for men

[Anonymous]

i feel it is a right for women but not for men, since a vagina has always been more valuable than a penis has.

[Asker]

Why? Is that justified? Perhaps that is an artificially-created scarcity. Now coming unstuck in the world of women's rights?

[Opinion Owner]

i was speaking like that, is because, most people can agree, that the average woman has access to sex a lot more than the average man does, and most people, i'm sure almost all people, who end up still a virgin deep into adulthood, are male, for example, people who end up as 30 or 40 year old virgins are typically male, if a woman is like that, it's usually because she chooses to be, there's a reason why the title character was a guy, male, in the movie the 40-year old virgin

[Anonymous]

You have the right to engage in sex with a legs and freely consenting partner. That is it.

[Opinion Owner]

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