Is sex a requirement for you?

cth2188 Xper 7

Whether in a friendship or relationship with a woman?

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Dargil Master
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The central purpose of a friends with benefits arrangement is sexual intimacy. There is no other reason for having one. That does not mean we are not friends; it's just what our friendship is based.
A dating relationship is not that much different except you have an eye on the future and a commitment to it. But advancing sexual intimacy is essential to a dating relationship as well. Intercourse can come whenever we agree to it but "productive" sexual intimacy ) hand and oral) must be present within a reasonable time (days or weeks) or the relationship is stillborn. Put simply, if I don't cum, I will go.
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- cth2188
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  I don't do friends with benefits and sex is initiated by a woman not a man. She will let the man know when she's ready to be intimate. What was that man doing before he met her? Pleasing himself I'm sure or getting his yokes off. I don't have sex unless married.. many men don't want marriage so why give up the sex?
- Dargil
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  "(s) ex is initiated by a woman not a man. She will let the man know when she's ready to be intimate" " *But a man can also "signal" his interest, but she can always decline it. Not so different from an invitation for a date in the first place. Like dating, sex is a delicate dance. Given the nature of men, he is unlikely to sit there with his hands folded until she "let (s) the man know when she's ready". And if she appears to be playing him, he will lose interest. What was that man doing before he met her? What was she doing before he met her? Pleasing himself I'm sure or getting her yokes off c/o of a rabbit vibe? That goes both ways. I don't have sex unless married. *A fair decision on your part, but almost any man will need to be validated by sexual intimacy. If it doesn't happen in a reasonable time, it is a vote of no confidence and he will see himself out. Sexual intimacy is not a one way street. That's why a number of women end up alone.
- cth2188
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  Sex doesn't have to equal to getting to know someone.. there's many things you can do without sex being the main factor. What's wrong with this generation? No wonder why stds and unwanted pregnancies exist. Celibacy has been my protection.. had men reject me because of no sex well adios 👒
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- cth2188
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  Since most men don't desire marriage I don't entertain men nowadays and keep it at a friendship level. Will I ever get married? Probably no.. I'm ok and fine stating married to God at this point.
- cth2188
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  Yes I have a rabbit 🐇 🐰, but I'm not out here getting used and ran through
- cth2188
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  There's more to life then sex
- Dargil
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  We all make choices that suit us and accept the consequences of our choices. Good luck with yours and I hope to have with mine.
- cth2188
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  There are no consequences just keeping my purity. I barely use my toy.. sex isn't my focus
- Dargil
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  Of course there is (are). There's trust, friendship, common interest and compatibility. But sexual intimacy is one of those pillars for almost every man. "I'm ok and fine sta (y) ing married to God at this point." *Good to ask Him what he wants for you, though. Otherwise, you are telling G0d when YOU are ready. And that is a bad plan. "
- cth2188
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  Meaning I'm not sharing myself with anyone not my husband hence staying committed to God
- cth2188
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  I can tell you don't understand scripture or anything.. I couldn't deal with a man not in the word of God
- Dargil
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  It is a valid choice which you are free to make.
- Dargil
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  You can tell that by revelation, eh? Perhaps there is insight beyond your own.
- cth2188
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  Who said anything about revelation I showed you one scripture pretaining to marriage what you requested
- cth2188
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  Who said anything about revelation?
- Dargil
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  You have a nice day. And remember. Virtue is its own reward.
- cth2188
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  You too I've been waiting 11 years I can hold out any longer

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WanderingLoveWizard Yoda
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Absolutely it is and I'm not afraid to admit it.
Sex plays a vital role in establishing a connection with a woman. If all we're gonna do is talk and hang out, then I might as well date my sister, because we get along better than any woman I've ever met
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- cth2188
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  I wouldn't entertain you a woman decides when she's ready to be intimate with a man not the other way around
- cth2188
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  You can pay a hooker for sex
- WanderingLoveWizard
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  Whatever
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- cth2188
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  It is whatever
- cth2188
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  Pay a hoe
- cth2188
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  You want ass pay for it simple not from me
- WanderingLoveWizard
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  Bitter cunt
- cth2188
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  No my pussy is reserved 11 years and clean no stds
- WanderingLoveWizard
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  My girlfriends choose to sleep with me. But I only date women who are cool. Not stuck up cunts like you
- cth2188
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  I don't let every man in me - pretty much a virgin keep running through these hoes
- cth2188
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  That's good I don't lay down with men who aren't my husband she's your girlfriend not wife a huge difference
- Cheerfull009
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  @cth2188, for whom, you have reserved you pussy? Would be lucky to get such nice virgin pussy
- cth2188
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  Noone the way how this generation is I'm better off single- today's society has become oversexualized
- cth2188
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  @Cheerfull009 I will continue to stay single and celibate/ I'm not interested in dating of today.. definitely not bitter just have morals/ standards

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definitelyNotHer Xper 2
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I don't think "requirement" is the best word to use.
In a friends with benefits situation, obviously. That's what friends with benefits is.
In a relationship, sex shouldn't be a requirement. However sex also helps tremendously with having a healthy and loving relationship, it brings you closer and allows trust to be built.
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RobT312 Guru
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Yes. Necessary for me when in a relationship
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Berethor Master
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In a friendship? friends with benefits? I don't need sexless relationship, it pretty pointless.
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OfMiceandMen Guru
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In a relationship yes, bc without sex (among other things) it would just be a friendship.
Friendship, No. They're just a good friend and you should not think of them that way.
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- cth2188
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  Who controls that you or the woman? Sex in a relationship?
- OfMiceandMen
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  She does of course. There is no sex as she is in control of her body.
- cth2188
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  OK thanks
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- OfMiceandMen
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  No prob.
- HippieVeganJewslim
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  Would You kiss/cuddle with/fondle/talk intimately with a friend?
- OfMiceandMen
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  @HippieVeganJewslim If that question was directed towards me, I would not. In my books those are intimate things which is a boundary you do not cross with just a friend, unless you want it to move on from just friends. If you've established a friends with benefits type scenario where those items are included, then it still takes it up notch from just a typical friendship scenario.
- HippieVeganJewslim
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  OK. I’d do those things with a romantic partner, but must first be married to have sex. It seems that romantic relationship is same as marriage.
- OfMiceandMen
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  @HippieVeganJewslim I wouldn't say those intimate items you listed have to wait till your married, but they qualify you as more than just friends when you engage in them. Sex is the ultimate form of intimacy, and it should wait till both of you are ready, which can be marriage.
Bricealan Guru
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No, it's not necessary for me to enjoy a woman's company.
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AviatorTom Master
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Friendship... No.
Relationship... Yes.
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talka20 Yoda
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To me it is after marrying
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- cth2188
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  A moment of fresh air whew 😍 😌
- talka20
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  Hahahhhh the way u said it !
- cth2188
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  After reading some of these comments excluding you and another friend geez!
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- talka20
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  Oh i seee
- talka20
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  How do i dm u tho? U seem nice
- cth2188
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  I just messaged him
exitseven Master
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not in a friendship but definitely in a relationship with a woman.
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stratford Yoda
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I would be depressed living with out it.
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- cth2188
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  Wow..
- stratford
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  It is such an amazing experience and feeling (with the right person), it would be worse than losing a limb for me. How about you?
- cth2188
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  I'm not having sex it's been 11 years
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- cth2188
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  It'll have to be the right man
- stratford
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  Hopefully it will be worth the wait. Have you had an orgasm during that time?
- cth2188
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  With who? Me no
ChiTown33 Master
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Is it a requirement that he like you?
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- cth2188
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  No aslong as he respects my boundaries and standards
- ChiTown33
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  Well guys generally want women that actually want them.
- cth2188
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  OK true
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- ChiTown33
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  I always advise youg women that want to abstain from sex till marriage. That a good man will wait so long as you keep him convinced (through affection etc.) That you want to sleep with him as bad as he wants to sleep with you. Women like to feel attractive to thier man. Men are no different in this. I've always joked that if you've dated a woman for a month and she hasn't slept with you, she's sleeping with someone, it's just not you. Obviously I'm joking. But it's a joke that has SOME validity to it. Because so few people abstain nowadays. And there's been many a guy whose waited for a woman only for her to sleep around with guys behind his back. So naturally a guy contemplates this possibility when she says she wants to wait.
- cth2188
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  I've been celibate 11 years and won't date a guy sleeping around or fornicating.. at this point I am open to dating foreign men most American men don't want marriage or commitment.. being I'm older a lot of men don't want older unless I date someone in their 40s and 50s which I'm ok these men have had children, been married , and have experience
- cth2188
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  I'm not looking to have anymore children
- cth2188
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  I don't fornicate or shack
- ChiTown33
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  Like I said, most women do. Just like you have you preconceived notions about guys based on what's out there, so do guys.
- cth2188
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  Yes I will stay preserved until death if so be it - or travel overseas
- ChiTown33
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  Not sure why you're telling me this as though whether you're celibate matters to me any. I'm just trying to answer your question.
- cth2188
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  Just making a point there are women abstinence and celibate
- cth2188
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  I've accepted what is in this dating world
- ChiTown33
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  OK that's fine.
Ben487 Xper 6
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If I was dating someone yes sex is a requirement, otherwise we aren't really dating we're just hanging out. If It's just a friend than no. I would not need to have sex to be friendly.
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TomMarks Xper 6
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You said in friendship or relationship. In friendship, no, it’s not a requirement. I have had a girlfriend that started as a friendship in the past that we had sex, but we became more than friends. I have a friend that is a girl now I don’t see that happening and I’m fine with it. She is a great person to talk to when I need.
If a relationship is more than friends, eventually I’d hope she would want to be sexual. If not I would evaluate if that relationship is going the way I like.
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KostasKouvalis Guru
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I'm gonna say, yes
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Rizwan_khan Xper 7
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Yes very much sex so important for me.
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LickSmack Xper 2
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If it's a Relationship with a Woman, (being commitment) I think it's Mandatory.
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Fromdusktilldawn Guru
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If there is no intimacy or sex in a relationship isn't it just a good friend then?
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HippieVeganJewslim Yoda
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No, but it’s a good idea to keep a marriage stable.
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- HippieVeganJewslim
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  Did Mary have sex with Joseph (at first)?
KrakenAttackin Master
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Absolutely.
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- cth2188
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  That figures
- KrakenAttackin
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  @cth2188. But you do you. If I know the woman has had sex with boyfriend's in the last but now wants me to wait, that's her way of telling me she sees me as a simp
- cth2188
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  I haven't had sex in 11 years and use a vibrator
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- cth2188
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  Most American men / women are hyper sexualized
Michael09 Xper 1
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It depends on the closeness
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strlb Xper 6
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Requirement? In a long-term relationship, 💯
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Guardian45 Guru
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Yes, is a requirement for me.
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- cth2188
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  Good luck finding that
- Guardian45
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  Yes, I'll need it, and I don't see happiness in the cards.
- cth2188
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  Moving forward I will be onmy dating men overseas
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- cth2188
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  Only ^ I'm done with American men as potential partners
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