Is sex an emotional experience for you?

[victoriaxoxo]

Most of the time when having sex with people do you find this makes you attached and emotional or are you in it for the pleasure?

[MrOracle]

It depends on whether I'm having it with a person I'm in love with or not. And even if I'm having it with a person that I'm in love with, it's not necessarily emotional or romantic every single time.

As a man, I can separate sex from romantic love, and I can enjoy sex without romantic love - though I definitely think it's better WITH romantic love.

Most women aren't able to separate sex from romantic love - which is okay, they just need to be aware of this and make decisions accordingly, and they also need to understand and accept that men work differently.

[victoriaxoxo]

I don't agree that most women are not able to separate sex from emotion. I can personally attest to the fact that that is extremely easy. Looking at the numbers it seems like almost same share of women and men can have sex for the sake of having sex. Interestingly in the comments it seems it's mainly men who think women can't separate emotion from sex when it fact it's the same share of men and women (give or take). Seems like it's perhaps a personality dependant and not a gender dependant difference after all.

[MrOracle]

There is overwhelming data to support what I've said. Of course there are exceptions to every rule, but if you ask 100 women, 70 or 80 will agree with me - even though Feminism teaches women otherwise. And, yes, some men can't separate them either, but most can.

[victoriaxoxo]

Can you share this data with me? Also just make sure it's not from the 1900-something, from the days when women had to pretend to get attached.

[Angela_S]

For me, yes. If I'm having sex with my b/f it's definitely more a "making love" thing, than a "having sex" thing. I find it difficult to do it if I'm not in the mood emotionally as well as physically. Luckily it's not an issue and we do it a good 4/5 times a week. I don't know if it's different for men in general, but I know by b/f just purely wants to cum sometimes, rather than making love. So even though he's as into it as I am when we have sex, I do give him extra hand-jobs during the week at the times when I'm not in the mood for sex, just to relieve his need to cum. And when I can't do that, he just wanks. Yes, he has a much higher drive than me!

[mandyfire98]

It depends on the context. Like when I have sex I always get feelings. But there's a difference in having feelings when you have that bond during sex with someone you're in love with and the feelings of intimacy I feel when just having a sexual experience with someone I'm not in love with. I can feel intimate with someone I'm in bed with but it's not the same as with someone I love.

[Snowball69]

I completely agree

[ManOnFire]

If I don't see it for just what it is, I can become attached, yes. I remember having sex with a woman who other men also liked, and she would even tell me how guys at her job would hit on her, and that in itself was enough to make me jealous and preoccupied about it, even though it was just sex.

So yes, it can be quite an emotional experience for me, and if I don't control how much I'm connected to the woman, I can get pretty jacked up.

[Being_a_good_Indian]

Sex is about emotional needs, psychological needs. Sex is not like eating, because a) you don't die without it, and b) it's inevitably an emotional experience when you have it.

[PenkWing]

Yes! I have sex mostly for the emotions it gives me, or that I can share with my partner. It doesn't have to be a long term partner or someone I have strong feelings for. It's emotional as long as you make it so. The memories I have of sex are emotional.

Don't get me wrong, I'm used to sex that feels more physical than anything. But it's boring and the older I grow the less I care about it.

[OlderAndWiser]

Some guys, mostly young and immature, will say that sex is just for fun, but I think most guys develop feelings when they become sexually actively with a partner. Guys actually want sex early in a relationship so they can become closer to you, not just because they want to get laid.

[RobT312]

Yeah it can be. If you really like the person and is more than just the sex, then yes it can be very emotional

[StrongMale]

I really gave this some thought, and I have to say that no, sex is not an emotional experience for me, as a guy. It is intimate, loving, exciting and intensely pleasurable, but none of those are actually emotions. So, no, I don’t feel emotions during sex. But that does not mean that sex is robotic and purely physical for me either. Just that my emotions are not really a part of the experience.

[SnowedIn]

I said yes but the answer is sometimes. There are times when it is emotional and intimate and all about love and connection and emotion. Then there are times when it's all about primal animalistic raw sex. Which, I suppose, is sort of emotional but not I think the way the question was being asked.

[mrmonogamous]

Absolutely. It is the most intimate form of communication a couple can share. It’s very emotional.

[Paige90]

Sometimes it is and sometimes it isn't. It depends on who the person is.

[Agape93]

Can be yeah

[exitseven]

yes, it is.

[Andres77]

Depends on who it’s with

[tfan1]

Vote C is missing - Both 🙂

[Ironic_Method]

Sometimes. Sometimes it's just for pleasure.

[Alltheflowers84]

Very emotional experience for me. Can only do it with my partner.

[clampfan101]

I assume it will. I’m certainly not getting into it just for the pleasure. I’ll be in it for both me and my future wife.

[motownplayer2000]

Both. If I have sex with you. I’m attached to you already. One night stands rarely happen and they don’t always feel good. It’s more a mental thrill than a physical one… but if we fucking, I’ve already built that bond… so it would be less about the emotional bond and more about how can I please her, and she can please me to the fullest

[Twalli]

Sex is always for fun if we are doing it. We are both tested and clean, also I can't get you pregnant, so nothing can happen when I cum in you. Therefore if you aren't having fun, then it isn't worth it. Yet, I don't have sex without an emotional connection, and part of the reason why I'm doing it is because I love you and want you to feel good. I get my girlfriend off more than she gets me off.

[CuriousMufuxka]

Yes, but that's more counted towards foreplay.

[Guardian45]

I have had sex "without emotions". It's messed up! Sex should ALWAYS be an emotional experience for me!

[mT2359]

Yes of course.