Is sex better without a condom?

My boyfriend and I are having sex really soon. We were talking about it and I told him to bring condoms (because I've never bought them and wouldn't know which to get) and he said that he's not a big fan of condoms. He said that he's only worn condoms a few times and each time that he did, it "ruined the whole experience"... Why is that? I've never had sex but why does one little layer matter so much? He also said that I can't get pregnant unless he cums inside me because precum doesn't even have sperm or dead sperm. It's more of a lubricant than anything else. I told him okay (even though I'm not really okay with it) and to be careful. How likely is it for me to get pregnant without a condom or birth control? Strictly the pull-out method. This is going to be my first time having sex so of course I want him to enjoy it but then again I don't want to worry about getting pregnant... What should I do?
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  • Unless you are looking to get pregnant or some from of STD use some type of prevention. Some guys will say whatever crap they think they can get away with to not use condoms. At least your boyfriend is honest about it. Yes, sex with a condom does not feel as good as it does without one but you have to ask yourself if that is worth the risk. From my understanding the difference is much more noticeable as a guy but if he refuses to use one with you, don't have sex with him unless you take other precautions.

    Precum can indeed contain live sperm and people have gotten pregnant from that alone although it is less likely than form semen. Tell him that if he wants to have sex with you without a condom you will both need to take other precautions. make sure you are both tested for STDs (free in a lot of places) and use another form of birth control. If you want more information the brilliant Dr. Doe did a video about exactly this right here...

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VUGvxiNTjDU
  • Coitus interruptus is not at all reliable. And he's wrong about precum. It may contain sperm. If you have sex without condoms or contraception, it's extremely likely that you will become pregnant. So go see a gynecologist and get some form of contraception. If you decide to go without condoms then you should both be tested for STDs.

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  • I think he may be wrong about the precum. I believe it does have live semen in it. (high school health class)

    Condoms also protect you from many STDs. When was he last tested for them? Was he clear of all of them? Even if he doesn't have symptoms, he could have something that will affect your health badly.

    The failure rate for "pulling out" is somewhere above 20% i. e. there's a greater than 1 in 5 chance of you getting pregnant each time you use that method. (17 magazine)

    My advice would be to ask him to get tested if he hasn't been and to talk to your doctor about the birth control pill options out there. Mine only takes 7 days of consistent, proper use to be 99+% effective at preventing pregnancy.

    • Aren't the side effects of birth control pills weird? And how much do they cost?

    • The side effects depend on the type of pill; there are many and at different dosages of the hormones. You would be able to work with your health care provider on finding the right one for your body and lifestyle over time. The cost depends on your (parent's) health insurance. Or, you can go someplace like Planned Parenthood for assistance without needing your parents insurance. I went there for STD testing after my ex cheated because I didn't want my parents to know (even at 21) that I'm sexually active. It costs but less. (I know places like that have gotten a lot of bad media lately, but they mostly exist to help young or disadvantaged women avoid unwanted consequences of being sexually active. You don't even have to consider parenting/adoption/abortion if you don't get pregnant.

    • P. S. I think you should do a little more research before jumping into this. I know it's tough to say no and ask him to wait when you're really into him. If he cares though, he'll wait a little longer for you to be comfortable with your options.

  • Sex is better without a condom. It does feel better, but just about anything feels better than having a baby. Especially since he's your first and I'll assume you're both fairly young, use a condom. Don't let him guilt-trip you into having sex bare for selfish reasons like the classic 'sex feels horrible with a condom', when the consequence could be you falling pregnant.

    Tell him condom, or no sex at all. (You should bring condoms on your own because I'd bet he'll conveniently 'forget' to bring 'em, if he ends up agreeing to wearing one at all.)

  • Sex is tremendously better without the condom, but it obviously comes with the dangers of pregnancy or an STD if you are not careful who you let stick their pee pee in you.
    I personally in all 16 years of being sexually active have only had it bareback and I was only on BC for a short time (they had a very adverse affect on my body) resulting in 1 true pregnancy and the use of morning after pill quite a few times (screwing just before or during my ovulation time). Never contracted anything more serious than chlamydia which was easily corrected.

  • If you are not on birth control pills, I would not do it without a condom! Condoms do feel different than without a condom but the stress of zero protection what so ever so 100% not worth not having a condom/being on birth control pills. He is being pretty selfish if he refuses to wear a condom and honestly, I'd break up with a guy if he refused to wear a condom the first time (or anytime) we have had sex if I wasn't on a birth control pill. Even then, I'd only let him go without a condom if I knew he was STD/STI free!

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  • If you're not on birth control, use condoms. Withdrawal doesn't work.

  • Condom or no entry. Simple and safe until you are established in your own contraception.

  • Pre cum CAN get you pregnant.

    Don't be silly wrap the willy! Lol seriously though you're putting yourself at high risk here. If he's not comfortable putting on a condom and you're not comfortable without one (which is the smart way) then you two need to find another method. Please be protected. Better safe than sorry.

  • What would you prefer? Sex with a condom, or a baby or STI? Your boyfriend is an asshole, and if he keeps that shit up, you need to drop him like a hot potato.
    The pull out method is not effective, at all. He either knows nothing about sexual health, or is hoping you know nothing about it. If you're not on hormonal birth control, use a condom. If neither of you have been tested for STIs, DEFINITELY use a condom.
    If your boyfriend cares about you, he'll respect your wish to use one.

    • I know that he's STD free! He was tested recently

    • Well that is good. However, it doesn't change the fact that the withdrawal method does not prevent conception, and if you don't want children, you need a reliable birth control method. A condom is the easiest to get and use, and won't cause side effects. (Unless you're allergic to latex, in which case you can buy latex free condoms.)

  • Use a condom. Don't be stupid.

  • doesn't ruin the experience to wear a condom but sex without a condom is definitely a better sensation

    my opinion is unless the girl is on birth control or i want a kid i'm not having sex without a condom. sex is still amazing even with a condom.

  • Condoms can break. My boyfriend had to get me the morning after pill the other day because ours broke so just keep that in mind. I don't notice a difference but he does. Then again, I've never had an orgasm before and I'm 25.

    • How much does the morning after pill cost? I'm in Wisconsin.

    • In IN it cost about $35 in 2014. Haven't needed it since then. Can get it at a pharmacy store. Must be 18 in some states. It is NOT for your main birth control. It gets less effect as more hours pass between sex and taking it, and it has stronger symptoms than regular birth control: nausea, messed up period, headaches, other weird stuff.

    • $50 where I live and he got it at Walmart.

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  • Pre-cum can get you pregnant, and so the choice is either birth control of some sort (shots, copper thingies, arm-implants, pills, etc.), condoms, or hysterectomy.

    You probably should not get a hysterectomy.

  • I agree with him, it ruins it for me. Decreases the pleasure loads and tbh id rather not have it, its like eating an amazing meal with a peg on your nose so you can't really taste it but your eating it anyway and know its there.

  • Yes, sex is much better without a condom.

    Condoms suck; I want a male pill.

  • It's debatable... sometimes I could feel it and sometimes not but one thing for sure I never got pregnant when he used one.

  • Best he wears one. ... you're still gonna have fun in bed... use plenty lube to avoid being too sore afterwards though

  • Would you shower in a raincoat, or eat a mint without taking it out of the wrapper?

    Strictly the pull out method isn't a reliable solution, and he's completely wrong about precum not having sperm.

    Condoms, and birth control, or a lifetime of regret.

  • Use a condom!

  • Precum has live sperm in it. You can get pregnant from it.

  • Yeah if you want an unplanned pregnancy.

  • He is far to immature.. or lying to you saying you can't get pregnant if he pulls out..
    Pre cum dose contain sperm.. and what if he busts accidentally?
    I see a Maury or Jerry Springer show in the future if you dont use a condom

  • I don't know anything about if it is better without a condom, but pre-cum can sometimes have sperm.

  • He's gonna enjoy it regardless because you're tight af (even though it's gonna hurt YOU). you're the one thats not gonna enjoy it at all by the way. He's playing you I must say

    • A lot of women experience pain the first time. Won't argue that. However, your first time may not hurt if you take plenty of time with foreplay and he is extra gentle with you. He will still get off because, yeah you'll be tight AF, but it may be less unpleasant for you. My first time wasn't painful with a larger than average partner (immature enough to measure and Google), and the next day soreness was minimal. Just trying to share some hope. Being scared would make it worse.

  • I personally know someone who got pregnant from a penis that never went into her vagina. The withdrawal method doesn't work.

    On the other hand, my experience is that sex is ten times better without a condom. I feel so much more and that gives me much more control over how long I last. I don't mean to say don't use them, but I'm just giving you my experience.

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