Is sex massively important in a relationship?

[Waldorf7]

Yes (in my opinion) or No and why?

[TheorionMage]

The FOREMOST fundamental 'divine' mandate is 'perpetuation of One's species'.
It underlies virtually EVERY cyclic act of ALL Creation, despite the wistful thinking of all those fixating piously upon some nebulous 'final judgement / Second Coming' admission to an eternal genderless 'Paradise'.

ALL species, from microscopic cancerous infectious virus to the most gargantuan cosmic constructs obey 'perpetuation'. And 'sex' is manifest in MANY forms, and under many guise--- Platonic, Patriotic, Parental, Competitive, Celibate, Concupiscent, Socially 'verboten': the innate fundamental DRIVE to 'survive' DEFINES 'relationships'.

"Do YOU 'love' me?" ULTIMATELY translates as: "Would YOU invest YOUR physiological DNA to combine with MINE... to risk manifest a new and separate sentient life form?"
Otherwise, the 'relationship' is either purely platonic or just transient 'acquaintance'

[Nooversight718]

wow WOW

[Bricealan]

Strange as it sounds, it used to be, but with my now, longtime friend, I wish we fucked once in a while, but we don't, and I jack-off when I need/want to.

Last New Years Eve, I ate her pussy to orgasm here at my place, but I could not get a hard-on to fuck her, sad, and somewhat humiliating. I have told her we should fuck once in a while, but we have not tried since. We do a lot of things together, sans fucking/or pussy eating.

[Bricealan]

@Waldorf7 Thanks for the MHO for my rather 'crude" answer to your question. Although the MODS seem to tolerate my sometimes 'crude' language, I hope never to be offensive but sometimes my female friends prefer me to be a bit on the explicit side rather than being more 'clinical' Anyway, thank you.

[Anonymous]

Depends on the relationship. I'm Asexual and was in a past lesbian relationship, sex was important to my ex and it broke us up in the end.

I'm married now to a lovely guy. Sex is very important to him but guys are so easy to please sexually, I just let him do his thing which is usually 3-10 minutes of him grunting on top of me or its me giving him a blowjob or encouraging him to jerk off over my boobs, ass or just in the shower. I love his cuddles after, it could be him waking me up in the middle of the night for 30 seconds of sex followed by six hours of cuddles.

[Waldorf7]

Wow I wish I had a guy like that. Mine will barely touch me

[Emii_Urashima]

Really? Why are you still with him?

[Waldorf7]

@Emii_Urashima honestly cause I love him so deeply besides the sex thing everything is some what good. We’ve just been trying to communicate more and compromising I have little hope. But I am growing tired of this been thinking/fantasying about other men it’s the first time this ever happens to me and I’ve been in plenty long term relationship I know it sounds awful.

[chilldude33]

@Waldorf7 sounds like you're friends rather than lovers

[Dalisay409]

It's very important to me. It's an expression of intimacy. Plus it feels too good to not do it.

[mrmonogamous]

PERFECT ANSWER!!!

[Lliam]

Yes it is. The reason I want a female instead of a male partner is because I love sex with women. Sex isn't everything, but sexual compatibility is very important. A woman who loves sex is a treasure. Sex creates a special bond.

[OlderAndWiser]

It's very important to me.

[ushagomez]

Yes it is a key part. Well matched libidos are key to a long happy relationship.

[Alex8736]

along with adding new and kinky things to keep the spark

[JamesDiaz11]

Yes, it bonds two people, and solidifies that they're more than friends. The closeness you feel with someone you've had sex with transcends what you can gain with even the most intense quality time. It also shows you're responsible for that persons sexual pleasure, and care to please them.

[LazerBean]

Yes and no. Making your spouse feel desired, wanted, and fulfilling their needs is important. And sometimes sex is what is required to do so. Thus, in cases where sex is required to do so then sex is important. If both people are at a place in life where sex is not required to do so, then sex is not important.

[Berethor]

I'm a man; I can't help it trope, if a man not satisfied then he is likely to cheat or leave.

[Reece12345]

Yes, but it is even more important to get to know someone before you have sex with them. You never know if they just want to get in your pants or if they are also looking for a deeper, more meaningful connection.

[ShadezMcgee]

Sex is important in a relationship and is usually separated from other relationships. If you are in a relationship with a significant other and you ain't fucking, you are just roommates. Plain and simple

[mrmonogamous]

It’s absolutely necessary in a long term commitment relationship. It’s something so special and the most intimate form of communication. It’s the glue that holds the rest together.

[Waldorf7]

How can I get my partner to see that? We’re in a almost 3 year relationship and we keep getting sexless more and more: he doesn’t see how much this upsets and frustrating it is to me even though I’ve made it known.

[slatyb]

It is to me. Others maybe not so much.

[20yearsolder]

It's pretty important, the other person has to be satisfied or they're going to go look for it elsewhere

[Waldorf7]

Yeah sounds about right, cause I’m getting there

[20yearsolder]

You're getting there? Are you thinking about looking for sex elsewhere?

[Waldorf7]

Yes but it just mostly like fantasying feel awful about these thoughts though.

[Waldorf7]

Because this has never happened to me before. I have quite a sex drive and I’m every relationship I’ve been it there sexual energy has matched mine my current one used to mutual but has fallen off for a while now.

[20yearsolder]

There's absolutely nothing wrong with fantasizing. You were very lucky to be with people that matched your sexual drive previously. That's pretty uncommon. I'm sure you're fully aware that there is a magnitude of toys out there to satisfy you when he's not the mood

[Waldorf7]

I do have my collection of toys actually have to use them about 2-3 times a week since I’m not being satisfied. But my SO is addicted to porn and prefers to do his business alone so I think that has a lot to with the sexless relationship we’re in.

[20yearsolder]

I say it's time to end this relationship. I was going to private message you but it's blocked.

[Summeroflove]

After marriage it is. But it seems like that’s all it’s about. Before marriage there is other stuff

[Waldorf7]

What do you mean? I’m just asking this cause I’m in a almost 3 year relationship but it’s been sexless for the past three months and it just keeps increasing a month every time and this is not what I want in the long run. Cause I love having sex with my partner and now it’s basically like we’re roomates sleeping in the same bed.

[Summeroflove]

Well. That’s my honest answer you can take it or leave it

[Summeroflove]

Seems to be only about sex. There is your problem if that’s all you care about. You’re also not entitled to sex. If he says no and you keep pushing it. It starts becoming predatory

[CateM]

Oh definitely, being touch starved sucks!

[Dargil]

Not necessarily PIV or PIA but sexual intimacy is essential. I really need to cum regularly.

[Waldorf7]

Samers!

[Mysticknght]

Yes it is but there are also other things, like getting to know each other and communication

[JosyJosy]

it's pretty important

[Sensualsubmissive]

Good sex is, but role-play is of more important. Communication of what one wants in sex before sex is important. Like talk about how she wants to orgasm before sex🌹💚💯

[FilmGuy93]

Of course? Sex is like... the relationship equivalent of a president's state of the union address.

[Shedzij567]

I litterally cannot imagine being in a relationship without sex

[Waldorf7]

Me neither, but here I am sadly

[TacosRAwesome]

Maybe not massively, but it is important for me.