Is sex really that powerful of a motivator for men?

You get involved with a girl for a long time. Stringing her along. Playing games. Lying to her. Getting to know her. Listening to her stories. Making her feel like she’s the only one. Putting up with to the emotions she’s putting into you. All for just sex? Are these types of men really that miserable? Is it loneliness? Is it the power it brings over her! I don’t get it.
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I guess I should’ve been more specific. But I was talking about the men who use women for only sex. Like is it that worth hurting another person just so you can get your jollies off. I don’t understand why these men just don’t find porn.
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  • Oh... you haven't seen even half...

    A few great China Dynasties FELL because of women. Throughout ages, men went to war to fight for the women they loved.

    Look at today. Men worked hard to become richer so as to attract the women they loved.

    And yes, loved? It does exist, but interwoven with the ultimate lust for sex.

    Yes, girl, you're special to us just because you own a vagina and a nice face. And if you also possess great character and attributes, you can start World War III, if given the right opportunity.

    Vain? No. This is what kept the human race alive. The day guys stop wanting sex in an international scale is the counting down of Armageddon, not that of God, but that of extinction.

    • Love is different though. This question is more asking about the men who aren’t the committed types. The kind of men who don’t know that kind of love.

    • Oh... haha... then those guys simply knows how. to offer "cheap thrills", like you wrote in the details. Ultimately such guys feel that those "thrills" are cheaper and safer than hiring prostitutes. Hence if you fall for it, I'm sure you'll have a broken heart at some point with him. But to be fair, there are just as many "nice guys" who do it for real commitment. Just got to keep your eyes open and sharp.

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  • For some it may be for the reasons you listed.

    I get into some relationships with women that seem strange to a lot of people.

    Im very selective with who I let get close to me. Those I do we are either in a romantic relationship or we are close friends.

    As far as the friends things goes, we have an open dialogue. We are able to share and talk about anything. Like we have no filters on our thoughts. The only thing that isn't there is the romantic element.

    It's not all about sex, stringing, or loneliness. It can also be about just getting to know someone at a deeper level. Having someone to go to when you just want a little escape from the world and you don't want to filter your thoughts.

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  • Sounds like you have been used, and abused by several ASSBAGS!! Most men are not like those pricks!!
    Why do you pick the ones that are going to hurt you? Is it because they seem EXCITING, and "Bad Boy" kinds, that excite so many women, that never think things through?

    • I don’t go after them. They tend to pick me.

    • But you do not have to accept them. Respect yourself, and CHOOSE, for yourself, who YOU WANT to be with!

  • Sex is a powerful motivator for weak men. Otherwise, it's just one of many other things we like to do.

  • Yup it is in that way. It can also be used as positive reinforcement. So very big motivator in life. And well why sex is apparently better than masturbating but I don't know one seems like it takes more effort but i wouldn't know so.
    I always think people will have better relationships if they don't focus on sex so much. I ain't asexual but honestly if someone loved me for me and never wanted sex i would be okay with it 100%.

  • For a lot of men I'd say it is.

  • Yes lol

  • Actually we just like vagina. The problem is the bitch that's wrapped around the vagina.

  • Why else would men put up with women? Without the masculine sex drive, which is over twice as strong on average, the human race would go extinct.

    • Don't you still want the privilege to pay all her bills?

    • [Higher than average testosterone levels detected]

  • It is but only when it comes from my future wife, i won't have sex before marriage, because sex without marriage and without love is lame!

    Also it motivates a girl and maybe more than a man, a girl adores sex but only with her husband, the man whom she trust and loves from all her heart, unlike the majority of males who are just animals and seeking for sex only!

  • Im not 1 who has sex but with a girl im seeing an care about

  • yeah, in fact, it's probably even more of a motivator for women. women are more sexual than men, GUARAN FUCKING TEED

  • It has to do with how you were brought up. I was brought up to respect women.
    I treat them how I would want to be treated by them.

  • More so

  • I love the hypocrisy... the men you girls choose are like that because they can be. They know you'll throw yourselves at any hot guy not caring anything about his quality of character.
    So why should they treat you special when there are like 2 dozen shallow women just like you waiting for him to dump you or drive you off?
    You chose him just for looks, rejecting cruelly the other 95% of men who approach you. You deserve everything that these chosen men do to you.

  • Sex is a very high priority for most men.

    no, porn doesn’t cut it. Obviously men can give themselves orgasms. What they crave is the psychological excitement snd validation of having sex with an attractive partner.

    • I was talking to a man online and long distance though. So it would seem like porn should’ve helped him in this case because it would been no different. But your last sentence about psychological excitement and validation from having attention from me is what kept him going.

  • Yes. The only reason I went to college was to get a high-paying job and I only got a high-paying job because I could buy a nice house and car and the only reason I got a house and car was so that I could get a beautiful woman to have sex with me in them. If not for that, I would work at McDonald's because it's easier and I don't give a fuck about literally any of that. Except the having sex part.

    • Interesting. Would you say that the men that are able to get sex easier are often losers because they don’t have to try as hard to get it?

    • Yeah, I'd agree with that. Some have the looks to do just fine romantically, so they don't have any motivation to aim higher.

    • Wow I think this explains so much. Thank you for your clear answer. I bet it’s the same for women too. Like the less attractive a woman is then the more she will have to fend for herself since she’s not easily able to secure a man to provide those things. Seems pretty basic stuff that I guess I try to not acknowledge because society says it’s wrong to be superficial and whatnot.