Is sex that great or important for women?

I’m 26… never had a boyfriend, first kiss, touched … anything by a man. Sometimes I feel like I’m longing for something I never had…

what if I never get one or get married..

I don’t want to just give it up because I have a huge fear of abandonment

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  • Aye sis, don't stress yourself out thinkin about that too much, ya feel? You're still young af and have so much life ahead of you.

    Sex is cool and all but it ain't the be all end all. What really matters most is findin someone who genuinely cares about you - your feelings, your dreams, your whole self, inside AND out.

    Don't rush into anything just to cross stuff off a checklist. Wait for someone who sees your worth and makes you feel safe openin up. Quality over quantity for real.

    In the meantime, focus on cultivatin your relationships - family, friends, yourself too! Work on that self love and confidence so any dude is lucky just to get your time.

    You'll find your person when you least expect. Till then, live your best life and don't ever feel like you're missin out or less than. You're perfect just as you are sis!

    Keep shining bright - the right people will notice and be drawn to that light in you. Love comes when you least expect, so don't stress. You got this!

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  • Is this really better? Hanging around on a social site, endlessly asking the same question, as though you expect someone to swoop in and magically make all your problems go away?

    Whether it's overrated or underrated, do you get any real satisfaction out of doing THIS, instead?

    • Please tag me in the same post… I have never written this question

    • Yes, you have- many, many times. With enough repetition and diction similarities that I have no trouble recognizing you, even behind the shield of anonymity. Find something else to fill your time.

    • Like I said send receipts. Im prob not the only one who feels this way?…. You know that right?

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  • It’s not great or important for some.
    I quit trying for a relationship over 12 years ago, I’m content.
    The act of seggs itself was revolting for me, I felt uncomfortable and violated and used. I wast able to ever find it enjoyable and each time I tried to move past that, I felt more and more violated. Every moment was scary and I needed it to be done and over with as soon as possible.


    Since not engaging in seggs or emotional intimacy, I’ve been very content in my solitude.
    Leaves walls between me and folks but that’s because my sexual greed is shut off and they hit the road looking for someone else to violate.
    I don't have to enjoy it, I don’t have to take therapy, especially while I’m content.


    Others will disagree but you aren’t alone.

    • Who hurt you?

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • Women tend to be less sexual than men, anyway virgin women tend to be valued.

    https://allthetropes.org/wiki/Nature_Adores_a_Virgin

  • fear of getting abandoned is quite realistic. so only do it with someone you know well, and after a wedding commitment, yes it is very pleasant so do not lose hope, just meet and hope to find the rare decent ones if compatible etc.

    • I was talking to a guy who I felt wanted a commuted relationship but I didn’t want one.. I only wanted to be a placeholder.. he felt I wasn’t emotionally stable. In which I’m not… I think I may struggle with borderline personality disorder… quite a few guys have mentioned it. I think I scared him away and he may have just wanted sex… he ghosted me after our date … I feel terrible about myself

  • Sex is indeed great

    • Guess I’ll never know

    • Don't be so negative

    • I got ghosted after a first date…

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  • Just hang out with friends, go to parties and you'll meet someone

  • I know exactly what you mean.

    I'm dying of loneliness over here.

    The way I see it, Sex is more than just procreation. It's a togetherness activity. A lovey-dovey soul-connecting to-do that's very special.

  • Firstly you are falling down the same rabbit hole as many virgin men. Stop putting sex on a pedestal. It’s a byproduct of a healthy romantic relationship.

    So step one, I would just start meeting more people. Friends. Maybe dates. Doesn’t matter. You’re prob like me and introverted. Thus I have to make an effort to go out and meet new people.

  • Forget about other women. Think about what is important to you. If sex is an afterthought for you, its perfectly normal

  • Wow wish you was my neighbor

  • Yes, its great and so important.

  • An unexpected case for a woman since for all time women have always been on the receiving end of sexual attention

  • Sex is great and important to me.