Is sex without a orgasm still pleasurable to you?

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For me I really enjoy having sex even if I don't orgasm. I think this is more common for women to still enjoy it without a orgasm but how do men feel about this? Have you ever not came during sex and it was still amazing?

Lliam · Accepted Answer

"In 2015, 46% of women said that they always or nearly always had an orgasm when having intercourse, with only 6% of women reporting always having an orgasm. Nearly one in six (16%) women had an orgasm approximately half of the time and 38% of women had orgasms fairly infrequently at most."

So it's obvious that a minority of women orgasm every time the have sex. But I believe that most find sex very pleasurable even if they don't orgasm. Obviously, a man wants to give his partner maximum pleasure, but it's kind of absurd for men to measure their own sexual prowess by whether or not their partner cums. To do so puts a lot of pressure on women who just enjoy sex. That pressure to "perform" might even inhibit their ability to orgasm. It might also prompt women to lie and say they orgasmed instead of being able to honestly say how much they enjoyed themselves. Sex for a woman can be a form of cuddling. They embrace their partner inside their body and feel intimately unified.

I think it's different for guys. Sex feels great no matter what. Being actually inside her snug warm, juicy, responsive body is fantastic. And, not only her vagina, but her entire body is a visual and tactile delight. Other things aside from the mere physical are at play, too. But on the few occasions when I realized that I wasn't going to cum, I felt unfulfilled, disappointed, and even a bit ashamed. I think guys are built to ejaculate when they have sex. It can happen quickly or take quite a while, but their goal is to ejaculate. I think that's why guys assume that women feel the same way.

I once extrapolated that I've came over 5000 times inside women in my life. I guarantee that the women didn't orgasm every one of those times. I only had one girlfriend who was hypersexual and orgasmic. She was one of the 6% who orgasmed easily and often.

There are times when girlfriends were cool with granting me quickies. They knew what their pussies were for, enjoyed the feeling of cock, and wanted to please me. In cases like that, it would be rare for her to orgasm, but she still enjoyed it.

When men get erect, they are aroused and ready to penetrate. But although many women find PIV sex very pleasurable, a vagina is built to be penetrated, and a woman doesn't necessarily even have to be turned on for that to happen. Theoretically, a woman can be smoking a cigarette, watching TV or texting while a guy fucks her. And consider prostitutes. So a woman can give herself to her partner, and take pleasure in the intimacy and the knowledge that he finds her irresistible. She doesn't have to cum every time she has sex. There are other ways to help her cum that don't include PIV. And guys should know that.

DaveJord · Accepted Answer

Absolutely, sex is pleasurable without orgasm... but orgasm is always preferred.

Now if you are not having sex with some one you are not emotionally or romantically involved with then orgasm is required.

Sex with out orgasm is great only when there is a romantic and emotional connection.

ShaTTeredMasterpeace · Accepted Answer

I have never cum from sex. And while there was still some pleasure there, it felt unfinished. Like I know what an orgasm feels like and I'd like to experience what it feels like to get it from sex lol.

laurieluvsit · Accepted Answer

... hope that answers your question? ... lol

VinnyMac · Answer

Sex in and of itself is amazing. Sex with or without an orgasm is still enjoyable and pleasurable. Many times I'd rather bring a woman to a orgasm rather than ejaculate. It is somewhat of a mind game with myself though, because at times if I don't cum I place an expectation on myself that I should have and wonder how she feels about it.

CuriousJC · Answer

To be honest I couldn't really tell if a woman had an orgasm are not. Me and a woman can go for hours and hours and hours until will you pass out from exhaustion. I still wouldn't be able to tell.

Guy13 · Answer

Hey, a good sweat 😓 is a good sweat. I’m assuming that was basically foreplay and my skinny-mini Queen 👸🏻 was properly serviced before end of day ⁉️

VIVANT · Answer

Uhh no that’s like my ear itches and you scratch my foot. Foot feels fine, ok but my ear still itches. If you’re gonna touch me for hours w/ no orgasm please just give me a massage. The other way is super frustrating —I rather not get worked up.

CurlyGirl42 · Answer

yeah, very much so, and lucky for that since I did not get orgasms with a partner until years after I started having sex :D..
I enjoy being highly turned on, feel skin against skin, him inside of me, all the sexual acts by themself. Getting to climax is nice but does not make sex much better to me. If I prefered the climax I'd just stick to masturbation, much more effective at that still xD

wheresmrcunnunglis · Answer

yes but if it happens consecutively with the same person then it becomes a problem and I would demand oral till i cum at least once before transitioning to penetrative sex moving forward.

weysally · Answer

that depends, sex with my husband, is great, but sometimes I like to pleasure him, so an orgasm for me doesn't matter, I am fascinated when he ejaculates, but random guys, if they can't give me an orgasm, best not try in the first place

whirled_up_girl · Answer

Yep, I still can find it pleasurable even without an orgasm. I really everyone is different though.

petitedollbabee · Answer

I don’t like orgasming everytime I have sex. Maybe 1/3 times I’ll want to.

MCheetah · Answer

Eh. Not really. It's like watching a movie without an ending. A let down, for sure.

RobT312 · Answer

Sure, it’s still fun. sometimes going at it multiple times you don’t even want to orgasm again but you crave just being intimate

lilyanony1 · Answer

I dunno I've never liked a guy enough to just let him play without making me cum.  I have to cum or the toy comes out.

Chlo3_2001 · Answer

Very, very few women seem to be able to orgasm from intercourse, but many women enjoy the intimacy and closeness it could bring with a good and understandable partner so I suppose it can still be enjoyable.

ohshee · Answer

For me my goal is to make her have the best orgasm she's ever had before in her life more than one that is my whole goal now if I can take her there and she is totally turned on and she's showing it by the way she moves what she says how she breathe she moans that turns me on I mean totally turns me on and I'm going to come but not until she does if I don't happen to come well as soon as she takes her break will go again LOL

ObscuredBeyond · Answer

Still enjoyable. But... less so. Having to finish by one's self is never as fun as finishing with someone.

integrale77 · Answer

It feels good but a little disappointing at the end as I feel I put all they effort in and then nothing.
It's rare for me to give up before I cum even usually it's down to running out of energy so can't get momentum up for thrusting. If that happens I have to resort to hand cranking the equipment.

It helps me get there if I see my girlfriend gets an orgasm or 2 before me.

VLAD76 · Answer

I like to see the woman I'm with orgasm even if I don't as just that alone is pleasurable to me knowing she is more than satisfied.

FriendlyDrugDealer · Answer

Yeah I orgasm once in awhile so of course it’s still pleasurable and fun if I don’t. It’s all about an adventure and challenging time with my lady

DevikaButts95 · Answer

Lmao I do not get off their face until I orgasmed. Lmao.
I've had a few straight girls discover for certainty they are straight, but still had to take a couple hours to finally get me off so I'd get off. I have to communicate to first time partners that I do not give freedom until I orgasm, except for a special few I'll spare if they turn out not to like it.

PhenomenalQueen · Answer

I can handle it, but after awhile I become sexually frustrated.. lol for me orgasms are necessary.

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