Is that a big red flag?

Question

I recently met this guy. We started making out and i told him that i want him to wear a condom. At first he was ignoring me but when i insisted he took one and told me he's gonna use it. He was already on top of me so i was waiting for him to wear it and then penetrate me. But he tried to get inside me without wearing it and when i told him no and tried to stopped him by pushing him away, he just did it anyways. I was really upset and disappointed but i just let it happen when i know that i shouldn't.

Reece12345 · Accepted Answer

Rape. Like he forced himself on you when you didn't want it.

Also, maybe get to know / spend a lot of time with a guy before rushing in? So you can tell if this guy likes you and not just your body?

Taking the time to hang out with you before sex is the real test for how seriously a guy feels about you and how important your feelings are to him.

So yeah, a very big red flag. Really I think you should dump him immediately and find a guy you cares about your feelings and will go at your pace. Make sure you set boundaries and never do anything you don't want to.

Bring things to a halt if a guy ever tries to force himself on you like this guy did.

boggboss · Accepted Answer

What u just described is rape what do u mean u was disappointed it still baffles me how people can describe rape and sexual abuse like oh well what are u talking about this is well past a red flag

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Big red flag and total lack of respect. Ditch him. Guys can be total assholes about that. I even had a boyfriend do that. We had been sexually active for a couple of months and one day he decided he didn’t want to use a condom anymore and just pushed inside me without it while I was asking him to stop and put one on. He just kept on going and then pulled out and let his cum out on my belly. Then had the nerve to ask me if I liked that. I broke up with him the next day.

Emilyis · Accepted Answer

So he expected sex because he just happen to have a condom in his pocket. He entered you with a fresh condom and you weren't wet enough right. That means you were not ready for sex either and he basically raped you because you said NO! Drop him now before you get in trouble with him.

summiter · Answer

What he did was rape if you said NO. It is your body and your choice. First of all dump his ass. Secondly get tested for STDs and take a pregnancy test.

SnowedIn · Answer

A huge gigantic red flag accompanied by blaring sirens and flashing red lights.  Dump. Him. Now.

tfan1 · Answer

He raped you. Any time you say no and he still penetrates you against your will he did wrong. But then you said you let him - it was against your will though.